WWED - Bachelorette Party

melntaitt

My friend A is hosting a great bachelorette party for me in 2 weeks and I've been really looking forward to it. Awhile ago I posted about a coworker and former friend who went bonkers and our friendship ended; she no longer is attending my bachelorette party so it was only me my friend A (host), P and S.

S sent me a text message yesterday informing me that she invited someone to the bachelorette party - someone I don't know but I get the impression she invited the person for her own comfort level. I don't want to be a douche about it, but my bachelorette party isn't how I want to make a first impression to this person. In any case, I didn't respond and she asked me if I was still meeting her for Tiny Taco Saturday; I told her we would meet and talk about it.

Now - what do you ladies think? I get that she isn't great friends with P and A but I don't think I want to spend my bachelorette party with some strange girl S invited along for comfort.

WWED?

precamies

yeah. I' d feel much the same way. besides this is her chance to make friends with the two other girls, she should take it!
I don't know if I would want to go out with somebody random on my mach. party. not that I'm having one, but you know what I mean.

julbgordo

My MOH hadn't met anyone prior to my shower/bachelorette party.  I think as an adult, she should be able to deal with it without having another friend tag along.

If it was me, I would be annoyed.  I see the bachelorette as a time to spend with your (the bride's) close friends - the people you wanted to stand up for you on your wedding day as well as some family members.  As you said, it's not really the time to make a first impression and try to be friendly with someone you don't know.  

I also think it's kind of odd to have someone attend the bachelorette party and not be invited to the wedding.

michellep1

I agree with PPs, it is odd that she invited her, especially without asking you if it was ok first.  It's not only bad etiquette to do that, but its bad etiquette to have someone at the bachelorette that isn't invited to the wedding in the first place!

Honestly if it were me, I'd probably let my friend know that I thought it was rude to her friend since she isn't invited to the wedding, but I'd ultimately let it go.  I'm a "the more the merrier" type of person and I think it could be an opportunity to make a friend!  It's not the girl's fault that she was invited, and she's probably only trying to be a good friend to S, so I definitely would still try to be friendly to her (not that you wouldn't).

mricher1983

I agree, she should be mature enough not to need a friend to tag along. Especially if I've never met her i'd feel weird about it as well.

My BM's have planned my bachelorette and there are two of them they've invited that are not invited to the wedding. But I have met them a few times before and don't have any problem being silly around them. They'll probably be worse than me!

Definitely talk to her about it and let her know how you feel.

peachykeen26

Meh, you'll be too drunk to care.
Honestly though, I would let it go. It would bug me too, but if its for a friend, I could get over it. However, I would go with a disclaimer: I do not normally act like this.
Who cares if you don't impress this person, you probably wont ever see them again.

But, you have to do what you are most comfortable with.

michelletobin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_wwed-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:2e17816d-a005-416c-b2bb-52585144bdb3Post:502e4f2d-d9fc-48a7-8403-bb20513a03f5">Re: WWED - Bachelorette Party</a>:
[QUOTE]Meh, you'll be too drunk to care. Honestly though, I would let it go. It would bug me too, but if its for a friend, I could get over it. However, I would go with a disclaimer: I do not normally act like this. :) Who cares if you don't impress this person, you probably wont ever see them again. But, you have to do what you are most comfortable with.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

This.  I think its best to let it go. Who knows, you may really like this person and be glad she came.  You may get a new friend out of it as well. Its a bachelorette party so I would think she would understand and not judge based off this impression. Just go out and have an amazing time! thats what its all about. When we did my sisters bachelorette party, we made friends with the whole table that was next to us and we had a blast.