TMI QOTD

DodgersBride

Stolen from my local

If you and FI were to have a threesome, would it be with another man or woman?

diamondx423

FI would never allow another guy to be involved, so I guess it would have to be a woman.

julbgordo

If it was going to happen, it'd be with another woman.  But it will most likely never happen.

michellep1

FI would never in a million years want another guy in there, but I don't think I could ever deal with another woman touching him, so it'll never happen.  I voted woman though because I think I could deal with it better than him dealing with a guy.

sleblanc72

If it were to ever happen it would be with another woman but I don't foresee it ever happening.

AshnRobo

Yeah, there is no way FI would allow another guy. But we have discussed this issue and both adamantly agree no other person male or female will ever join us in bed. Ever.

Rethany

FI would definitely not want another guy in the room. 

I think I'm too jealous for threesomes.  If that makes sense?  So it's never gonna happen.

midgetthemighty

I'm in the never happening category. Just not my cup of tea at all...one man for me, one woman for him always.

SSaltzman87

It would really come down to who exactly the person was, whether it be a man or woman.

LOTON01

I would think it would be a women. However, I think threesomes are something you do with someone you don't plan on marrying It should be like the college experience or something along those lines.

anayajami

I agree with LOTON01. It should be something you've gotten out of your system by the time your ready to be married.   But I agree it would probably be with a woman since he would be too jealous to handle a man...not that it is happening anytime soon either!

sweetcanadian1979

Neither of us have any desire to bring anyone else into our bed, male or female. Honestly my fi is different, he doesn't even pleasure himself like most men (not just saying it, he really doesn't) he thinks it's gross but loves when i do it. He has only had a couple partners and besides the fact of no desire i think there would be jealousy on both our parts, we wouldn't want to wreck our relationship.

Some people can do it no problem, however we aren't those type of people lol.

kelsey+brandon

I would never have a threesome. It's just not something that I see FI or myself ever wanting or being okay with. We're in a committed, monogamous relationship for a reason.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]I would never have a threesome. It's just not something that I see FI or myself ever wanting or being okay with. We're in a committed, monogamous relationship for a reason.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

I couldn't have said it any better myself. :)

Rethany

I see what you all are saying, but I feel like the question wasn't whether or not you'd have a threesome.  But IF that were the case, who would you let in the room.  More of a hypothetical situation.

diamondx423

ditto spiffy. i'd never do it either, but in an alternate universe it would have to be a woman.

doeie04

I would say guy, he would say girl. haha! I voted woman.

When he jokes about having a threesome, I joke that if we do it will be with another guy! He changes his mind. haha.

DrPB2b13

I agree with Spiffy and Diamond.  It's not something in our repertoire, nothing that would make our "To try" list at any point in time, but I answered as though we both went crazy and changed our minds.

DodgersBride

PPs are correct the question was meant as to IF you were to have one which would you add. I understand for most people a threesome would never occur to them just as I understand for some it would occur. To each their.

I would never have a threesome. It's just not something that I see FI or myself ever wanting or being okay with. We're in a committed, monogamous relationship for a reason.

Some people may take offense to the bolded statement. Just because couple has a threesome or considers having one doesn't make their relationship any less committed than those who do not or have not consider doing a threesome.

With that said IF a threesome were to come up between FI and myself I definitely believer we would have another women. I would not feel comfortable with another man and I am pretty sure FI would not either.

DrPB2b13

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[QUOTE]Just because couple has a threesome or considers having one doesn't make their relationship any less committed than those who do not or have not consider doing a threesome.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

I'd like to pitch in that I agree, having a threesome (or multiple ones, for that matter) doesn't make you any less committed <em>if you don't let it</em>.  That said, I didn't take that statement as meaning to imply that a nonmonogomous relationship isn't committed, but that the couple in question are committed to monogomy in <strong>their</strong> relationship.

Abeja1226

I would say a man...there's no way I could deal with FI and another girl...but like everyone else, I doubt this choice will ever come up lol.

Carrie1208

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[QUOTE]ditto spiffy. i'd never do it either, but in an alternate universe it would have to be a woman.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

This exactly. IF it were to happen it would have to be a woman.

slbinpink

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[QUOTE]I would think it would be a women. However, I think threesomes are something you do with someone you don't plan on marrying :) It should be like the college experience or something along those lines.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

This!

slbinpink

I was going to vote Woman.... but it wont let me vote  :-(

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]PPs are correct the question was meant as to IF you were to have one which would you add. I understand for most people a threesome would never occur to them just as I understand for some it would occur. To each their. I would never have a threesome. It's just not something that I see FI or myself ever wanting or being okay with. We're in a committed, monogamous relationship for a reason. Some people may take offense to the bolded statement. <strong>Just because couple has a threesome or considers having one doesn't make their relationship any less committed than those who do not or have not consider doing a threesome. </strong>
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]
Exactly. Every couple has their own things they want/don't want to do, and it's not up to anyone else how you conduct your relationship/marriage. Everyone finds what works for them and if it's something you wish to do- great! If not that's okay too.