So as some of you may know, I was previously engaged. Since that engagement ended less than a year ago, I feel obligated to have the same ladies be my bridesmaids. However, for that engagement I had 7 girls. My ex-fiance had no sisters. My current FI has one sister and only wants me to have 6 BM at most. That means I have to cut two of my friends.
So, one has moved across the country and so I am trying to get a hold of her to see if she would mind just being an "honorary BM" since she'll miss out on all the BM stuff. She's pretty cool and if I explain to her why I'm needing to cut it down she would not be hurt at all.
The other one I'm thinking of cutting is a HS friend who I've grown apart from in so many ways. She asked me to be in her WP two years ago and even then I wasn't sure why. I asked her to be in mine literally as a second pick. The problem is she is really pushing for us to stay friends and I struggle to see why. I'm trying but seriously we have strongly differing view points on life in general. When we do hang out we don't have anything to talk about. I actually feel awkward around her b/c our lives are soooo different.
All that being said, we do still have a history and I don't want to burn bridges by not asking her to be in my WP this second time. I think if there were a couple years difference I might feel different about the situation, but since it is so soon...I don't.
I've talked to one of my other BM's about it and she was agreeing with me that this could get messy.
So, I'm thinking I either have to be mean to her and cut her out or talk to FI and beg him to let me have a ginormous wedding party. He's just said from the beginning he wants it small. I don't wanna Carrie Bradshaw the wedding.
