Your stance on strip clubs

rasp.berry

Just curious on other's opinions about strip clubs. Does your opinion change if your FI visits them?

Good/Bad/Ugly?

MichelleAG05

When I was younger I would "forbid" my guy from going or from getting a lap dance.  As I've gotten older I've realized that the relationship that I want to have isn't about telling each other what we can or cannot do.

FI has been to lots of strip clubs, but not since we've been together.  His Marine buddies will definitely be taking him to one in Boston.  I've never been to one (and don't really want to go either) - so we talked about what I imagined they were like vs what they're actually like.  I shared with him the things I was worried about and he said those things would never happen.  So - I'm fine with it! 

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Your stance on strip clubs : Isn't this a little extreme? When my fiance and I have traveled to the Maya Riveria and stayed at a Spanish/European owned resort most of the women on the beaches wore thongs and a few went topless. I wore a bikini with boyshorts and my swimsuit was the least revealing. We didn't know when we booked the trip that we would be staying at a place with mostly Europeans and very few Americans so we had no clue. Americans are far more conservative and see the body as something sexual and are made to feel ashamed about their bodies
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

<div>Maybe it's a little extreme for you, but not for all. I'm one that considers porn and going to strip clubs cheating. As I mentioned a little bit earlier in this thread (and Brit did as well), it's in the intention. You went to a beach where there just happened to be topless people walking around. You didn't purposely go there to oogle them. Big difference. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm not ashamed of my body or anyone elses. </div>

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Your stance on strip clubs : Maybe it's a little extreme for you, but not for all. I'm one that considers porn and going to strip clubs cheating. As I mentioned a little bit earlier in this thread (and Brit did as well),<strong> it's in the intention</strong>. You went to a beach where there just happened to be topless people walking around. You didn't purposely go there to oogle them. Big difference.  I'm not ashamed of my body or anyone elses. 
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

I know this thread is old, but I wanted to throw in my 2 cents. I agree with the bolded statement 110%. Intent is everything. My friends and I are going to see Thunder Down Under (male strippers) in May. We're doing it purely for entertainment and laughs, not so that we can get turned on and cheat in our minds. FI is indifferent to strip clubs, he'll go with his friends (maybe twice the entire time we were together, and once I was with!), but he doesn't put money int he dancers thongs or get up close to the bar. His friends want to take him for his bachelor party, and that's fine with me. I know he's not into them. All I asked his best man is that they have no private strippers and no personal lap dances. That pushes it a little for me. As a friend, I know he will respect my wishes.

Danidawn20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Your stance on strip clubs : Maybe it's a little extreme for you, but not for all. I'm one that considers porn and going to strip clubs cheating. As I mentioned a little bit earlier in this thread (and Brit did as well), it's in the intention. You went to a beach where there just happened to be topless people walking around. You didn't purposely go there to oogle them. Big difference.  I'm not ashamed of my body or anyone elses. 
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]
 <div>I know this thread is old, but I want to throw in my 2 cent anyways. <div> I agree with Midge, Chelsea K and Britt. I consider it cheating because of the intention. Furthermore, I consider it sinful because of how I was raised: the 9th Commandment (or 10th depending on what version you use, and I don't want to start a religious debate) say, "thou should not covent thy neighbors wife" I view going to a strip club, or watching porn as coveting. </div><div>
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