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How early to send STDs

Our wedding is Memorial Day weekend next year, May 29.  Becuase it's a holiday weekend, and a lot of our guests are out of towners, how early should I send the STDs?  I was thinking early September, but I'm not sure if that's too soon.  I want to make sure people know as soon as possible, to try to pre-empt any Memorial Day plans they may have made instead...

What do you guys think?
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Re: How early to send STDs

  • edited December 2011
    This article says 9-12 months if you have lots of OOT or it's on a holiday weekend. Since you have both, I think September would be fine.

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  • edited December 2011
    I think the usual is about 6-8 months. We ended up not sending ours until about 5 months out. A lot depends on how many out of town guests you have and where they're coming from. The further away, probably the earlier to send STDs.

    Late September would be about 8 months, and it would be after back-to-school is over, so it's a pretty good time, especially for a holiday weekend.

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  • edited December 2011

    My wedding is July and I sent mine out in Nov of last year. I don't listen to guidelines. I think you should probably send them out when you're thinking because of the holiday you're having it on. Good thinking!

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  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't do it more than 10 months in advance. 8 months would be good.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm getting married on May 7th (not a holiday weekend), and I plan on sending mine out in November (6 months before wedding) in a early "Happy Holidays" type card with a STD insert.  All of FI's family is OOT, so that is why I'm doing it a little early.

    September should be fine for you, since yours is on a holiday weekend.  Just be sure you are 100% sure about your guest list, since you can't "uninvite" any one you send a STD to.
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    To be honest with you, our wedding was on a holiday and STDs made no difference in attandance percentage (meaning that the % of people who accepted without getting a STD was almost exactly the same as the % of people who accepted and did get a STD). Some people still planned vacations for that time after getting the STD--it was just the time that worked best for their family or what have you. We actually had mostly local declines and almost all the out of state people flew in. If I could do it again, I wouldn't even send STDs at all because I think whoever wants to be there will be there.

    IMO, people who book their Memorial Day plans THAT far in advance either (1) make the same plans every year (and may not choose to cancel them for your wedding) or (2) are planning a special trip and again wouldn't necessarily change the dates. I think you could let your close friends and family who you definitely want to be there know the date now (I'm sure it has probably already come up in passing anyway), but don't send official STDs until at least 8 months out. Otherwise they're just going to get put up on the fridge and forgotten about. I got one so early that I became really used to seeing it on the fridge so it doesn't even "remind' me anymore, if that makes sense.
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    edited December 2011
    i always think november/december/january is a good time frame for summer STD's because that's when people have calendars for the next year to write it down... and ditto melissa...people who care will be there, regardless if they get an STD or not....IMO, STD's are for the brides as an AW to the guests...i think word of mouth is the best STD, really.
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  • edited December 2011
    I am going to send mine around 10 months prior. We are getting married on a holiday weekend, in a small town where the hotels fill up REALLY quick and 1/2 the people are flying in.
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