So I have a bridesmaid problem, I asked my little sister to be my maid of honor (without even really thinking about it) when I first got engaged. Well she's 4 years younger then me and I'm a young bride I'm going to be 20 when I get married and my little sister 15. As MOH she is supposed to plan parties, help me plan and all that stuff. She is so young tho that even if she tires no one will really take her seriously.
I got a lot closer to my FSIL (who will be 22) when I got engaged to my FI. At first I just asked her to be one of my bridesmaid's and that she'll plan all the parties (and pay) so my little sister won't have too. But then I felt really bad because she is going to be doing all that work and only a bridesmaid so I asked her to be a MOH also. I figured I would just have two, have them both listed as MOH, FSIL can do all the parties and everything and then my little sister will just walk down with the best man and sit next to me at the reception.
Now here is my problem, I told my mom about having two MOH's and she did not like the idea (She already feels threatened by FMIL because we live so close she helps alot with the wedding). She said that my sister should be MOH and FSIL can just help her do everything that a MOH does. But then I have my FMIL and FSIL telling me I should move down my sister as a JR. MOH and FSIL just be the MOH. I dont want to do that, I asked her first, she is my sister and then only thing she's going to be doing that makes her MOH anyways is walking down with the best man. But I don't want to un-ask FSIL like my Mom wants me to do either. My sister doesn't know that she is not the only MOH yet and FSIL keeps going around telling everyone she's the only MOH and she's walking down with the best man and all that stuff.
I know this might sound silly but I really need some advice on what to do here. I don't want to take away their titles, I don't want drama and I don't want anyone to be mad or get their feelings hurt. Help!