Hi! I am having a small-ish (compared to what my parents want) wedding ceremony and reception at a restaurant situated on a river with a great outdoor ceremony space and permanent tent.The max number of guests the venue can accomodate is 150 and even that makes me nervous to get married in front of so many people. We are ordering our invitations by the end of the month and asked for my parents guest list. My mom sent me a list of 201 people she and my dad want to invite. She prefaced this list with "we did our best and B-listed 14 people!" Their guest list does not include any of my or my FI's friends, and none of his family. Basically his parents have a rough estimate of around 40 people and probably closer to 20 will come and my fiance and I are each going to invite 8-10 friends and their dates (this includes the bridal party also) Aaaahhhhh!!!! So frusterated as Nick and I are the ones getting married and I frankly (except for a few exceptions) dont care whether or not my parents' first cousins and aunts and uncles are there. Is the saying true that "She who pays says?" which would mean none of my fiance's family will be able to come and none of our friends either..... and we will be about 50 people over the max. I know this won't happen but why can't my parents cut down their guest list to a reasonable number!!