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RSVP What the heck!?

Invites went out this week! Yay!! I've been getting RSVPs back! Yay! But.. I'm completely at a loss on this one. My FI's grandma sent hers back with four other names written on the card (along with hers) and put the number of attending as 5. The invite was for her and her only, and I have no idea who the other people listed on the card are. 

What the heck!?! Who does this?! His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, but my parents are footing the bill for the wedding (so nice of them). We invited 160 people, the complete amount the chapel holds. 

Who does this!? 
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    whoa... well, I'd say FI needs to give Grandma a call to figure out who these people are. And if it was me I would probably tell Grandma that the seating is limited and her friends(?) can come  IF some other four people turn the invitation down. I guess that means B listing the four. make sure you're still polite about this one, though :) you know how grandma's can be :)
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    Who are these people? I cannot imagine my grandmothers just tacking on some extra people, that's just bizarre. Time to call up Grandma and say the unfortunately you are unable to accommodate her extra guests. 
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    have him talk with his grandmother, he knows her best.  because if there is no more space, there's no more space. 
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    It might be best if you talk with your inlaws about who these people are before you get in contact with grandma. See if they are friends, relatives, etc, and how important they are to grandma. For any other guest, I'd say call up and tell them the invite was only for her- but you might want to do something different for FI's grandma. 

    If you're willing to let them come as long as 4 other people RVSP no, I would just wait to see if you get 4 no's back. If you don't want to invite them regardless of who else is or isn't coming, I'd have FI call her and say you're at capacity for the chapel. 
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    I'd tell her you can't host them because of the capacity of the room. She shouldn't have added 4 people
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-what-the-heck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:60c1ccce-bbf8-4fbd-8902-e6ce373b4b8cPost:be077f0a-3934-47c3-a0e5-e0a0be0e6a47">Re: RSVP What the heck!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]whoa... well, <strong>I'd say FI needs to give Grandma a call to figure out who these people are. And if it was me I would probably tell Grandma that the seating is limited </strong>and her friends(?) can come  IF some other four people turn the invitation down. I guess that means B listing the four. make sure you're still polite about this one, though :) you know how grandma's can be :)
    Posted by precamies[/QUOTE]
    agree with this
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rsvp-what-the-heck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:60c1ccce-bbf8-4fbd-8902-e6ce373b4b8cPost:be077f0a-3934-47c3-a0e5-e0a0be0e6a47">Re: RSVP What the heck!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]whoa... well, I'd say FI needs to give Grandma a call to figure out who these people are. And if it was me I would probably tell Grandma that the seating is limited
    Posted by precamies[/QUOTE]

    Agreed.
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    We invited my fiance's sister and her boyfriend. She doesn't want to bring her boyfriend so she's bringing someone else and will let us know who...sigh. I'm giving up at this point.
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