XP: Invitation Time (Vent)

BluIvory82

VENT: I am so angry. So I sent my mother the invite proof and she starts fussing me out about my last name not being on the invitation. Okay after explaining that to her why is wasnt on there we moved to the next topic.

My ceremony starts at 6pm and that's what I put on the invitations. Well according to her it should have put 5:30pm. No, Im not telling adults what time they should be there for a wedding. They should know. She thinks people will walk in at 6pm. I said if they walk in at 6pm, they wont be witnessing the ceremony. I am not playing. My officiant will charge us more money if the ceremony starts late so I am not paying money so that people can stroll in whenever they want.

I tried to explain to her that if I put 5:30, that people will come earlier and that is not far to have my guests waiting.

I'm so annoyed right now. I need to calm down

chelseamb11

That does sound annoying. I'm sorry.  I'd understand if it was one person who is always notoriously late, but this is your entire guest list.  It would be rude to have them wait. You are right in this situation.

michellep1

I have to agree with PP, you're definitely right here.  I know it can be frustrating to fight over things that you think are obvious, I have this situation all the time with my mother!  Good luck and try to remain calm, if you're adamant and have a good reason for your position (which you do here) then hopefully she'll come around. 

BluIvory82

Chelseamb11, I am so frustrated. My father is saying that my mother is right and it's frustrating.I agree that it is rude.

BluIvory82

michellep1, I am trying to keep calm. I just think its so unfair. I really hope she comes around because I really dont like arguing about wedding related things with my mother. I am so ready for this to be over. Hurry up June 30th!

melntaitt

This was suggested by my family as well and I don't like it at all; I think of it this way - if I was a guest and I saw 5:30 pm on the invite, and I show up at 5:15 and the wedding starts half hour after the scheduled time, I would not be ok.

Have you ever seen Bridezillas? The one thing they all have in common is a lack of respect for people's time...

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]This was suggested by my family as well and I don't like it at all; I think of it this way - <strong>if I was a guest and I saw 5:30 pm on the invite, and I show up at 5:15 and the wedding starts half hour after the scheduled time, I would not be ok</strong>. Have you ever seen Bridezillas? The one thing they all have in common is a lack of respect for people's time...
Posted by melntaitt[/QUOTE]<div>
agree completly. </div><div>
</div><div>it is rude of your guests to not give them enough time to get to the ceremony on time. they are grown adults and should know when to get to the ceremony for a 6:00 wedding.</div>

BluIvory82

melntaitt, I totally agree.I dont agree with telling adults what time to arrive. They should know for a 6:00pm ceremony to be there in time.

BluIvory82

Ash, I agree, they should know when to arrive. It is not my place.

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: Invitation Time (Vent) : agree completly.  it is rude of your guests to not give them enough time to get to the ceremony on time. they are grown adults and should know when to get to the ceremony for a 6:00 wedding.
Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

I agree with this completely.  Maybe for the people your mom knows will be late to tell them to get there early as they cannot enter after 6 or something.  To put an earlier time on your invites than the actual start time would bother me too, like others have said.