June 2012 Weddings

etiquette question

Hey guys, I really need some advice. I previously had mentioned that we are moving away right after the wedding. However, due to some of my new visa terms, that has changed. The thing is, originally this was also the reason why we didn't want to register. But now I feel like we might as well. There sure are some things that need an upgrade at our home. But! And please be gentle yet honest with me here, because I truly don't know what is culturally accepted here.... but is it tacky to register if we are only holding a dessert reception? It will last two an a half hours, the desserts will be good and there will be lots of them, people will have a place to sit and all that. But technically it is not a traditional reception. What do you think? I feel kind of guilty making a register and not serving a proper dinner. But should I?
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  • I've never heard of any correlation between registries and reception style...I'm pretty sure people register even if they are only hosting a cake and punch reception. It's about what people want to give you, not repayment for a dinner!
  • Hmm..okay. I gues I'm just being overly careful not to offend anyone. The cultures differ so much, you know. I think seeing the tv shows has gotten me worried, because everyone on them has such high expectations.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7be033d6-be33-41dd-a67d-13d6d7207f43Post:709f52ea-d860-41dd-8c8a-a2b78621c76d">Re: etiquette question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never heard of any correlation between registries and reception style...I'm pretty sure people register even if they are only hosting a cake and punch reception. It's about what people want to give you, not repayment for a dinner!
    Posted by kipnus[/QUOTE]

    This. Just don't advertise your registries. Only inform people when they ask and put it on your wedding website if you have one.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7be033d6-be33-41dd-a67d-13d6d7207f43Post:709f52ea-d860-41dd-8c8a-a2b78621c76d">Re: etiquette question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never heard of any correlation between registries and reception style...I'm pretty sure people register even if they are only hosting a cake and punch reception. It's about what people want to give you, not repayment for a dinner!
    Posted by kipnus[/QUOTE]

    <div>Agreed.  I also agree with Jess.</div>
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  • I agree with the PPs.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7be033d6-be33-41dd-a67d-13d6d7207f43Post:45cc5ca0-ebbd-4d9c-b37c-550ab07cefa3">Re: etiquette question</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: etiquette question : This. Just don't advertise your registries. Only inform people when they ask and put it on your wedding website if you have one.
    Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto Jess.</div>
  • agree with everything that has been said.
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  • I agree with everyone else. It might help soothe your worries if you remember that no one is *required* to buy you a gift, and having a registry doesn't change that. It just gives some guidance to people who do want to buy you stuff.
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  • I agree with everyone else as well, having a registry doesn't mean people are required. Rather you serve a large dinner or not, registries are for your wedding gifts and you are getting married so I see no reason why you shouldn't have one. I say go for it!
  • I agree with the PPs
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  • i agree...do a registry, it's not going to hurt or offend anyone..it's up to your guest if they want to buy something off of it
    Mashavoo
  • Hello again everyone! Thank you for the input and opinions. I went out this week with my FSIL who is expecting and both of us started our registries. Mine is done and I think that FH who was sceptical has actually gotten a little excited. He let me pick whatever I felt like we need because he actually never wanted to register. But some of my clever picks seem to be a big hit with him hehe :
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