Virgin Diaries

LOTON01

Any one watch this on TLC? I am just watching it on the DVR now.

I know we have some virgins or at least people that are waiting until they are married on this board. What did you guys think of the show?

I couldn't imagine marrying someone who I never even kissed. Also how awkward was that kiss?

GApeachOH

While I understand that whole kissing thing, there are many many couples that court. They set guidelines and do not cross them until they are married or on their wedding day. Sometimes its just holding hands, sometimes its little kisses.

Personally, I feel that courting is a good idea. It keeps you out of temptation and out of sin.

I feel that the majority of these couples will be extremely conservative Christians, the stereotypes that everyone is used to seeing on TV and in movies. And, I could be wrong, there are other religious groups and non-religious groups that teach sexual purity before marriage.

Heck, to have that much control is impressive no matter how awkward it is on tv. Personally, I wouldn't want my virgin wedding on TV regardless of the money they gave us.

GApeachOH

And, I have to say. I do agree with midge and what she says. Entirely.

Purple&7

I saw to preview for the show, but didn't get a chance to watch it. I'm a virgin, but I've been kissed. The couples first kiss(in the preview) is extremely awkward and a little gross if you ask me.  They also make these people out to seem extremely socially awkward...which I am not! I plan on watching the next time it comes on.

SheilaDancer43

I haven't seen the actual show, but I saw the commercial for it. I agree I could never marry someone I haven't kissed! And wow, I felt awkward just watching them kiss in the commercial. It was a disaster! But, I'm sure they thought it was great, and that's all that really matters!

diamondx423

I didn't see it but I wanted to.

I also thing there is a huge difference between the virgin brides on our board, and the awkward stereotypical ones I saw on the preview.

But the no kissing thing. I could never do that. I was a kissing ho in college.

LOTON01

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_virgin-diaries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7debc097-ba5d-4226-81b5-4614b099c4a2Post:125a3dc3-3fbc-477b-9228-83fa9f5abe2a">Re: Virgin Diaries</a>:
[QUOTE]I didn't see it but I wanted to. <strong>I also thing there is a huge difference between the virgin brides on our board, and the awkward stereotypical ones I saw on the preview. </strong>But the no kissing thing. I could never do that. I was a kissing ho in college.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly. That is why i was curious as to what they thought about the show.</div>

diamondx423

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_virgin-diaries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7debc097-ba5d-4226-81b5-4614b099c4a2Post:91009069-a712-418b-a657-0cb98a9fe37d">Re: Virgin Diaries</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Virgin Diaries : Exactly. That is why i was curious as to what they thought about the show.
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

If it were me, I'd be less than thrilled about the portrayal. At least what I saw in the commercials since I missed the show.

Megbo2012

Saving a kiss for marriage is going too far, IMO.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Virgin Diaries : If it were me, I'd be less than thrilled about the portrayal. At least what I saw in the commercials since I missed the show.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

<div>This. Except I am one of the virgins on the board! :) I didn't actually watch the show but I saw the preview and that was enough for me. I mean, we've all had our first kisses and I'm willing to bet that none of them were that awkward. </div><div>
</div><div>As far as saving kissing until marriage, I've seen it done well. Not everyone's first kisses at the altar are that forced and awkward if they wait for that too. It can be very beautiful and moving. People have their reasons for doing it and they should be respected. </div>

chelseamb11

As someone who isn't a virgin but is still waiting for marriage now, the commercials almost offend me TBH.  I haven't seen the show but all the commercials do is give the impression that virgins are awkward.  I don't like that.  I know I need to watch the show before I judge it, but from what I see, they don't portray virginity in a positive light.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Virgin Diaries : As far as saving kissing until marriage, I've seen it done well. Not everyone's first kisses at the altar are that forced and awkward if they wait for that too. It can be very beautiful and moving. People have their reasons for doing it and they should be respected. 
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

<div>I just think it's very limiting.  If you decide that you will only marry someone who has never been kissed, then you are missing many opportunities of people who have kissed someone, KWIM? I mean, same is true for VTM but then you'd be limiting yourself to people with similar morals as you, whereas you could have someone with similar morals as you, who had a SO for 3 years and kissed them occasionally.  This is just my opinion.</div>

MissAmeliaPond

While this show seems really awkward and one sided, I actually do want to watch it, and am disappointed I missed it, as it seems like it already aired. But, I do have a problem with one of the girls on that appears on this show. I've only seen a preview segment of her, but she, after having 7 sexual partners, is now calling herself a "reclaimed virgin" because she's just made that decision. Do people really do this and think they can get away with it? It seems ludicrous to me.

Here's the video if you want to see:
http://tlc.discovery.com/videos/virgin-diaries-reclaimed-virgins.html

midgetthemighty

I think it's limiting too Meg, but the people that I've seen who have done this are very happy with their decision. Not many understand it but it worked for them!

57rainbows

My original plan was to save even my first kiss for marriage. I was with my first boyfriend for 16 months, never kissed on the lips. (Neck and face was a go, though!) About a year ago, I let a guy kiss me even though I wasn't super serious about him, which was also my intro to french kissing. The next guy I dated, I was only with 4 months, and by like month 2 we'd gone all the way. I said no a lot but I had other problems in my life and wasn't strong enough so I got tired of saying no. Anyway, FI and I do everything but sex essentially. I really want to save that. And my boobies are off limits which kills him and is a little bit funny.

I understand all of the points of view... I think saving something special for marriage is wise. If I could do it all again I'd do it like I'm doing with FI now.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I think it's limiting too Meg, but the people that I've seen who have done this are very happy with their decision. Not many understand it but it worked for them! :)
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

<div>I also didn't realize how "many" people did this.  It's more than I thought.  Not enough to make me understand/get it, but more than just the Duggars.  [Who did a hell of a lot of extremely intimate handholding if you ask me...] hahahah</div>

midgetthemighty

Oh the Duggars. That's a whole different topic. lol

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]Oh the Duggars. That's a whole different topic. lol
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

<div>See? This is the problem with TV. Because this is my only notion of saving a kiss til marriage.  And my opinion of the Duggars is kind of low...I'm cool with a lot that they believe/do but it's just a little...well, you know.</div>

kipnus

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[QUOTE]My original plan was to save even my first kiss for marriage. I was with my first boyfriend for 16 months, never kissed on the lips. (Neck and face was a go, though!) About a year ago, I let a guy kiss me even though I wasn't super serious about him, which was also my intro to french kissing. The next guy I dated, I was only with 4 months, and by like month 2 we'd gone all the way. I said no a lot but I had other problems in my life and wasn't strong enough so I got tired of saying no. Anyway, FI and I do everything but sex essentially. I really want to save that. And my boobies are off limits which kills him and is a little bit funny. I understand all of the points of view... I think saving something special for marriage is wise. If I could do it all again I'd do it like I'm doing with FI now.
Posted by 57rainbows[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I've had a pretty similar experience to this. My parents promised each of us kids $1000 if we waited to kiss until we were engaged (not married!). However, that didn't stop my first boyfriend and I from going all the way to third base--without kissing on the lips. Very technical. We dated for 9 months. My second boyfriend (who is still one of my best friends) and I kissed for real, but didn't go any further that. He had very strong convictions, which made it easier for me. We also dated for about 9-10 months. </div><div>
</div><div>When I met FI, I was at a point in my life where I wasn't feeling very close to God and I guess I was in the mood for rebellion. FI didn't come from a family and church that harped on the evils of premarital sex, so he didn't get the whole abstinence thing, though he somehow remained a virgin until he met me--plenty of opportunities, but some vague sense of "she's not the right one" kept him from going all the way. Five or ten years ago, I never would have dreamed of it, but we ended up having sex after dating for two months. What fills me with regret is that, though FI had sex with me knowing that he wanted to marry me, I did it, loving him, but with no real certainty that the relationship would go anywhere. I had thought each of my previous relationships would end in marriage, but they didn't. Anyway, we ended up continuing to have sex until this past September, when my conscience couldn't take it any more. I felt convicted and we decided to abstain until we're married. It's so hard, but I think it will be worth it. I wouldn't call myself a "reclaimed virgin" or anything, though. I think it's sad that the show portrays virgins in somewhat of a negative light (like the movie "40-year-old Virgin")--I really admire those who wait. I wish I had. Sorry, this got ridiculously long!

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GApeachOH

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[QUOTE]While this show seems really awkward and one sided, I actually do want to watch it, and am disappointed I missed it, as it seems like it already aired. But, I do have a problem with one of the girls on that appears on this show. I've only seen a preview segment of her, but she, after having 7 sexual partners, is now calling herself a "reclaimed virgin" because she's just made that decision. Do people really do this and think they can get away with it? It seems ludicrous to me. Here's the video if you want to see: <a href="http://tlc.discovery.com/videos/virgin-diaries-reclaimed-virgins.html" rel='nofollow'>http://tlc.discovery.com/videos/virgin-diaries-reclaimed-virgins.html</a>
Posted by ashbear720[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes, I have done it. I have done it through Christ though. And, with Christ comes forgiveness. And, I know in my heart that God has forgiven me for not saving my purity for marriage. 

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chelseakopperud

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Virgin Diaries : This. Except I am one of the virgins on the board! :) I didn't actually watch the show but I saw the preview and that was enough for me<strong>. I mean, we've all had our first kisses and I'm willing to bet that none of them were that awkward.  As far as saving kissing until marriage, I've seen it done well. Not everyone's first kisses at the altar are that forced and awkward if they wait for that too. It can be very beautiful and moving. People have their reasons for doing it and they should be respected. 
</strong>Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this.

I saw the preview for it when Ellen showed it during her show.....I thought it was a joke. I called my cousin (who works for Ellen) and she confirmed it was for real. I know people who have saved kissing for when they got engaged or married and I REALLY respect them for it. I think that kind of self control is amazing. I also think this show is really making virigins look bad. I mean seriously, do they have to use *that* kiss for the preview? I guess they just wanted to get people interested.... it didnt interest me AT ALL after seeing that kiss!!

sweet_melissa81

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[QUOTE]As someone who isn't a virgin but is still waiting for marriage now, the commercials almost offend me TBH.  I haven't seen the show but all the commercials do is give the impression that virgins are awkward.  I don't like that.  I know I need to watch the show before I judge it, but from what I see, they don't portray virginity in a positive light.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

THIS! I was a little offended too! I watched it for a little bit and thought it was offensive. They make it seem like it's wierd or something has to be wrong with people who are waiting until marriage and that's why they are still virgins. Not everyone who is waiting until they are married are strange or awkward.