Sorry but I just have to rant about a very tough situation my family is dealing with...My stepmother has been fairly hostile to me since we started planning our wedding. She and my dad are generously paying for most of it, and she seemed very happy and excited, but once we actually started planning and she realized it was not going to be a large, fancy affair, she got mad. She has since told my dad that she doesn't want to deal with it at all. None of her anger really makes sense; I asked her for her opinions repeatedly, sent her very gracious apologies, etc.
The tricky thing is that, right after we got engaged, she was diagnosed with a very advanced and serious cancer. It was totally out of the blue, and she is not feeling well physically or mentally. She also has 2 daughters that are older than I am, and neither is married, which is a cause of great grief for her as well. Obviously she is going through a terrible time and I can understand that her feelings toward my wedding could be mixed or bittersweet.
But I lost my own mother to cancer when I was 19. I thought our wedding would be a really happy thing in my family's life, but now my stepmother is terminally ill, my dad is understandably upset, and my stepmother is really mad at me.
I hate this!