June 2012 Weddings

Long Vent: MOH strange situation

I don't know what it is about wedding planning lately but I just keep having problems. Yesterday my MOH called me and told me her dress was in at David's Bridal, and that she didn't know if she would be able to pick it up within the 14 days she had to get it. I told her I would go pick it up that evening to help her out (plus I was excited to see the dress in black because the samples in the store were ivory and charcoal). I live an hour away from David's and an hour away from where my family and MOH live. I told her that today I would be in town to go flower girl dress shopping with my mom and sister, and that she could come by my mom's house to try it on when we were done. She said that was a great plan and thanked me for getting the dress.

Today when I was in town I contacted her to see when she was coming, and she kept asking me to drive 15 minutes and bring the dress to her. I was spending time with my family and had to leave early, and I really didn't feel like I should have to bring it right to her door when I drove to the store to get it for her and all she had to do is drive a little to get it. I told her she would have to drive to my mom's house or get it from me at another time.

All of a sudden she got really angry and was talking about how David's Bridal shouldn't have released the dress to me without her permission. She actually called and yelled at them (which is super embarassing). She told me I had to drive it back to David's bridal, and that if she requested it david's bridal could make me bring it back?
        
 She was acting like I was holding her dress hostage or something, even though she asked me to get it for her. I know she was excited to get the dress but it seems like she was throwing a fit because she couldn't have it today. The whole thing ended with me saying she could have the dress whenever she came to get it and that was that. I would never keep her dress from her even if she left the wedding party because she paid for her dress, I just don't have time to deliver it to her nor should I have to.

I have no idea where this is coming from and I am so hurt she is acting like this. She is my best friend but in some ways living apart has made us grow apart in some ways. I just don't know what to do. I am half way wondering if this is her way of telling me she doesn't want to do the wedding? even though she says it's not and she just wants her dress. I just need to know if I am being irrational?

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  • What? If I read that correctly it's ridiculous (please..paragraphs next time).

    Hold onto the dress and she can get it when she wants. You did her a favor. Sounds like she's  a little crazy to me.
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  • Maybe there is some other stuff going on with her...stress, depression, family/relationship issues etc. Maybe she'll realize how irrational she was being in a couple of days. 
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    [QUOTE]Maybe there is some other stuff going on with her...stress, depression, family/relationship issues etc. Maybe she'll realize how irrational she was being in a couple of days. 
    Posted by kipnus[/QUOTE]

    This.
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    @ Acaponi: Sorry about the lack of paragraphs I was just trying to get it all out, but I did add paragraphs now. I truly did think I was doing her a favor, I don't know where this went wrong.

    @ Kipnus: Maybe youre right, she can be irrational at times but this is ridiculous.

    Does anyone know if David's Bridal can do anything to me such as charge my credit card or hold up my wedding dress or anything? I assume she is just bluffing, but I want to know for sure.
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    [QUOTE]@ Acaponi: Sorry about the lack of paragraphs I was just trying to get it all out, but I did add paragraphs now. I truly did think I was doing her a favor, I don't know where this went wrong. @ Kipnus: Maybe youre right, she can be irrational at times but this is ridiculous. Does anyone know if David's Bridal can do anything to me such as charge my credit card or hold up my wedding dress or anything. I assume she is just bluffing, but I want to know for sure.
    Posted by kaitlinmainhart[/QUOTE]

    If we are getting technical she may have a point that they shouldn't have given you the dress without her permission from them. But they also have it on file somewhere that you are the bride and she is the BM in your wedding.

    I HIGHLY doubt DB could do anything to you or your dress. In this situation, they'd be at fault anyway. They aren't going to play mediator for you and your BM.

    I don't think you need to be feeling bad about anything.
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    [QUOTE]@ Acaponi: Sorry about the lack of paragraphs I was just trying to get it all out, but I did add paragraphs now. I truly did think I was doing her a favor, I don't know where this went wrong. @ Kipnus: Maybe youre right, she can be irrational at times but this is ridiculous. <strong>Does anyone know if David's Bridal can do anything to me such as charge my credit card or hold up my wedding dress or anything? I assume she is just bluffing, but I want to know for sure.</strong>
    Posted by kaitlinmainhart[/QUOTE]

    <div>No. They cannot and will not.</div>

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  • Sounds like something else is going on that is stressing her out super a lot and she is taking it out on you.  That is no justification of it but I would say since she purchased the dress she obviously wants to be in the wedding.

    Sounds like she needs to grow up a bit because 1, you did her a favor and 2, like you said you were with family and doing stuf.  She acted really silly and I really hope she calls you back soon to apoligize!!!

    Did DB ever call about holding the dress?
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  • Did she give you a reason why she wasn't able to pick it up?

    The whole thing is really odd, and for her to yell at DB after she said you could pick it up is beyond ridiculous.
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    [QUOTE]Did she give you a reason why she wasn't able to pick it up? The whole thing is really odd, and for her to yell at DB after she said you could pick it up is beyond ridiculous.
    Posted by lindseyann410[/QUOTE]


    Agreed. This whole scenario seems crazy. Sorry you're having to deal with it! Hopefully she'll come to her senses. I assume since she couldn't find ANY time in 14 days to go pick up her dress that she is insanely busy? Maybe she's crazy stressed out and tired? Who knows - weird!'
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  • I picked up and still have both of my MOH's dresses. I live the closest to DB so it was more convenient for me to pick them up for them. They know I don't intend to hold the dresses hostage or keep it from them. If you MOH is really acting this way then something else must be going on. I would give it a few days then call her to find out if everything is ok. Sound like she was being childish...
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    [QUOTE] If you MOH is really acting this way then something else must be going on. I would give it a few days then call her to find out if everything is ok. Sound like she was being childish...
    Posted by calisel[/QUOTE]

    Agreed.
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