Future children?

Kfudge0714

FI and I both only have one sibling... I have an older brother and he has an older sister. Sometimes I wish I had more siblings especially a sister because I've always admired those who have an instant best friend!

So that being said I want 4 kids! FI and my dad think I am crazy! FI says he wants only one but then says if he was a millionaire he would have as many kids as he could.... but we need to see how the first one goes LOL...

Ideally I would like a boy first and then a girl and no preferences for the other two... just want one of each. However, I would like to have a set of twins (FI's Dad is an identical twin!)

I am very big on names.... and I already have my boys names picked out haha Cameron Paul and Landon Anthony (FI's name is Paul Anthony).... we have already told FMIL and FFIL that there will be no Paul Anthony the 3rd!!! I am totally not a fan of passing down names! As for the girls we are having a hard time deciding on those!

ETA: I think we will start around 3 years after we are married. I am 24 now and FI is 29

gregamywedding

I told FI that if we had twins we would each be assigned a baby. He thought I was being funny, but I was completely serious.

[Deleted User]

I want to have my first child by age 25, so in about 3 years.  I would like at the most 3 children, but FI would prefer 2 children.  We both agreed that if we have 2 girls first, we would have a 3rd to try for a boy or if we have 2 boys we would have a 3rd to try for a girl though.  In a perfect world though, we would have 2 children, a boy first and then a girl.  I would be happy with that and not want to have a 3rd.  That would make our family complete!

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Future children? : When I was little, I wanted two sets of twins, because I had two sets for my doll house.  Purple twins and pink twins.  I think one "set" would be fun, because then I could have this: to tote them around in.  And by tote I mean run, I need a B.O.B when I have kids. haha
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
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amonis

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[QUOTE]In your perfect world where you could create your own future, what would your family look like?  How many kids?  Boys, girls, both?  Age difference between them?  Any reasons why?  <strong>If I could choose, I would like to have a boy first and then a girl, and be done</strong>.  I am the oldest in my family and have a younger brother, and Fi is the oldest of 3 boys. <strong> I think one of each is perfect, but I would like a boy first because I would like him to protect his little sister and watch out for her.  I would like them to be 2-3 years apart so it doesn't kill us financially (paying for college in the future?  AHHH!), but so that they are close enough in age where they can spend time together and have fun.</strong>
Posted by Shanee18[/QUOTE]

<div>This exactly!</div>

kipnus

We will be adopting, for a few reasons. First, I really don't feel the need to add to the world's burgeoning population. Let's figure out how to live sustainably, first. Second, there are sooooo many kids in the world today that need loving parents. In Canada alone, there are 30,000 kids waiting to be adopted. Internationally...so many! Third, the thought of pregnancy and childbirth completely freaks me out. Seriously--something living inside of me? Ew! And then exiting my body? Ouch!

I am the oldest of three biological children (two girls, one boy) and two adopted children (one boy, one girl). I feel like because our family has been through the adoption process, I have a better idea of what to expect, and I've also done a ton of reading and research on grief and attachment. I think God is sort of preparing me and FI for being adoptive parents--to 3-5 kids, or however many God wants us to have. I would sort of like a girl first, but it's not a big deal. Some boys and some girls would be nice.

The way my family happened was that us three biological kids were 2 1/2 to 3 years apart (carefully planned) and then my adopted bro is 5 years younger than my youngest bio sib, and my adopted sis is 3 years younger than him. I like the way it worked out, because while all of us bio kids are in college and finding jobs in the real world, Mom and Dad still have two kids at home. And they get a little break from paying for college. When we have our kids, they'll be ready to babysit!

jsbs

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[QUOTE] And as a side note to the in a perfect world where  you would create your children...I have no answer to that. <strong>BUT our friends have decided that if she's going to conceive a baby next year it's going to be on the 50 yard line at the Georgia Dome after our home opener next year.
</strong>Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

Pahahaha! Too funny! Definite points for creativity!


For us, we want 3 or 4 children. We'll probably start TTC after we've been married a year. I'd love to have 2 boys and a girl.

KrisKenny

I just laugh about this conversation, but only because I am DONE having babies.

My son is 10.
FI's children are as follows: 8, 11, 12, 17, 19, 20, 21, and oh, he's also the grandfather with a 2 yr old grandson.

We have is youngest 3 every other weekend and one day a week. And, this MAY be changing due to the fact that his ex is a stupid **^&^&* person (I posted about the situation a while back). His 17 yr old son will be in the wedding with the youngest 3 and my son. His 19 yr old daughter is stuborn just like him so they are not on the greatest speaking terms right now. Some day, they will get over it and he'll be able to see his grandson (he has yet to do that). And the oldest 2 girls he doesn't have a relationship at all

I think we have enough to handle as it is!

Shanee18

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Future children? : My parents still have our triplet stroller :)
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

<div>Too cute.  Katelyn, which one are you?  Smiley, sleepy or distracted?</div><div>
</div><div>Kris: It definitely sounds like you have your hands full with all of those kids already!!!</div>

julbgordo

I would like 1 boy and 1 girl.  It doesn't matter to me which one comes first.  I think a three year gap would work well for us.  If we end up with two boys we've discussed adopting a girl.  I really want a girl.  LOL.

Megbo2012

Kipnus, FI and I have considered adopting.  Did your parents adopt your siblings as babies?

L&J2012

We have it pretty well figured out, along with kid names.

We'd like our first one born in early 2014 or 2015, and preferably a boy. Then we'd wait a year or so before trying again, and hopefully have either a girl or another boy. Again, we'll wait a year or two and if we already have a girl and a boy we're hoping for another boy. If we have two boys FI doesn't care but I'd like a girl. If we don't have 2 boys after number 3 FI wants to try again. He's the last one left to carry on his name here in the US so he wants to make sure he does haha.

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Future children? : Too cute.  Katelyn, which one are you?  Smiley, sleepy or distracted? Kris: It definitely sounds like you have your hands full with all of those kids already!!!
Posted by Shanee18[/QUOTE]
I'm the middle one haha

niecie_jeff

FI and I have talked about this a lot. If we could, we would have twins, boy and girl and be done. If not though, we will have FI's daughter, then a son then about 2-3 years later another girl.

SheilaDancer43

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[QUOTE]In your perfect world where you could create your own future, what would your family look like?  How many kids?  Boys, girls, both?  Age difference between them?  Any reasons why?  If I could choose, I would like to have a boy first and then a girl, and be done.  I am the oldest in my family and have a younger brother, and Fi is the oldest of 3 boys.  I think one of each is perfect, but I would like a boy first because I would like him to protect his little sister and watch out for her.  I would like them to be 2-3 years apart so it doesn't kill us financially (paying for college in the future?  AHHH!), but so that they are close enough in age where they can spend time together and have fun.
Posted by Shanee18[/QUOTE]

Your answer is pretty much identical to mine. We want 2, one of each, and we want the boy first. We want the girl to have an older brother, to look after her. Hopefully they will be about 2 years apart because we want them to have a close relationship. If we don't have any boys in the first 2 kids, we will try again, and go up to 4 (but no more) because we both really want a boy.

courtneyclare103

We'd like to have three kids (FI only wanted two when we first started talking about kids, but then came around to my side). I'd like to have two girls first and then a boy, all two years apart from each other. I'll be 27 when we get married and would like to have our first child when I'm 29, so in an ideal world I would be 29, 31, and 33 when I have them. I definitely want at least one girl, so I would (with FI's agreement, of course) be willing to try for a fourth/adopt a fourth if we had three boys first.

57rainbows

... is it weird that we already named our future children? lol! It started with one and we ended up with a perfect four. Apparently, we're going to have ffour children in the following order:

Boy - Allen Joseph

Girl - Vanessa Leigh

Girl - Melodie Jayne

Boy - Gregory Allen, III

Allen is my mother's maiden name and I feel very close ties to her side of the family. Surprisingly, it's also the middle name of FI and his father; they're both Gregory Allen. I wanted to use that name as a first name to honor my mom's side, and he also wanted a Gregory Allen, III, so we're doing a bit of each.

Joseph is my nephew's middle name, so that's where that comes from.

Vanessa means butterfly which is our wedding theme and also my dog is a papillon which also means butterfly.

Leigh is FMIL's middle name.

Melodie, because FI's family is musical, my mom thinks "Mollie and Melodie" is adorable (I'm Mollie btw!), and the ie ending on names is traditional in my family.

Jayne, after my sister's middle name.

And I already explained Gregory Allen III. (-:

I don't know that we'll want all four, but in our heads that's the order they'll happen in and we'll just work our way down the line until we decide we've had enough. lol! The one thing we disagree on is that I'm nervous about having kids before he's out of the military because I don't want to rise them myself, while he wants to start TTC as soon as he gets back from the first deployment whether he stays in the military or not. However, I'm willing to compromise, knowing I have my mom and sister's families to fall back on when it gets hard.

khafner2

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[QUOTE]We only want two. FI doesn't want any girls only boys. I would be good with whatever. I am somewhat terrified to have kids. Identical twins run in my family. My mom is a twin and her twin had twins and my mom has twin cousins. I can't imagine having two babies at one time. So far no one else in the family has had twins and everyone is pretty much done having kids but me. I am hoping it skips me.
Posted by gregamywedding[/QUOTE]

We were hoping twins would skip our generation too, but I had identical twin boys almost 3 years ago and it is an amazing experience.  They are terrible mess makers (2 brains are definately better than one) but are the best of friends.  It is so amazing to see their bond, hopefully you've been able to see what I'm talking about with your family.  The only scary thing about having twins is the pregnancy and all the complications that come along with it.  FI just told me the other night that he knows we can get through anything that we made it through the first 2 1/2 yrs with the boys!

MIZCNEL

 Ok here it goes lol as my FI and I talk about this all the time. From the time that we met we knew that we both wanted to have 4 kids of our own and adopt 1 considering that I already have a 7 year old daughter from a previous 13 year relationship we decided to revamp our plan so we want 3 together and adopt 1. We aren't spring chickens me -29 FI-36 at time of wedding I'll turn 30 a month after we marry so we would like to start as soon as we leave the reception lol or on HM. I would like to have all 3 of our kids 2 years apart and when our 4th child is 2 we would like to start the adoption process.  

doeie04

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[QUOTE]We will be adopting, for a few reasons. First, I really don't feel the need to add to the world's burgeoning population. Let's figure out how to live sustainably, first. Second, there are sooooo many kids in the world today that need loving parents. In Canada alone, there are 30,000 kids waiting to be adopted. Internationally...so many! <strong>Third, the thought of pregnancy and childbirth completely freaks me out. Seriously--something living inside of me? Ew! And then exiting my body? Ouch!</strong> I am the oldest of three biological children (two girls, one boy) and two adopted children (one boy, one girl). I feel like because our family has been through the adoption process, I have a better idea of what to expect, and I've also done a ton of reading and research on grief and attachment. I think God is sort of preparing me and FI for being adoptive parents--to 3-5 kids, or however many God wants us to have. I would sort of like a girl first, but it's not a big deal. Some boys and some girls would be nice. The way my family happened was that us three biological kids were 2 1/2 to 3 years apart (carefully planned) and then my adopted bro is 5 years younger than my youngest bio sib, and my adopted sis is 3 years younger than him. I like the way it worked out, because while all of us bio kids are in college and finding jobs in the real world, Mom and Dad still have two kids at home. And they get a little break from paying for college. :) When we have our kids, they'll be ready to babysit!
Posted by kipnus[/QUOTE]

I have a friend that thought the same thing. She called them parasites! haha. One day it just clicked in her brain, and suddenly she wanted kids. She has one daughter and they really want another child soon. Not saying that it will happen for you or that it should, just mentioning that it might. :D

I think adoption is a great idea. You are right, there are so many kids out there waiting for families. :(

doeie04

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[QUOTE]I would like 1 boy and 1 girl.  It doesn't matter to me which one comes first.  I think a three year gap would work well for us.  If we end up with two boys we've discussed adopting a girl. <strong> I really want a girl.  LOL.
</strong>Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]

I really want a girl too. I told FI we aren't stopping until we get my girl. haha.

doeie04

W don't really have a plan. I would like four children, FI only wants two. (He admitted in our counciling session that he would like more but is worried about the financial side of it.) We have agreed on three. I don't care what order they are in or how many of each. I really want a girl!!!!

I used to want twins, but after his cousin having hers at 24 weeks (they made it and are going great!) it made me think about the complications that go along with it. I am tiny, 5'2", and the Johnson's have 10 pounders on average. I think twins are great and would love to raise them, but I am no longer wishing for them. (If that makes sense)

I will be 27 when we have our first baby, at the youngest, so I don't want them too far apart. Complications go up after 30, so I don't want to be lingering longer than we need to.

I have always wanted at least one kid when I was 24, that didn't happen, and I have been waiting years. One reason we are not waiting after the wedding. I have been waiting long enough. :P

Cassandra999

We want 2, not more than that.  This is coming from a financial/practical side of things.  We want to wait as long as possible but before I'm 35 (worried about the increase in complications) so it will be 7-8 years.