NWR: Toxic People

melntaitt

I have had to acknowledge that there were two very toxic people in my life that I had to get rid of; I won't pretend that it was easy, but it had to be done.

Have you ever had to nix the toxicity out of your life?

How did you do it?

Megbo2012

Trimming the fat can be a healthy practice. 

peachykeen26

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[QUOTE]Trimming the fat can be a healthy practice. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Bah hahaha. This made my morning.

LiveLaughLove04

Agreed with Jul and Meg, I've left a lot of people behind in my life.  Would I go back and change my life, absolutely not but I've moved on and have enjoyed not carrying the drama with me.

HarperBargo

I have had to cut drama queens out of my life. I have known several girls that just enjoy drama and starting fights and what not. I just didn't want to put up with it all. I also had a close friend that her whole life was miserable. Nothing was ever good enough and she could find the bad in everything. Every time I hung out or talked to her I would be depressed and down. I just cut communication with them.

brittneyh4

I've cut out a lot of toxic people from my life. I didn't lead a great life before and had really bad friends, and when I decided to be a better person, I ended up leaving all the others behind. I also cut out my mother, I haven't had a real relationship with her in about 11 years.
I cut out my best friend of 9 years (who was also a bridesmaid). I knew it was a friendship ending move, but I couldn't handle her anymore. She was spiteful and angry about everything, and too judgy. It was one of the hardest things I've had to do, since we went through hell and back together it seemed, but she just isn't a good person, and when that spilled over and meddled in my own life, I had to decide what was more important - my sanity and relationship with FI, or my friendship with her.

HilareyL

Yes and I've been thinking of it a lot lately... My most toxic relationship was with my best/oldest childhood friend.  Since I can remember we had always promised to be each others' MOH.  However during college she became severly depressed and started really abusing alcohol, often with prescription drugs.  She was constantly crying, depending on me to fix things for her and NEVER even asked what was going on in my life.  She couldn't keep a job and her parents were basically just supporting her.  She depleted their retirement fund and her dad is still workin at 72.  Last year i just decided I couldn't be her friend anymore after she called me 6x per day at work when I had asked her not to.  I realized she needed help and didn't respect me.  Another friend and I told her parents to find her help and then I cut her off completely.  Blocked her phone number, FB, email, etc...  I do feel really bad about it but I can't handle her problems anymore.  I've been having nightmares about her "crashing" my wedding because it's in our home town (where she still lives) and people talk.  I'm obviously not inviting her or her family.  

Honestly I think it's for the best.

michelletobin

yes I have, and my BM choice was really hard with my best friend and some of my very close friends. I chose mostly all family and my best friend even though we had not been close for about 2 yrs. She went through a divorce and kinda went wild with going to the bars and many one night stands. We work at the same place (a prison) where there are several males and many of them cheat, female and male alike. marriages are destroyed and she began having affairs with married men here at work. At first I tried to be nice and tell her that she wouldn't like it if it was her being cheated on because she has been there, but she always has an excuse for her actions. She is with another married guy who is getting a divorce. I love my friend dearly but I don't agree with her actions. She is still my BM and she has been great, but I do worry that the future may call for some distance because I am starting a marriage and I can't be objective to that.