Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
June 2012 Weddings
Flowers to Mary - Catholic Wedding
I know there are a few Catholic brides on here, so I figured I'd ask (plus on the Catholic board they'd probably flame me).
Is anyone doing Flowers to Mary? I'd never heard of it until we met at the church today to discuss our ceremony and the deacon suggested it. I'm not 100% sure of the purpose, and my first thought "I don't want to spend any more money on flowers", but I told him that we'd consider it. So, if you're doing it, why? And likewise, why not?
Is anyone doing Flowers to Mary? I'd never heard of it until we met at the church today to discuss our ceremony and the deacon suggested it. I'm not 100% sure of the purpose, and my first thought "I don't want to spend any more money on flowers", but I told him that we'd consider it. So, if you're doing it, why? And likewise, why not?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Flowers to Mary - Catholic Wedding
[QUOTE]What is this? You just donate flowers?
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
It was explained to me that you bring flowers to the statue of Mary and say a prayer, I think after the exchanging of rings. They sing Ave Maria. Catholics are big on Mary, so from what I was told today it symbolizes the hope in living in the likeness of Mary and the "model family". But, I could be wrong, since I just heard about it this afternoon.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flowers to Mary - Catholic Wedding : It was explained to me that you bring flowers to the statue of Mary and say a prayer, I think after the exchanging of rings. They sing Ave Maria. Catholics are big on Mary, so from what I was told today it symbolizes the hope in living in the likeness of Mary and the "model family". But, I could be wrong, since I just heard about it this afternoon.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]
This is right. People will bring flowers to Mary. It's usually the bride who does most of the praying.. her husband is more escorting her (but also praying FOR her)... Mary represents the perfect spouse and mother that one should attain to be, so one prays to her for guidance and strenght. Some people will ALSO go to the statue of Joseph because he represents the strength and commitment of a husband.
We're doing just to Mary, and FI's cousin is singing Ave Maria (she's WONDERFUL).
Teachery Blog
I think I have only seen it at about half of the Catholic weddings that I have attended, most of which being my family.
And in case the Deacon did not explain, it is not actually a part of the Rite of Marriage. So it is not like you would be skipping over a part of the sacrament if you guys make the decision to not do it.
Gathering and Entrance Rite
Prelude
Processional
Brides Processional
Opening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word
First Reading
Responsorial Psalm
Second Reading
Gospel Acclamation
Gospel Reading
Homily
Rite of Marriage
Statement of Intentions
Consent and Exchange of Vows
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
Unity Candle
Prayer of the Faithful
Sign of Peace
Nuptial Blessing
Concluding Rite
The Lord’s Prayer
Final Blessing
Recessional
When I find them, I'll let you know. Perhaps try looking on www.catholicweddinghelp.com. I'm off to find the programs!
If Chels or someone else is not sure, can you just give your Deacon a call or email him?
[QUOTE]Okay, potential apocalypse averted. I looked and I forgot to list it on my programs. I cannot find anywhere that says when it is done for sure. If Chels or someone else is not sure, can you just give your Deacon a call or email him?
Posted by Tiffany6912[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I can ask him, I just am still not 100% sold on it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flowers to Mary - Catholic Wedding : Yeah, I can ask him, I just am still not 100% sold on it.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]
For what my opinion is worth..
I have to imagine that it would not take away from anything if you did not do it, because you were unaware of it before and it does not sound like you were absolutely touched in an "omg have to do it" way.
So, would it add meaning to the ceremony for you and FI if you did it? If you do not think so, then you probably shouldn't. There is no point in going through the motions of it if the two of you will not necessarily get anything out of it when it is not actually a part of the Rite.
Probably something to work out with your musicians and/or your priest.
Although reading this made me go back and look at the program to make sure that I put it in there!
Teachery Blog
[QUOTE]I grew up Catholic and most of the weddings I've been to have been Catholic, but I've never seen it done. If you dont want to do it, than don't. The wedding I went to last night was catholic and they had a small floral piece at the statue of Mary, but they didnt incorporate that into the ceremony.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]
I've never even heard of it to be honest. No one at my church has suggested it, and neither has my florist, who is also Catholic. I agree with PPs though that you should do it if it will add meaning to the ceremony to you, if not, then don't!
I'm not planning to do it. It's not conveniently located in the church, and like you, I'm not really sure of the purpose. I'm trying to cut out doing things in this wedding that aren't meaningful to us.
I am a florist and a Catholic, so all my brides who get married in the Church get a little posy for Mary from me. I love tradition and I love ritual, so it's more for me than the bride!
www.edensbower.com