I should be happy.....

Danidawn20

Hi Ladies!

 I graduated college today! YAY! 

But, I had a friend over and her boyfriend. Fi wanted to make us dinner last night. I spent all day yesterday cleaning my apartment that fi helped make dirty. (It's hard for me to keep up with things while I student teach, and Fi told me he would help me, but he doesn't) Well, he made a very nice dinner for all of us. He said he would clean it up (somehow, I thought he would actually do it because my parents were coming) Anyways long story short, he didn't clean the kitchen. So now,after having to be up early for graduation, and then entain family and friends, plus finish up some lesson plans, I am cleaning my kitchen while FI sleeps. 

I am exhuasted. I want to cry form how tired I am and how much still needs to be done. I have talked to FI befire about how he needs to help me clean, especially when he is the main contributor to the mess. It's unfair that  he gets leave from deployment, stays with me and turns my nice little apartment into something that looks like a tornado went through. 

I don't think I have naything else left to say, this is just a vent about my FI.

Pixieliddle23

I completely understand how you feel!  My fiance is such a pain when it comes to trying to keep our place clean or when trying to get him to help clean.  He will have his clothes laying all over the floor and will not just put them away or in the laundry basket.  It's so frustrating!  Whenever he makes anything in the kitchen I'll go in there later and everything he used is just laying out on the counters.  It's like he just waits for me to go in and clean it up.  I really don't ask him to clean much, the most I really ask him to do is just take out the trash and recycling but he lets it pile up so much and gets annoyed at me when I get frustrated because he won't take it out!

Shanee18

Hmmm, Fi and I have an agreement that one of us will cook the dinner and the other cleans the mess, so I'm no help with that one.  However, I do understand that it can be frustrating when they don't pick up around the house.  We made a deal that every Saturday is our cleaning day.  I would sit down with your Fi and talk about how you feel being responsible for everything and try to figure out a plan that works for both of you!  Good luck!

drewmw

First, congrats on graduating!!

I'm sorry that your FI is being that way. Mine is a clean freak, so I never have that problem lol. I agree with Shanee, maybe come up with some kind of system to help dictate who cleans when?

L&J2012

Congrats on graduating! I'm actually the one who makes a mess of the apartment, but it's never that bad of a mess and I always clean it up within a day or two. FI and I also have an agreement that I cook and he washes the dishes off (I actually do the dishes when it comes time to actually clean them). I'd suggest talking to your FI again and letting him know that he's not pulling his weight and that it's upsetting you. Good luck!

kaitlyn142

Congrats on graduating!

I'm no help getting your FI to clean. Mine is allergic to it, or something. He claims he just doesn't think about it. I'm not sure how he can miss the dust bunnies the size of our cat.

jfellows82

Congratulations on your graduation!  Men can be annoying that way... We have a deal that I cook and he does the dishes (90% of the time).  Once we set up clear boundaries of who was responsible for which chores and when, we had way less fights/frustrations over cleaning.  Good luck!

MMRoberts11

Congrats on graduating!

My FI and I set up a deal when we first moved in together to help.  Whoever cooks dinner doesn't have to clean up.  If we are not eating together the person who cooks has to clean up the mess, and if we are eating over 2 meals together we rotate (one cooks breakfast, the other dinner, and the person not cooking at the meal cleans up).  It really helps keep down on what stays messy.  Can you set up a deal like that with your FI?

HarperBargo

I agree with PP. Try coming up with some kind of schedule. Both FI and I are bad at cleaning but it helps when everything is evenly divided.

misstomrstodr

My FH's excuse is that he will clean up...I just want it done a lot sooner than he is going to do it. it's such a load of bull....if the sink is full of dishes at 6 PM after supper, and I'm asking for them to be put in the dishwasher by midnight....I don't think that's too much to ask. he does the same thing with clothes....we got one of those industrial hampers that separates - whites, darks, colors- so we could just do our wash together. yet he doesn't put it in the hamper and mixes everything up lol.... sounds like I'm making much ado about nothing but it just makes more work for me. And that's super frustrating.... right now is finals time for me and I'm working as well .... my guy just finished up his semester and is unemployed right now, so I'm like...hello??? lol
Sorry you didn't get to enjoy your special day though.... you so deserve a spa day or some equivalent to make up for it lol

midgetthemighty

Congratulations on your graduation!

Sorry your FI is being a tad difficult, but I can totally relate. My FI lives by himself right now and you can totally tell. He wants to be able to have my cousin over while he's home between now and January 4th, so I'm really hoping he'll get it super clean and it will stay that way.

When I do go over for dinner, FI normally cooks but we both help clean up the dishes and everything. Me more so than him, since he cooked. Maybe you could try that? The other ideas sounded worthwhile as well.

Danidawn20

I'll try some of yout tips ladies and see if it works.