Anyone else ready to kill their FMIL?

Lambbop

I can't be the only one. I just need to vent!!

Yesterday she called me to ask if I could make HER hair appointment for the morning of the wedding and also schedule her a practice hairdo for this weekend since she will be in town for the bridal shower. ....I did it... but shouldn't she realize I'm kind of busy getting married?
It's called the yellow pages!

chelseakopperud

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[QUOTE]I can't be the only one. I just need to vent!! Yesterday she called me to ask if I could make HER hair appointment for the morning of the wedding and also schedule her a practice hairdo for this weekend since she will be in town for the bridal shower. ....I did it... but shouldn't she realize I'm kind of busy getting married? It's called the yellow pages!
Posted by Lambbop[/QUOTE]

Maybe she wants to have her hair appointment at the same place and time as you are getting your hair done? I made my mom's and FMIL's hair appts.

Danidawn20

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[QUOTE]I can't be the only one. I just need to vent!! Yesterday she called me to ask if I could make HER hair appointment for the morning of the wedding and also schedule her a practice hairdo for this weekend since she will be in town for the bridal shower. ....I did it... but shouldn't she realize I'm kind of busy getting married? It's called the yellow pages!
Posted by Lambbop[/QUOTE]

<div> I can see that you are upset, but maybe she watned to do everything at the same place as you to spend time with you. </div>

acaponi87

Every week and a half or so.

I love mine and she has been very helpful but she is just wayyyyy more detail orientated than I am and sometimes it drives me bonkers.

melfacto

When I made my appointment, I called my mother and FMIL as well as all my girls, to see whom wanted to come with me for hair appointments - so I could book them all at once, so the salon knows how many stylists they will need in However, I love my FMIL, she is also my god mother, we also talk as much as I do with my own mother, so blessed

futuremrsbecerra

Its not my FMIL but my FSIL that i'm about to kill. everyday she texts me about something else that  a normal guest would never be worrying about. She is the only one that is making me stressed. I haven't been stressed about the planning or getting everything for the wedding together but just her texts are stressing me out. I now have gotten really short with my replies just so she doesn't drag the texts out.

Zimsgirl

She's a big girl. She should've made her own. She could've asked where you were going but she shouldn't have asked you to make the appt

peachykeen26

Eh. Let it go. It's just stress that is driving you nuts.

I am very blessed with FMIL. She is controlling, but knows when to back off.

HilareyL

Have not gotten one call from FMIL to do ANYTHING- no shower, no help with the wedding, not interested in going dress shopping, not planning or paying for the rehersal dinner.  She asked FI what she should wear and I said whatever she wants.  That is the extent of it.  I'm very dissapointed at the lack of interest from FI's family in general.  His brother and his family are the only ones that haven't RSVPed as well.

Lambbop

I understand she wants to spend time with me. She is just super intense and stresses me out about these little details. Has anyone else ever heard of a practice hairdo for the MOG? I thought that was really odd.

I didn't think I needed to ask her about an appointment since my mom is doing her own hair and I've never known FMIL to have her hair done or put a stitch of make-up on in the 3+ years I've known her. Including for her own daughter's wedding.

I couldn't book her a seat at the same salon because I'm getting my hair done by one hairdresser (the woman I've gone to for 15 years) who is doing my hair and the 3 bridesmaids hair at her own salon (no other hairdressers). So 1 woman, 4 heads of hair.
 
I made her an appointment somewhere else that will be close to her hotel so I just hope she'll be okay with it.

janeash

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[QUOTE]In Response to Anyone else ready to kill their FMIL? : Maybe she wants to have her hair appointment at the same place and time as you are getting your hair done? I made my mom's and FMIL's hair appts.
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

<div>So did I....as well as FI's nana and my FSIL......</div><div>
ETA: that being said....yes, I get quite annoyed with FI's side at times.  It's kinda like pulling teeth to get things done with them sometimes.....</div>

chelseakopperud

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[QUOTE]I understand she wants to spend time with me. She is just super intense and stresses me out about these little details. Has anyone else ever heard of a practice hairdo for the MOG? I thought that was really odd. I didn't think I needed to ask her about an appointment since my mom is doing her own hair and I've never known FMIL to have her hair done or put a stitch of make-up on in the 3+ years I've known her. Including for her own daughter's wedding. I couldn't book her a seat at the same salon because I'm getting my hair done by one hairdresser (the woman I've gone to for 15 years) who is doing my hair and the 3 bridesmaids hair at her own salon (no other hairdressers). So 1 woman, 4 heads of hair.   I made her an appointment somewhere else that will be close to her hotel so I just hope she'll be okay with it.
Posted by Lambbop[/QUOTE]

I dont think its weird that she wants a trial, especially if she normally doenst do this kind of thing. My mom got a trial and no one thought that was weird.

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Anyone else ready to kill their FMIL? : Maybe she wants to have her hair appointment at the same place and time as you are getting your hair done? I made my mom's and FMIL's hair appts.
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]
agree with this. FMIL will be getting ready with us when we get our hair done. I know how blessed I am to get along great with my FMIL.

Shelly527IN

Nope, I'm very blessed to have a great FMIL and FFIL! 

Lambbop

You guys are lucky.
 
I wish I wanted my FMIL around.... instead I dread when she's around me because of how intense she is and how wrapped up in details she gets. It totally stresses me out. ...I can answer the same question multiple times and still not give her enough detail. My FI doesn't answer the phone when she calls anymore because she does the same to him... and he (like most men) rarely pays attention to the details.

Thanks for letting me vent. I need to manage to be around her for 3 days this weekend and I already feel like I'm going to snap. Well maybe I already have... it is pretty dumb to be so annoyed by making her a hair appointment.

rasp.berry

I wouldn't say I'm ready to kill my FMIL, but I do have a beef that is NWR.

She lives approximately 1 hour away from us and our children. She never makes any kind of effort to come and visit her son or her grandkids. She's low income, so I understand it's not like she can come whenever the mood strikes, but at the same time, I feel like she makes visits with us low priority. She'll come to a nearby city (20 minutes from us) to go shopping and doesn't even tell us so we could have the option of meeting her there to ease the burden. We go and visit her as often as we can, but we find the gas to be expensive as well so we only make it down maybe once every month and a half. Also, FI travels all the time for work (he's a truck driver) and I work FT during the week and go to school PT on the weekends, so it's hard to get us all together at the same time to make the day trip. Then, she complains she never sees the kids as if it's our fault.

It makes me sad for FI and our children

HarperBargo

I'm sorry you feel that way. I know adjusting to a new family with new and different personalities can be rough.

Unfortantely my FMIL is no longer with us. But my future in-laws can sometimes get on nerves a tad bit. For the most part I get along great with my FFIL and FBIL. They are a great family and in a lot ways remind me of mine. Wedding wise they have been great. But some things NWR can rub me the wrong way. For instance we went to Orlando to visit them for Thanksgiving all I heard about was how we need to have babies right away from FBIL and FSIL (expecting their first baby in June). That way our children can grow up together. They know that we are waiting for several years before children. Yet they keep pushing us and going over the top with it. It gets really annoying.

bandjwedding2012

I adore my FMIL but she drives me crazy at the sametime. Her and my mother don't get along. They fight over me like a toy and it's really annoying. My FMIL is all about detail and I'm not really but I'm trying cause it makes her happy. But seriously she brings up the most random things to ask me about and then expects an answer right then and there. She is a very up front person and has no filter on her. It's hard to get use to even after five years. Normally though I adore her and think I'm pretty lucky to have her around as well.

diamondx423

How come your FMILs are getting ready with you? They don't want to be with their son? I wouldn't want FMIL anywhere near me getting ready (because she drives me crazy) but I didn't even occur to me she'd be anywhere than with her son.

And to answer the question, I took a xanex before my shower because seeing her was giving me serious anxiety. There's always a dig, even if its said "sweetly" when she's on her "best behavior"

egeurts

My FFIL called the other day and told us that our invitation sounded like my parents were the ones getting married because it said "Mr and Mrs Parent request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Erica to Shawn" ... How on earth does that sound like my parents are the ones getting married? 

I swear sometimes that man does not know how to read. 

mbishop7

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[QUOTE]You guys are lucky.   I wish I wanted my FMIL around.... instead I dread when she's around me because of how intense she is and how wrapped up in details she gets. It totally stresses me out. ...I can answer the same question multiple times and still not give her enough detail. My FI doesn't answer the phone when she calls anymore because she does the same to him... and he (like most men) rarely pays attention to the details. Thanks for letting me vent. I need to manage to be around her for 3 days this weekend and I already feel like I'm going to snap. Well maybe I already have... it is pretty dumb to be so annoyed by making her a hair appointment.
Posted by Lambbop[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>THIS. My FMIL is also insane. She asks the same question over and over. I had to call the rehearsal dinner venue and tell them the menu because she just couldn't understand that they have "packages" and we have to get like 50 "packages" of burgers to feed our 50 guests. How hard is that to figure out?! </div><div>
</div><div>I also had to make her hair appointment at the same place everyone else is getting theirs done at. She's how old!? Make your own damn appointment!

</div>

Lambbop

So after all that she called me tonight to let me know that her daughter is going to ask around and find somewhere else for her to get her hair done.

WHY EVEN ASK ME THEN?!!!?

kathleenkmm

I asked mine to call three of her friends who haven't RSVPed yet. She called one of their relatives who HAD RSVPed and then told me she didn't know why I said they hadn't.