Talk me down from the bridezilla cliff!

Turtle&Star

Ok, I've got nine days to go (eee!) and I'm starting to get real twitchy. I'm excited that the details are all falling into place, but there's still so much left to deal with, and I'm finding that the littlest thing sets me off (relatives appear out of the woodwork to say "yes, of course we're all going to be there - did we forget to send in our RSVPs?" There's suddenly an extra $20 charge tacked onto my favors. Etc.) I end up snipping at FI or at my mom or my awesome sister who's doing all sorts of running around for me. I just feel like I don't have any buffer that would allow me to receive small irritations and respond to them CALMLY.

Any tips for how to maintain sanity in this last week and a half? I know that it's gonna get worse before it gets better, and I don't want to have some kind of meltdown at the rehearsal dinner...

peachykeen26

Step back and take a deep breath before you respond to ANYTHING!
Otherwise, a bubble bath.

cwill6212

Take a day off. Don't do anything wedding related. At all. Pamper yourself with a mani and pedi and have a date night with your man (but remember, no wedding talk!) It will do wonders for you!!

acaponi87

I'm also 9 days out.

At this point, wine.
I was way worse last week though.

LindsayM22

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[QUOTE]Take a day off. Don't do anything wedding related. At all. Pamper yourself with a mani and pedi and have a date night with your man (but remember, no wedding talk!) It will do wonders for you!!
Posted by cwill6212[/QUOTE]

This.  If you don't have enough time for a whole day, take a few hours one evening to do something completely unrelated to the wedding.  Aside from that, make sure you're getting enough sleep.  I know that I am much more likely to snap at someone if I'm tired.  Realize that nobody will know if little things don't go as planned.  In the end, all that matters is that you're married to FI.  :)

nanciee220

lol im getting bridezilla anxiety just reading your post!!  i'm 15 days away and i can already feel like i'm going to be you in a few days!

tgerl

I'm 9 days out and I've been running on the treadmill every night.  That's been helping with the stress.  Also, just accept the fact that some stress is normal.

abunger

I agree with PP's... treadmill, wine, mani/pedi (in whatever order you like!).

saramarieosu

Wine!!

PopPow

My fear is I will go all bridezilla crazy on the morning of the wedding when we decorate the hall. I have a fully formed look that I am going for. I fear if FI, MOB or DOC offer a suggestion or don't do something "my" way I will lose my mind. I keep telling myself that the overall day is important not the fact the laterns were grouped on twos when I wanted them in threes. LOL

Nine days out and I am trying to get lots of sleep (melatonin is my friend)  because I tend to lay in bed for hours running over every detail in my mind.

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Funny since I have been teetering on bridezilla - but tbh, he is turning into groomzilla.  He is trying to get things accomplished before the big day & put WAY too much on his plate.  Work is also very busy for him - so he is getting cranky.  Im just annoying him with the hurry up & decide comments - since he is last minute annie with everything.  I actually feel better this 1/2 of the week than I did the beginning of the week.  I was feeling crazy & threw out my back - which caused breething issues.  I do feel anxiety was not helping matters.  I am just glad we got the flowers & dj squared away.  Can't wait to see my Day of Coordinator and discuss everything with her next week - she will calm me down & let me know if I am forgetting anything or ahead of schedule.   Massages work well for me & after the massage go for a pedi - then maybe a drink or two when you get home from all the pampering...!!!

HilareyL

Yesterday I kind of flipped out on my florist over email and called my dad crying.  I totally was thinking I was acting like a bridezilla.  I called up a friend and went out to dinner with- just hanging with her, hearing about her job and talking about things not WR really helped me.  It made me realize everyone else is going about their daily lives and does not give a sh*t about weddings!  I agree that working out helps, but sometimes you just sit there and brood about things while you're on the treadmill- could become conterproductive!

brittneyh4

I just got a temporary prescription for xanax. I typically don't like being medicated unless absolutely necessary, but I'm really freaking out. Not sleeping, itching to the point of hives/rashes, uncontrollable crying. When I get stressed out mild versions of this usually happen and it passes quickly, but this has been extreme. Plus I am super freaked about our flight for the HM (I'm paranoid). I had my appt this morning and she gave me enough just to get through the wedding and the flight home. She said she has a lot of women come in who really just need help.

FTR, I've tried the wine, the workout, the breathing, yoga, NWR visits with friends, mani/pedi... none of that worked for me I couldn't think of another option.

Chelly84

I'm 9 days out too. have a glass of wine and just be alone to get things done. Thats what i've been doing. I actually haven't had time to drink which is shocking becuase i'm a one-a-night kinda gal lol. I'm alone right now printing programs. 

Also, for what it's worth, everytime a bad or stressful thought pops in your head just try to push it out and think about just focusing on what needs to get done and doing it. The more I harp on bad things the worse I get. 

What do you still have to get done?