Reluctant mother?

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My Mom seems to be in denial that my wedding is happening. She listens when I start talking about it, but doesn't offer feedback and sometimes changes the subject. In May, I asked her to see about booking the church, since it's the church she attends regularly and she still hasn't yet. I came to visit her with the intention that we would go dress shopping while I was up. Every time I mention it, she says that we should go, but she won't make definite plans. Now, my visit is almost over, and we haven't gone yet.

My FMIL and my Aunt (Mom's sister) seem super excited and love talking about the wedding with me and want to go try on dresses ASAP. But I really want my mom's support here. I mean, it could be that I'm her oldest and the first one to get married, so that's making her emotional or that I've been engaged so long so it hadn't really sunk in, but she just doesn't seem like she wants to help.

Does anyone else have a mother like this?

ElizNick

when I told my mom I was getting married she said, "do you have to marry them all?"  I've obviously been married before.  When I told her the date, she said she wasn't sure if she was going to be able to make it, and did she have to make up her mind right away?  I was shocked ~ she's the mother of the bride, for goodness sake!

She has no interest, but we are not close.  I've thought of trying to re-establish our relationship, but she's completely out of touch with me and all of my siblings.  I believe she's well on her way to being a shut in.

Net net, I'm sending her an invitation.  If she doesn't come, I'm not going to let it ruin my day nor my life. 

My Mother In Law, on the other hand,  is a blessing and a Godsend.  I'm marrying into an AMAZINGLY supporting and loving family.