Bridezilla Moment

Danidawn20

So I know alot of us (chris this includes you)  are not bridezilla's but have you ever had a moment where you thought of being one, or was one? I have thought of it many, many times, but has not been one. 

browner3

My mom called me a bridezilla and I got so upset I cried.  For the record, I am not, and my mom has hardly helped plan anything so I don't know where any of that came from; probably why I cried.

julbgordo

Nope.

Our wedding planning experience has been pretty laid back (knock on wood).  Since we've had over two years to plan, it was easier to not let the stress get to me.  I would do projects here or there and then take a break.  My entire WP and family has been very cooperative and supportive as well.

Ash61612

I had a minor freak out when we were coming up with the guest list. People were being added because our parents wanted them to get an invitation even though they "knew they wouldn't come"

rasp.berry

No bridezilla moments yet. I'm generally a drama free person though, so I'm trying to keep the wedding that way too. This isn't to say that I may or may not have a minor freak out from the stress at some point closer to the big day, but it will most likely be a vent/rant or a woe-is-me cryfest as opposed to attacking one specific person or idea (as so often bridezilla moments are).

melntaitt

I'm kinda in the middle of one right now; in my post below I mentioned my MOH and her husband. He declined an invitation to the wedding, wasn't invited to the RD but decided he was going to show up even though he wasn't invited.

I did freak out; I called my mother though and she was very understanding. My father lost his mind though because he has been (like me) teetering close to the edge with my MOH. It's been a long process with her and it's been irritating me and my parents to no end.

I'm trying to cope better with this pre-wedding stress and nothing else has really bothered me; but when it comes to my MOH it's pushing my buttons.

peachykeen26

Yes, I have been called one several times.

But here again, no one is helping me so that makes it really difficult to keep calm and carry on.

So, I probably have been a bridezilla. I know I have actually. Especially when people have opinions but don't offer counter offers.

cwill6212

I thought my internal bridezilla was going to expose herself last week. I had left messages and had been trying to reach the lady who runs the community center hall where our reception is. I finally grew tired and contacted City Hall so I could schedule an appt for my caterer to do a walk-thru. Needless to say, the lady onsite was pretty nasty when we met her for the walk-thru but it's her own fault for not calling me back. I could've gotten real ugly-but I kept my composure. Thankfully, my MOH will be handling correspondence with her going forward (she is AWESOME for doing this!)

flipflop82

Kind of.

FI said I should "go bridezilla" on my parents about an issue we're having about rental cars.

We're having a destination wedding with just our immediate families (11 in all, including the 2 of us).  We ran the numbers and let them all know that sharing rental cars was by far the cheapest way to do transportation (vs. taxis or a shuttle).  My parents agreed, so his parents made a reservation for a car (the plan was that the parents would share one and my sisters would share one).  Three days later, my dad changed his mind and just wants to do taxis, leaving FI's parents with a whole car rental to pay for themselves.

I yelled a little bit at home.  Not at them, about them.  FI made that bridezilla comment, we laughed, and I calmed down.

We've only got about two weeks until we leave for the islands and the issue isn't settled.  My mom keeps telling me that it's not my problem and I shouldn't worry about it.  I might lose it if she tells me that again.

HarperBargo

The only time I got really upset was when I got my cousin's RSVP back. I sent the invite to her and her husband. She RSVP'd with 8. Meaning she was going to bring all 5 of her kids. They were not invited and we are doing the no kid thing. I was super mad and angry. That was the only time I got ticked and almost screamed.

melfacto

Not yet, thought one may be coming if these vendors don't start returning my phone calls!

Lambbop

I had a bad day when the florist gave me the "final invoice" after I had just requested an updated estimate. I got the original estimate in August and hadn't seen anything since then. Well, her "final invoice" included 4 too many tables and was short 2 boutinneres. When I asked this to be fixed she charged me MORE to change my "final invoice." Despite taking out 4 tables worth of centerpieces (24 vases of flowers).

I argued with her about it not being in her contract to charge me to change an invoice and she tried to shoot back that payment was due 30 days before the wedding and it was past then. SHE didn't even get me the estimate/invoice until 25 days before the wedding... so I don't know how I was supposed to pay her before then...

She has been soo unprofessional. But she's family and my parents wouldn't let me fire her despite her terrible business practices and her insults at me when I called her out on her breaking her own contract. She told me that it's my fault for chaning my mind. B*tch please. Giving you the right numbers is NOT changing my mind... it's giving you the right numbers.

raemae24

I think I'm slowing morphing into one.
Last weekend I noticed there was a crew doing road work on a highway near my house. I sincerely contemplated pulling over and asking one of the guys if they would be done before my wedding. I didn't, because it truely doesn't matter, I mean its not like they are permanetly shutting the road down, and heck if they did you could just take back roads. But these are the crazy things that are starting to go through my brain.
Yesterday I talked to my priest, and he said "Well your wedding isn't until June 22", I just stared at him dumbfounded, June 9th..... I can handle that he only calls me my sisters name and that he incorrectly wrote my fiances name on all the paperwork (not misspelt, completely wrong last name, not even close)... **I'm praying for patience**

tgerl

My bridezilla moments only come out when dealing with my family and one of my BM's who are all out of town.  They were all so slow in booking their flights for the wedding and it was driving me crazy that I started sending them annoying emails and texts.  I also went a little bridezilla on my dad when he told me he wasn't arriving until Friday (the day before the wedding) and wouldn't have a lot of time to make sure his tux fits.  He changed his flight to wednesday   Other that that, I've been good - I just hate the things I can't control!

hose85

Yes! I posted about this too, it's not that I'm actually becoming a bridezilla but having bridezilla-esq moments are popping up. I really want to throw a fit sometimes about the silliest things...i try to resist but we'll see what happens as things get closer, it will go one way or the other for sure! 

Danidawn20

Glad to know I'm not the only one thinking about having a moment. 

Teep

I had my first one yesterday. Fi's best man is single. We invited him with a guest. He rsvp'ed for himself and a girl he was interested in. Yesterday he tells FI he's not bringing her anymore he's bringing his ex. His ex, S, is also my FI's ex-girlfriends best friend, she is not supportive of our relationship at all. I told FI to tell him she wasn't invited and to bring someone else. I was really upset about it. We talked about it though, and he can bring whoever he wants. I'm still a little pissed at the best man though.

acaponi87

I have freaked out, but not freaked out on anyone. FI was actually saying how good I've been through all of this yesterday.

I had a hysterical crying freak-out moment when I was with my mom and sister over how much everything costs and how stupid it is to spend so much money on one day. Which I still think is true but at least I have come to terms with it and almost all of it is paid.

MiksChick23

I almost did. Our wedding is June 30th and FSIL had been hinting at having her wedding before ours. She had suggested June 2nd which is the date of my bachelorette party/shower and FI's bachelor party...but I kept my cool. Then she sent me an IM that she finalized a date. I first read it as June 28th and almost flipped b/c they live 3.5 hours away...so its not like we're in the same town so whatever...even so, 2 DAYS before our wedding is just plain RUDE. Then I took a breath an re-read it and it was JULY 28th. Bridezeilla moment avoided.

janeash

I feel my inner bridezilla threatening to come out quite regularely but I usually hold her back.  It's mostly when people don't quite get how anxious I am to check off some boxes on my to-do list.  It was mostly a few months ago when people gave me that "oh you've got LOTS of time" thing.....that's nice.....but I still want to get it done ASAP so I don't have to worry about it closer to the wedding....

michellep1

My mother calls me a bridezilla pretty much every time I disagree with her, so I'm over it.  I don't care if she thinks I'm a bridezilla for having an opinion, to me its the same as people calling a strong woman a b!tch because she speaks up for what she wants.  I think the word is getting way too overused and it should be reserved for brides that actually go crazy on people for no reason, like in the show Bridezillas.

Cassandra999

Not a serious one.  My mom emails me about 3-5 times a day and calls me everyday with WR questions etc.  It gets really annoying.  I've yelled at her a few times during these calls.  Mostly because I can't think about everyting at once.  I need to sit down and go over it.  She really stresses me out.  I always feel bad after and appologize.
Then when one of my BMs asked if we were going back to the hotel between getting out hair done and going to the venue to get ready, bc she was worried about the check in time at the hotel.  I didnt say anything but I wanted to say " i dont care, figure it out, have your BF check in for you"  But I didnt say it.

amandaf6383

My mother has actually said that I'm not being Bridezilla-y ENOUGH!! The truth is that I have been having moments of panic as the date gets closer (25 days June 16th brides!!!) but my family and friends have been going above and beyond with helping so I make sure if I panic it's not directed at anybody.

Also, I try to focus on the fact that I'm getting married to the man I love and ultimately it won't matter if the color of the buottenaire flowers doesn't exactly match the bridesmaids dresses. lol.

littleluckypenny

I was furious with FI when we started the guest list because I asked him repeatedly for his guests and never came through; I eventually had to ask FMIL and FSIL for the list they had at FSIL's wedding a few years prior.

I was close to getting more "animated" with FMIL when she was adding people to the guest list, this was after we sat down together and went through the list and I triple-checked with her that everyone she wanted was on it.  I eventually did cave, only because it was one more person, we could afford it and I didn't want to fight that battle over one stinkin' guest.

My greatest test is coming up though---I have to show FMIL the seating chart and I know she'll try to find a way to add FSIL, her son, the baby and FSIL's parents to her table.  It just cannot be done without throwing off the ENTIRE chart because of relationships and numbers.  She'll just have to suck it up because FI agrees with my logic.  I mean, you can sit through a reception without your grown son by your side.  You sit next to him every Sunday, and you'll get to sit with your favorite brother and his wife at the reception. 

Preparing for battle this weekend

peachykeen26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_bridezilla-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:d2451f97-c450-49fd-a35a-58fd7c216108Post:204f7c2d-89a6-4629-b89c-7d9838470ee5">Re: Bridezilla Moment</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I'm slowing morphing into one. Last weekend I noticed there was a crew doing road work on a highway near my house. I sincerely contemplated pulling over and asking one of the guys if they would be done before my wedding. I didn't, because it truely doesn't matter, I mean its not like they are permanetly shutting the road down, and heck if they did you could just take back roads. But these are the crazy things that are starting to go through my brain. Yesterday I talked to my priest, and he said "Well your wedding isn't until June 22", I just stared at him dumbfounded, June 9th..... I can handle that he only calls me my sisters name and that he incorrectly wrote my fiances name on all the paperwork (not misspelt, completely wrong last name, not even close)... <strong>**I'm praying for patience**</strong>
Posted by raemae24[/QUOTE]

Well that's why all that stuff keep happening! Don't pray for patience, God puts you through trials to give you patience. Pray for peace. Or to use the patience you've already got!

rachellola77

I've managed to keep most of my worst moments at home behind closed doors where only FI can see. I do feel like one is building though with all the stress and little detail things that need to get done yet seem to take so much time. There were two times when I was closets to bridezilla. One when my original photographer (b-word) was not responding to my emails/phone calls about setting up an engagement photo shoot and then proceeded to not respond when I threatened to fire here and also did not response when I fired her via email. Ugh... glad that is over. The second is with issues with FMIL, she's not involved with planning at all but has been crazy and emotionally unstable for awhile. She's been doing crazy things (like threatening to commit suicide not taking care of FI little sister etc) and basically putting FI in a really tough position. I really can't do anything about it and it makes me crazy that she would do this to FI especially this close to our wedding.

bandjwedding2012

I know I've had one for sure and I'm trying not to have any others. We met with the caterer back in April to sort things out more. Took my mother, who has been very involved and FMIL came along (she is paying for the caterer). They acted like children the whole time fighting over where the bread would be, at the buffet or on the tables. No one was listening to me at all. Fiance took his mother's side saying my mother was being annoying, I took my mother's side because they insulted my mom. By the time we got home I was in tears and calling the whole thing off. Thankfully fiance just rode out my bad hour and agreed that both are mothers are dumb and should not be left in the same room together.
     Almost had one last week when I found out FMIL made more invites and sent out to way more people then on our list, cause she says they won't come anyway but it's nice to invite them. I told her calmly if they RSVP yes she is going to have to call and tell them no. I think she was surprised by that but oh well.

Shelly527IN

Not yet, but I thought I was going to have to be a bridezilla to get MOH's dress to her.  Her twin had it had couldn't get it to her.  Finally got it to the right person!

michelletobin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_bridezilla-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:d2451f97-c450-49fd-a35a-58fd7c216108Post:3a62fbf4-ecfd-4773-8c3b-836655306dc0">Re: Bridezilla Moment</a>:
[QUOTE]The only time I got really upset was when I got my cousin's RSVP back. I sent the invite to her and her husband. She RSVP'd with 8. Meaning she was going to bring all 5 of her kids. They were not invited and we are doing the no kid thing. I was super mad and angry. That was the only time I got ticked and almost screamed.
Posted by HarperBargo[/QUOTE]

It almost sounds like we have the same cousin! My cousin is a BM bc we were so close as kids but I'm kinda regretting it now. She also has 5 kids and although she has had plenty of time to find a babysitter for her to come to the wedding, which is OOT she just told my sister she can't find anyone and is going to have to bring them, she wants to pawn them off on when she gets there and said that there would be plenty of family and friends at the wedding to help. HELLO, they are going to the wedding for fun and to get away, not to babysit for her. Good grief. Well there is my bridezilla moment right there. lol

michelletobin

I am getting stressed so not sure if I am bridezilla or not. I have 2 weeks and FI just got the details for the RD, the thing HE CHOSE to do so when I gave him the numbers he wants to add family that drove from out of town bc he says he doesn't get to see them and they should be able to come to the RD. I tried to explain its for WP only and the wedding and reception is for all the oot guests. he doesn't agree and I got so mad. If we are going to invite everyone who is coming from oot to the RD then what is the reception for??? Almost all my family is coming from oot town because we are having the wedding in his town so with that logic then all my family should be at the RD. It doesn't make sense, just bc he only has a couple oot people.

SheilaDancer43

I haven't ever been a b!tch and yelled, but I was very adamant about something I wanted from the reception venue. They have these horrible paintings displayed in the room, and they don't go with anything in our wedding. I asked if they could be taken down, and she was flabbergasted! She was like, "These are upwards of 6 figure paintings". I wasn't ever rude, but I was very firm in what I wanted and I told her that if they could be taken down, I wanted them down. I asked my mom if I was being a Bridezilla, and she said no. She would tell me if I were being one, too. That's the closest I've gotten. I'm surprised no other bride has requested them to be taken down before.