Did he ask your dad/parents?

MMCBRIDE4

Just wondering how many guys had asked your dad/parents for blessing/permission to marry you?

ECOlson

Mine did.  I told him it wasn't necessary (my dad didn't ask my grandpa so I knew he wouldn't mind not being asked himself) and I think the whole notion of "asking permission" when we had already lived together for about a year kind of silly.  My fiance is surprisingly traditional in that aspect though, so he called up my father and asked on the day he was planning on going to the jewelry store to look at rings.

cwill6212

Mine did.

edw7479

Nope

HarperBargo

He asked both of my parents for their blessing (not really premission). After that meeting he called my sister and asked her too. Family is really important to both of us and he wanted to make sure everyone was included.

k3MySailor

Mine did, it was important to me that he did because my dad can be old fashioned about some things and he also likes to be a part of things.

abunger

Mine did - it was less about "permission" (we're in our 30s for crying out loud) and more about demonstrating respect toward my family and creating a bond with my dad.  

chelseakopperud

Mine did Sweetest thing EVER

LindzMarie19

Well, mine kinda did. I told FI that i wanted him to ask my dad out of respect. Me and my father are very attached, since i'm the only child. well... FI decided a text the day of was appropriate... which when i found out, i was VERY upset about...

AlliJae

Nope. Just told them what was about to happen

peachykeen26

Nope.

We haven't talked to my parents in over a year. So, nope. And, don't really care.

L&J2012

Mine was going to, but then I let the beans spill that we knew we wanted to get married and that he was planning on asking them for permission, and my mom said they had been expecting a ring since Christmas, 2 months after we met and 4 months before I mentioned this. FI took that as permission haha.

melntaitt

My FI called my dad up and asked for his blessing; it meant alot to them both for that to happen.

DrPB2b13

No; they would have laughed him out of the house, and taken it as a sign we weren't really ready to get married.

I think it's sweet if your parents are supportive of it, though.  If we ever have daughters I won't expect it from their boyfriends, but I think it would be nice.

rachellola77

Yes, FI went down to have dinner with my parents the night before he proposed. Both FI and parents tell really cute stories about how it took him until dessert to get up the courage to ask them even through we've been together forever. It was more of a respect thing and I think my mom really like knowing it was going to happen before it.

daria24

Nope and I would have been unhappy of he had. I'm the first person who should know that he wants me to marry me.

kristin183

No; I get the tradition and why some girls like it. Personally I am not a fan.
I am 29 years old; asking my Dad for permission to do anything ended a long time ago.

FI didn't tell anyone.. he wanted everyone to be surprised. I wouldn't have it any other way.

kelsey+brandon

FI asked my dad as a formality and because he's a traditionalist.

He also asked/talked to my mom about it who's really the person that mattered in all of that.

kks4471

Yup, just to go along with tradition.  My parents had to keep quiet for a month until he proposed though, and were dying to tell me.  I'm very happy with how FI handled the process.

CvilleClaire

He's a southerner and assumed he would, but I told him that if he asked anyone else before he asked me, I'd say no.

I was totally kidding...but I don't like vistiges of old, patriarchal practices. It makes me squirm.

Zimsgirl

No, it wasn't important to me

tgerl

We never talked about it, but he did call and talk to my dad before he asked me.  My parents don't live near us and they really appreciated it since it made them feel like a part of it all.  I thought it was very sweet.

rasp.berry

My FI didn't outright ask my mom (my dad passed away almost 16 yrs ago) before we became engaged, but we had been together for a long time and had 2 children. My mom had welcomed him into our family as my spouse looooong before we were actually engaged, so we knew we had her blessing. She says she knew we were going to get married by the time we had been together for about a year. She also knew I was pregnant with both of my children before I told her. She's got weird spidey senses like that.

ncd5015

He asked my dad and my little brother

Tiffany6912

He kind of had to since they had the ring. 

niknik15

He called and asked.

Funny story, my FI and I were at his parent's house one weekend when FSIL's boyfriend (at the time) came over. I immediately asked him 'what are you doing here'. He avoided the question. I just went on with my normal business while my FI went to his room. He sat there talking for a while and looked really nervous. Then I realized what was happening and left the room. I felt like a total idiot. He was there to ask permission from FFIL and I made it  very awkward for him.

jfellows82

FI asked my parents for their blessing then asked my little sister (we're extremely close).  It was really sweet!  They all knew we were getting engaged a few weeks before I did.  

KrisKenny

My FI asked my mother, while I was sitting right next to here at a function for our church.

janeash

Nope....my dad probably would have laughed at him and said I'm a grown woman and it's my decision, not his.  He and my mom were both involved in the ring buying and the proposal planning though so it would have been a bit redundant if FI had asked them their permission.

[Deleted User]

Yes, my FI did.  He knows how close I am to my family and asked my dad to lunch to ask him.  He is so sweet...

kimiandgary

Absolutely. He knew it was important to both my dad and I. He took my phone while I was out walking the dog and copied my dad's phone number and called him on his lunch break. Love him to death!