So my FI mom had said a while back to him that she was planning on contributing to the wedding, which is great. However, she told him that she didn't want to commit to a number before we booked anything because she didn't want me to "go outside my means." Fine. It irritated me a bit but whatever. I booked a place, got catering quotes, and nailed down more firmly how much everything would cost if we had the number of guests that she/my family were wanting. FI told me he would talk to his mom to see if she was willing to commit to a number yet, because if she wouldn't then I was going to have to start planning the wedding that my parents could afford alone, which would mean big guest list cuts. All of which I am fine with because I understand that she doesn't have to pay. Well, here we are about 3 months after FI told me he would talk to his mom and nothing yet. I would really like to nail down my budget because this is getting ridiculous. They keep talking like we are going to have 200 guests (which we can't afford without her help) and it's starting to get on my nerves. Everytime I talk to FI about talking to her he gets upset and says he'll do it. I just am fed up and feel like I deserve to know if she will be paying anything or not so that I can get on with the budget and start planning this thing for real.
Sorry for this being so long but I'm so frustrated about it. What would you ladies do if this was you? I have already told FI that if he won't talk to her, then we will go with the budget my parents can afford and our guest list will be cut significantly so he knows that. He keeps telling me that we don't have to cut our guest list and that she will pay. He wants me to keep planning like I have this money but doesn't seem to understand that if she backs out and I planned like I had that money, than we're in trouble. Any help is appreciated. Thanks ladies.