That Awkward Moment...

paigejessica

When a coworker IMs you at work about your wedding and you're both well aware some people in the office were invited and some were not. This particular coworker was not. He's a friend but not close enough that I invited him. Aah...so awkward....

He asked when the wedding was, what we were serving, and the conversation just kind of trailed off. I think if he had actually asked about being invited I would have said he was on Guest List B...

Anyone have another wedding related awkward moment? 

midgetthemighty

Someone called and invited their mother to my wedding whilst sitting right next to me at choir practice on Wednesday.

KrisKenny

I've only had the "are you allowing children" question come up. Luckily, it was before they sent in their response card so I could explain that the only children that will be there are the ones in the wedding (and they'll be leaving at 9pm). Everyone understood and I've yet to hear a complaint about it.

MissyB1313

One of my (ex) girlfriends moved to the UK last year... she was gone almost 8 months, heard from her once the week she got there. She came home in November, she FB'd me once saying congrats and we needed to catch up. (I was engaged in June). The other day she posts she's moved back to our city, then writes on my wall saying her invite must of got lost in all her moving, and to remind her when the wedding was again...Well, she wasn't invited because she never bothered to try and stay in touch in the last year and a half. 

brittneyh4

FI friend (and BM) broke up with this rude chick last year, and I was friendly with her due to the circumstances. Well they split and she didn't care to keep contact with me or return my attempt to keep the friendship alive, so I let it go. NBD. I'm friends with his new gf, and exfriend is ticked about it, and upset that newgf gets invited when exfriend doesn't. Umm.. No communication in over a year and now you're mad? People are weird.

HarperBargo

As soon as we got engaged we knew that we wanted his dad to perform the ceremony. My FFIL did my FBIL's wedding and it was beautiful and heartfelt. FFIL is not a minister and we knew that we would not get married in a church. Shortly after we got engaged I had an aunt go on and on about how anyone that doesn't get married in a church specifically a Catholic church is doing it wrong and implied that marriage isn't valid. I tried to stop her and explain our situation but she was too busy being on her soapbox. Very awkward moment when I told her where and who was marrying us.  

littleluckypenny

I call my ex's mom every few months; she's always been very nice to me, whether I was dating her son or not.

When I told her I was engaged, she proceeded with "I'm getting an invitation, right?"  I had to pull the old " guest list isn't final/keeping it small" routine.  I like her and all, but would be very uncomfortable inviting her, which would also mean inviting her husband, who hates me.  I don't think FI would be too thrilled about my ex's mom being there either.

Made for a very awkward phone call that day.

janeash

My brother started dating this girl MONTHS before we sent out the invites and my whole family loved her and were so excited that she'd be invited to the wedding!  They booked their flights to Maui (where our wedding is going to be held) and then they promptly broke up (as in my brother dumped her and she was heartbroken).  Long story short, she has decided she is still coming to the wedding (I told her she better bring a damn hot date just to rub it in my brother's face).  Might be an interesting two weeks!!!

paigejessica

OMG!! You all have got some killer awkward moments!! This is so fun to read at work 

michelletobin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_that-awkward-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:e6234696-49e8-4cb6-bdef-7d4e7d80fa8cPost:6aa6c023-5cc0-4a62-84ec-b4f88310b61b">Re: That Awkward Moment...</a>:
[QUOTE]As soon as we got engaged we knew that we wanted his dad to perform the ceremony. My FFIL did my FBIL's wedding and it was beautiful and heartfelt. FFIL is not a minister and we knew that we would not get married in a church. Shortly after we got engaged I had an aunt go on and on about how anyone that doesn't get married in a church specifically a Catholic church is doing it wrong and implied that marriage isn't valid. I tried to stop her and explain our situation but she was too busy being on her soapbox. Very awkward moment when I told her where and who was marrying us.  
Posted by HarperBargo[/QUOTE]

My FFIL is also performing our ceremony and he isn't a minister either. I get the same looks and comments from family about me not having a religious ceremony. It can be very difficult.

michelletobin

I have many co workers because of where I work and I also have mulitiple supervisors. Some I like and some not at all, one day at lunch my boss that I do like was talking about how much she liked the invitations and the other supervisors were there as well, needless to say, I didn't send them any so it was very awkward sitting there with all of them knowing who wasnt invited and one actually said "i didn't get one".

paigejessica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_that-awkward-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:e6234696-49e8-4cb6-bdef-7d4e7d80fa8cPost:574be8ae-7fcb-476d-8898-3159c5ccc8b7">Re: That Awkward Moment...</a>:
[QUOTE]I have many co workers because of where I work and I also have mulitiple supervisors. Some I like and some not at all, one day at lunch my boss that I do like was talking about how much she liked the invitations and the other supervisors were there as well, needless to say, I didn't send them any so it was very awkward sitting there with all of them knowing who wasnt invited and one actually said "i didn't get one".
Posted by michelletobin[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Man I felt uncomfortable reading that! That's how it feels around here.

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michellep1

I JUST had my awkward moment like 10 minutes ago!  I was at the copier making small talk with someone that works in the department I interned in (I work in a different dept now).  He was asking about the wedding and what I had left to do and said "so the invites are out then?"  I was like "uhh actually they arent...." which is true and it just got really bad.  He said something about still having a few weeks of hope that he'll get one.  The worst part is that I haven't asked anyone at work for their address yet & he was one of the people that I was on the fence about but finally decided no!  Now Idk what to do again!

AbeandCarrie

I have had a similar situation.  I only invited 4 of my co-workers and their SO.  I specifically told them in advance that they would be invited but not everyone was so to please keep it quiet.  Well low and behold, the invitations arrive and one of my co-workers starts loudly gushing about how great I did on the invitations.  Super sweet of him (I was surprised he even noticed) but so much for being hush hush about it...

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_that-awkward-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:e6234696-49e8-4cb6-bdef-7d4e7d80fa8cPost:574be8ae-7fcb-476d-8898-3159c5ccc8b7">Re: That Awkward Moment...</a>:
[QUOTE]I have many co workers because of where I work and I also have mulitiple supervisors. Some I like and some not at all, one day at lunch my boss that I do like was talking about how much she liked the invitations and the other supervisors were there as well, needless to say, I didn't send them any so it was very awkward sitting there with all of them knowing who wasnt invited and one actually said "i didn't get one".
Posted by michelletobin[/QUOTE]

kathleenkmm

...when you are helping your paralegal fix her computer and see an email about a surprise bridal shower. YAY coworkers but I hope I can still look surprised!

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: That Awkward Moment... : My FFIL is also performing our ceremony and he isn't a minister either. I get the same looks and comments from family about me not having a religious ceremony. It can be very difficult.
Posted by michelletobin[/QUOTE]

<div>My parents think it is great and is really supportive. There are just a few family members that just doesn't get it. </div>

melntaitt

When your cousin and her FI break up after RSVPing yes and she has to tell you in private because of the inevitable explanations to the families...

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]One of my (ex) girlfriends moved to the UK last year... she was gone almost 8 months, heard from her once the week she got there. She came home in November, she FB'd me once saying congrats and we needed to catch up. (I was engaged in June). <strong>The other day she posts she's moved back to our city, then writes on my wall saying her invite must of got lost in all her moving, and to remind her when the wedding was again</strong>...Well, she wasn't invited because she never bothered to try and stay in touch in the last year and a half. 
Posted by MissyB1313[/QUOTE]

that is gutsy!!! wow

lb1212

When my FI's ex assumed she was invited to the wedding....

precamies

we changed our date from October to June due to some unavoidable technical reasons. so my family will not be able to fly in from Europe.
several people have asked things like: so when is your family arriving? surely they will be here for the wedding..
when I said that that will not be possible, a coworker asked - why? are they not supportive of the marriage? is it because he's american and you're not??
NO, dumbo... because in order to book a rountrip from Latvia to Indiana with two months to go costs $1500 - $2000 per person!! and there would have been seven of them flying!

I'm so sick of explaining this. mostly because it hurts that my mom couldn't be there to pick our my dress with me, my best friend will not be able to be my maid of honor, my dad will not walk me down the aisle.... and it sucks! i'm not being a cheapo and my family loves my fiancee... it's just life, alright.

mricher1983

I've had a couple awkard moments but the most awkard one is when a 'friend' messaged me 'when's the wedding? I didn't get an invite' Well this 'friend' was never really a friend, all we'd ever do was go out dancing or restaurants a couple times. We have never been to each others places, we were never close, and I haven't seen her in 1.5 years. She's a bit too crazy/dramatic for me so I stopped contacting her. But when she'd contact me to do something I felt bad saying no, so i'd agreed to go out to a movie or whatever it happened to be but she'd always cancel.

So I wrote back 'the wedding is in 2 months and we're having a small intimate wedding' (which is true)
she wrote 'Don't want to share your special day with everyone? i'm kinda sad that i'm not invited' insert crying emoticon. and then added 'why are you having a small wedding?'

Well someone ended up writing the response for me because I was going to write something mean. I'm not a mean person but i've had it with her. She annoys the crap out of me! I guess you could say it was less akward since it wasn't face to face.

PopPow

When your Mom asks if you are going to invite your ex-step-sister you have not seen or heard from in 17 years, just because Mom talks to her a few times a year. UGH.

MissyB1313

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: That Awkward Moment... : that is gutsy!!! wow
Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I know... I kinda just pretended not to get it yet.... I keep my status as offline anyways. Don't quite know how to handle this one. </div>

paigejessica

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: That Awkward Moment... : I know... I kinda just pretended not to get it yet.... I keep my status as offline anyways. Don't quite know how to handle this one. 
Posted by MissyB1313[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh wow I assumed you had responded to her post! That is super awkward! I don't really know what I'd say either <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /></div>

SarahAlRamadhan

I think most normal men don't give a hoot about whether or not they are being invited to a wedding unless it was a close family member. The most interesting aspect of a wedding for a man is the food, so that's probably why he asked you and if he's married he probably asked where it was at because his wife dragged him around to look at different halls or is just curious. I think most men will understand. especially if they're married and if not, they eventually will when they plan they're wedding down the road. You can't invite everyone!