Therapy Thursday

midgetthemighty

*hugs all around*

FI's boss is about to need one of those mysterious punches of yours Kelsey. Except she's a girl. Now she's trying to say that the rest of the staff does more work than FI. Now I know I'm biased but she's delusional. NO ONE else works at least 1 day of the weekend and goes to events at least 3 times a week. Plus, he's almost always the first one there for HOURS at least twice a week.

On the same token, FI is driving me nuts too because he keeps complaining about the situation instead of just doing what his boss asked him to do. Then he threatens to quit his job but doesn't really mean he would without another lined up. Then why even say you're going to quit? We really can't afford that. Especially right now.

chelseakopperud

Jess- Im sorry

Kelsey- You are TOO funny! BAHAHAH!

littleluckypenny

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : I just punched him in the nuts in my head...he's probably keeled over in pain right now and has no idea why.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

<strong>Best. Line. EVER.</strong>  :)

MMRoberts11

With my current job I'm down to part time. My boss told everyone to pick up after themselves and I am no longer there to waste my time doing silly things not related to data analysis, actual studies, or my management duties. Yesterday, my postdoc was complaining about all of the containers for a tool not having any filled tips for it. Everyone else in the lab was either working on their thesis proposals or not in the lab. Anyway, the postdoc was complaining that he had to get the tips out of a bag as he needed them and how he "told me we were low on Monday." Sorry buddy, not problem the containers are empty. Also, there was a completely full box that I found for him after he complained to me about it for 10 minutes.  His response "oh, I didn't see that one," though it was on the other side of the bench directly in front of him!

Then he had the nerve to just sit and talk to his wife for 30 minutes while I was cramming to get all the data done yesterday (so I didn't have to come in until my next schedule day) that my boss wants to look at on Monday. Why he can't fill the containers as he sits, I don't know beyond he's lazy... ugh. I know I'll hear about it on Monday too from my boss and I'll have to explain what happened and how no one is around to do it but him and then he'll get lectured after wasting a good amount of my time for this meeting.  And then both of us will get lectured for wasting my boss's time.  I swear, with the postdoc lately I'm ready to just leave; especially when I have to work in the same room as him and my boss is gone. 

midgetthemighty

I'm sorry Megan.

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]With my current job I'm down to part time. My boss told everyone to pick up after themselves and I am no longer there to waste my time doing silly things not related to data analysis, actual studies, or my management duties. Yesterday, my pos tdoc was complaining about all of the containers for a tool not having any filled tips for it. Everyone else in the lab was either working on their thesis proposals or not in the lab. Anyway, the postdoc was complaining that he had to get the tips out of a bag as he needed them and how he "told me we were low on Monday." Sorry buddy, not problem the containers are empty. Also, there was a completely full box that I found for him after he complained to me about it for 10 minutes.  His response "oh, I didn't see that one," though it was on the other side of the bench directly in front of him! Then he had the nerve to just sit and talk to his wife for 30 minutes while I was cramming to get all the data done yesterday (so I didn't have to come in until my next schedule day) that my boss wants to look at on Monday. <strong>Why he can't fill the containers as he sits, I don't know beyond he's lazy... ugh. I</strong> know I'll hear about it on Monday too from my boss and I'll have to explain what happened and how no one is around to do it but him and then he'll get lectured after wasting a good amount of my time for this meeting.  And then both of us will get lectured for wasting my boss's time.  I swear, with the postdoc lately I'm ready to just leave; especially when I have to work in the same room as him and my boss is gone. 
Posted by MMRoberts11[/QUOTE]

I hear ya! My lab is in the department of surgery and surgical residents have to do a 2 year lab rotation. They can be completely lazy and spoiled. From being surgeons that are just used to everything being prepared and handed to them. There is a quick learning curve that they have to take care of things themselves and not wait to the last minute to tell me something in out and needs to be ordered. The first couple of months when they start is soooo frustrating!

diamondx423

He can't fill a tips box? Like, pipette tips? Seriously...

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]He can't fill a tips box? Like, pipette tips? Seriously...
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

Yes pipette tips!  He NEVER has refilled a box the entire time he's been in the lab.  It's always been me or the undergrads.

diamondx423

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : Yes pipette tips!  He NEVER has refilled a box the entire time he's been in the lab.  It's always been me or the undergrads.
Posted by MMRoberts11[/QUOTE]

That's insane! We buy tips already pre-stacked so you just use the holder and they all get loaded in the box. But in the lab I used to work in we had to do it one at a time by hand, it doesn't even take 5 minutes to fill a box that way. I'd throw the bag of tips in his face.

kelsey+brandon

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[QUOTE]*hugs all around* FI's boss is about to need one of those mysterious punches of yours Kelsey. Except she's a girl. Now she's trying to say that the rest of the staff does more work than FI. Now I know I'm biased but she's delusional. NO ONE else works at least 1 day of the weekend and goes to events at least 3 times a week. Plus, he's almost always the first one there for HOURS at least twice a week. On the same token, FI is driving me nuts too because he keeps complaining about the situation instead of just doing what his boss asked him to do. Then he threatens to quit his job but doesn't really mean he would without another lined up. Then why even say you're going to quit? We really can't afford that. Especially right now.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

<div>Just let me know when it's about to be her time of the month and I'll punch her in the boobs. That'll get her good.</div><div>
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Purple&7

I know I vented about this on FB, but I really hope that a lot of people RSVP No to the wedding. The guest list is entirely too large!!! FI and I wanted a smaller wedding with only about 125 people.  But my mom finds it necessary to invite everybody she knows! So now our guest list is about 200+ people. Grrrrr

I know this sounds bad! Hopefully it being a Friday will help.

Ash61612

Meg, reading your posts really makes me wish and hope more for you that you get the new job. Your post doc sounds like a lazy butt.

daria24

I hoping for the same thing, we are having a Friday wedding, I wanted 50-75 people and we have 117 on the guest list. And my FMIL has tried to add another 14 more. I am stuffing these invitations this weekend and getting them out before anyone else wants to add to the list!

KimzyLynn

My co workers are being douches about how many days ive been taking off due to seizures. It's not like it's fun for me!! I just posted this on my city boards rant too, not trying to be an AW sorry if it looks like that

courtneyclare103

I am pissed at FI. We got in a fight last night (via Skype, that's how we talk right now until he comes home) about, of all things, the punishments that were handed down on the Saints by the NFL (we're from/I live in New Orleans). We have opposing viewpoints on it and were calmly discussing it and I wasn't even taking it very seriously. All of a sudden he got all butt hurt, told me he'd talk to me tomorrow, and hung up on me. A few minutes later, he posted an article about it on Facebook with a comment that was a vent about people who feel the opposite. So I Facebook chatted him (I know this all sounds so juvenile, but we currently live in different countries, so I can't just call him--we have to communicate through the Internet, whether it's via Skype, Facebook, e-mail, AIM, etc.) and he was rude to me and just made me even madder. Usually he apologizes within 30 minutes, but he hasn't contacted me at all yet. Ughhhhhhh! He's under a lot of stress right now and I know part of it is that he's just taking it out on me, but it's so aggravating.

That felt good to type out. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about posting relationship troubles on here because although I know not all relationships are perfect, most of us usually don't talk about anything bad about our relationships, so hopefully y'all don't think he's a jerk, haha!

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : That's insane! We buy tips already pre-stacked so you just use the holder and they all get loaded in the box. But in the lab I used to work in we had to do it one at a time by hand, it doesn't even take 5 minutes to fill a box that way. I'd throw the bag of tips in his face.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

We get most of our tips pre-stacked but this one size we don't.  In the time he spent talking to me about it he could have had a few done.  Trust me, I did throw the bag at him.  Well, the table in front of him so he didn't complain about that too. 
He was the one doing the western blot and needed the tips.  I seriously don't get why he had to interrupt me analyzing MRIs to do it for him.  He seriously didn't even need 10 tips!

sweet_melissa81

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : I'm not either. I feel awful. FI already pays the majority of our bills. Just wish money grew on trees lol
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

Ain't that the truth!

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]Meg, reading your posts really makes me wish and hope more for you that you get the new job. Your post doc sounds like a lazy butt.
Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

Thanks Ashley.  Unfortunately I still have my benefits with that job and even if I got the new job next week I couldn't get them until after the wedding since you're not allowed to request a day off for 6 weeks upon starting your benefits so the earliest I could leave is July. 

diamondx423

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : We get most of our tips pre-stacked but this one size we don't.  In the time he spent talking to me about it he could have had a few done.  Trust me, I did throw the bag at him.  Well, the table in front of him so he didn't complain about that too.  He was the one doing the western blot and needed the tips.  I seriously don't get why he had to interrupt me analyzing MRIs to do it for him.  He seriously didn't even need 10 tips!
Posted by MMRoberts11[/QUOTE]

I do westerns all the time; unless he's running the gel you need a like 2 tips every hour or something; depending on how long you incubate an antibody. And he's going to bring this up to your boss? What a diva!!

sweet_melissa81

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[QUOTE]I am pissed at FI. We got in a fight last night (via Skype, that's how we talk right now until he comes home) about, of all things, the punishments that were handed down on the Saints by the NFL (we're from/I live in New Orleans). We have opposing viewpoints on it and were calmly discussing it and I wasn't even taking it very seriously. All of a sudden he got all butt hurt, told me he'd talk to me tomorrow, and hung up on me. A few minutes later, he posted an article about it on Facebook with a comment that was a vent about people who feel the opposite. So I Facebook chatted him (I know this all sounds so juvenile, but we currently live in different countries, so I can't just call him--we have to communicate through the Internet, whether it's via Skype, Facebook, e-mail, AIM, etc.) and he was rude to me and just made me even madder. Usually he apologizes within 30 minutes, but he hasn't contacted me at all yet. Ughhhhhhh! He's under a lot of stress right now and I know part of it is that he's just taking it out on me, but it's so aggravating. That felt good to type out. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about posting relationship troubles on here because although I know not all relationships are perfect, most of us usually don't talk about anything bad about our relationships, so hopefully y'all don't think he's a jerk, haha!
Posted by courtneyclare103[/QUOTE]

LOL I think it's funny that you guys are fighting about football!

Don't feel bad for telling us! My fiance and I got into a huge fight about 6 months ago, so I bought all these books about "what to do before you get married". The first few lines in the books states, "First, don't get engaged before you have become sufficiently annoyed at and resentful of certain aspects of your partner's personality. It's essential to have the visceral experience of such annoyances and resentments in order to heightern your awareness and deepen your understanding regarding your partner's weaknesses and streangths. As a couple, you should have had many arguments and have resolved them well, resulting in greater intamacy."

I hope he contacts you soon to apologize. I'm sure in hindsight he knows this really isn't very big deal.

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]I am pissed at FI. We got in a fight last night (via Skype, that's how we talk right now until he comes home) about, of all things, the punishments that were handed down on the Saints by the NFL (we're from/I live in New Orleans). We have opposing viewpoints on it and were calmly discussing it and I wasn't even taking it very seriously. All of a sudden he got all butt hurt, told me he'd talk to me tomorrow, and hung up on me. A few minutes later, he posted an article about it on Facebook with a comment that was a vent about people who feel the opposite. So I Facebook chatted him (I know this all sounds so juvenile, but we currently live in different countries, so I can't just call him--we have to communicate through the Internet, whether it's via Skype, Facebook, e-mail, AIM, etc.) and he was rude to me and just made me even madder. Usually he apologizes within 30 minutes, but he hasn't contacted me at all yet. Ughhhhhhh! He's under a lot of stress right now and I know part of it is that he's just taking it out on me, but it's so aggravating. That felt good to type out. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about posting relationship troubles on here because although I know not all relationships are perfect, most of us usually don't talk about anything bad about our relationships, so hopefully y'all don't think he's a jerk, haha!
Posted by courtneyclare103[/QUOTE]

Uhh me and FI's worse fight ever--like the only time we've ever screamed at each other--and I think I called him an asshole--was over football related things. Absolutely been there..no judgement from me.  We all have our issues.

diamondx423

In Response to Re:Therapy Thursday:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday:I am pissed at FI. We got in a fight last night via Skype, that's how we talk right now until he comes home about, of all things, the punishments that were handed down on the Saints by the NFL we're from/I live in New Orleans. We have opposing viewpoints on it and were calmly discussing it and I wasn't even taking it very seriously. All of a sudden he got all butt hurt, told me he'd talk to me tomorrow, and hung up on me. A few minutes later, he posted an article about it on Facebook with a comment that was a vent about people who feel the opposite. So I Facebook chatted him I know this all sounds so juvenile, but we currently live in different countries, so I can't just call himwe have to communicate through the Internet, whether it's via Skype, Facebook, email, AIM, etc. and he was rude to me and just made me even madder. Usually he apologizes within 30 minutes, but he hasn't contacted me at all yet. Ughhhhhhh! He's under a lot of stress right now and I know part of it is that he's just taking it out on me, but it's so aggravating. That felt good to type out. Sometimes I feel selfconscious about posting relationship troubles on here because although I know not all relationships are perfect, most of us usually don't talk about anything bad about our relationships, so hopefully y'all don't think he's a jerk, haha!Posted by courtneyclare103Uhh me and FI's worse fight everlike the only time we've ever screamed at each otherand I think I called him an assholewas over football related things. Absolutely been there..no judgement from me.nbsp; We all have our issues. Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

FI and I battled a few nights ago because he said Kate Middleton wasn't that pretty. Don't worry, we all feel passionately about inane things at times.

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : LOL I think it's funny that you guys are fighting about football! Don't feel bad for telling us! My fiance and I got into a huge fight about 6 months ago, so I bought all these books about "what to do before you get married". The first few lines in the books states, <strong>"First, don't get engaged before you have become sufficiently annoyed at and resentful of certain aspects of your partner's personality. It's essential to have the visceral experience of such annoyances and resentments in order to heightern your awareness and deepen your understanding regarding your partner's weaknesses and streangths. As a couple, you should have had many arguments and have resolved them well, resulting in greater intamacy."</strong> I hope he contacts you soon to apologize. I'm sure in hindsight he knows this really isn't very big deal.
Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]

This is incredibly awesome advice.

FI and I have actually had a huge hiatus since our last fight. Its super nice. Of course, I still get VERY annoyed at his dirty dishes in the sink and the fact that he's a MAJOR crab in the mornings, but no blow outs. Its been great.

My current vent is this: my FSILs are BMs in our wedding, BOTH have said they would go by their dress "this week" 2 weeks ago. They officially have one week and 2 days left to order them (according to DB), since I have messaged both on FB numerous times, I don't want to continue to hound them. I will have to make FI do it, and I know he's going to be BEAT from working a 70 hour week...this will be super fun to get him to do this weekend. Ugh.

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : I do westerns all the time; unless he's running the gel you need a like 2 tips every hour or something; depending on how long you incubate an antibody. And he's going to bring this up to your boss? What a diva!!
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

He was running the gels but he was only running two of them and had under 30 samples so still not even that much. 
He brings everything up to my boss if he doesn't think it's something I should be doing.  He's a HUGE diva!  Every time my boss is away he gets the "PhD god mentality" and thinks everyone should do anything he wishes.  It's really annoying since lately my boss has been going on interviews often and I have to put up with him.