June 2012 Weddings

Music and fiance frustration!

My fiance is really frustrating right now!  As of now we have no music for our wedding.  The original plan was that fiance's brother who does sound engineering for different bands and performances was going to set up all the music for us which I was fine with because I was confident in his work.  Well turns out that he might be on tour with a band during our wedding and he doesn't know if he'll be able to do the music.  

I would like to look into hiring a DJ but for some reason my fiance doesn't even want to consider it.  All he tells me is that he doesn't like the microphone guys.  I try to tell him that the DJ is not going to be talking the whole night.  I just want someone there who knows what they are doing.  

My fiance wants to ask his other brother who does similar work to his other brother but I would feel so weird asking him to do it.  His other brother who was supposed to do it offered to do it for us.  First, the brother he wants to ask now has a daughter who is one of our flower girls and I don't want him to miss her walking down the aisle.  Second, in the five years I've been with my fiance I think I've understood maybe like 5 things that this brother has said.  He talks so low and it just sounds like mumbling.  I want to be able to talk to the person doing our music.  Third, I don't feel as confident in the work he does.  I've never seen him work before and I just don't feel comfortable with it.  I've explained all of this to my fiance and his solution to that is to just have someone set up the sound system and we'll do the music.

I'm trying so hard to make our wedding day as stress free as possible and I just feel like booking a DJ without my fiance.  It's just so frustrating right now and my fiance doesn't seem like he cares.  

Just needed to get that out, we've had several "discussions" about this and it doesn't seem to be getting anywhere.  I just don't know what to do anymore.

Re: Music and fiance frustration!

  • That sounds frustrating.  I think a fair compromise would be for your FI to just meet with a few DJs.  If he doesn't like the style of lots of talk [neither do I], I'm sure there are DJs that are more "minimialist."  S/he would also be your vendor, so you can ask they meet your requirements before booking.

    Your FI can then accept or reject a DJ based on concrete facts and not abstract ideas of what DJs have to offer.

    Good luck!
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  • I understand your frustration, my FI is VERY picky about music and he is terrified of having a DJ that sounds like a "sports announcer." We went to one wedding where the DJ announced the WP like the guy from WWE wrestling and I think it scarred FI for life! THe DJs we looked at all had samples of them MC-ing on their websites, as well as links to YouTube videos. I think you should shop around and see what links you can find, then meet with the DJ in person (or on the phone is you aren't in the same area) and hopefully that will give your FI peace of mind.

    I would also stress to the DJ that you do not want him to hog the mic, he should only speak when annoucing things like the key dances, cake cutting, etc.
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  • We are probably as pickyas your FI...my FI is a radio host. Here's our perspective: the DJ is an MC, literally, a Master of Ceremonies. They are critical in keeping the momentum going at the reception. Just because someone likes music doesn't mean they can handle that job.
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