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Wedding Planning Drama Recap

desi2002desi2002 member
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Since my wedding is in 2 days... I just wanted to share how far I have come. 

I started planning my wedding 2 years ago. At the time, my date was set for December 30, 2010. I had this whole "White Diamond Winter" theme all planned out. I was sooo excited. But things changed when I had unexpectedly gotten pregnant, so I pushed the wedding to March 2011 (with my girl Eagles!)

It was really sad when I ended up miscarrying. It was a really hard time for me, so I took a break from TK for a minute, because I was a little ashamed to tell everyone the bad news... and that because of the miscarriage, I had moved the date again... to July.

Once I was ready to come back, I put a lot of effort into a Peacock  inspired event. I was having the worst luck with incorporating Peacock into the Ceremony, so I dissed that theme too. I ended up being a "Pretty in Pink" bride. 

As far as vendors go... sheesh. I lost $1000 with the first venue that I booked with. They double booked my date and asked me to pick another date or forfeit. I ended up forfeiting and picking another venue just as amazing, for a waaay better price. Its about an hour drive for me, but the deal Im getting is worth it.

I recently lost my wedding planner. She has to get foot surgery this week and needs 2 weeks recovery. I was bummed, but I got my money back, so I was happy about that.

My CAKE DRAMA! The bakery that I picked has awful customer service, but the cake is AMAZING!! The owners mother told me that my cake wasn't expensive enough to travel to LA, and that they were putting more work into my cake than it was even worth. I couldn't believe it! 

My dj is the best ever. He was my first vendor and has been with me through the entire process. I just talked to him today and he said he's gifting me FREE LIGHTING! I am so happy, my wedding will be amazing!

I changed dresses. The first dress I bought was pretty... but it wasn't amazing. The dress I have now is AMAZING!!

Wow, I know that was long, but I just wanted to share with you guys the stuff I was too embarrassed to  share before. I felt like I was drama queen with all that stuff. LOL. 
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  • PB-Bride2010PB-Bride2010
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    edited December 2011
    OMG.....Desi, I remember you going through all of this. We started on the knot about the same time. I have always admired your strength. All of the things you were going through could have broken anyone down. However, you knew God was in control and I recall you always giving him praise despite your circumstances. I'm so happy for you girl and I can't wait to see your pics and hear about your recap! Enjoy the moment my knottie friend!!!
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  • happe2getherhappe2gether member
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    edited December 2011
    No need to feel like a DQ because we are all here for each other.  And I'm sure we've all felt at one time or another like that DQ.  I'm just happy for you and glad to hear the updates that will make your wedding come true!!  Best wishes for you on your wedding this weekend!
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  • 2010Bride2be2010Bride2be
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know much about your story, but I'm so happy for you that your day is almost here! You deserve it!
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  • eagles347eagles347
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    edited December 2011
    Desi, I'm so happy that things have come full circle and that you are only a few hours away from your beautiful wedding! I am sorry that you felt ashamed, but I do understand. I wish that I could have been there for you as you were for me with kind words and encouragement when I confided in you about my pregnancy and miscarriage last year. You have remained faithful through all of your trials and I am certain that God will continue to see you through all that life brings your way.

    Congratulations to you and your family!

    P.S. Do you remember our alliance on the month board with the whole mod situation...pure comedy in hindsight. ;)
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  • djscatdjscat
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    edited December 2011
    ((((HUGS))))  Girlie just look at how far you have come.  God saw you through it all.  Excited for you to finally get you special day.  Have fun and ENJOY it.  You so deserve it.  Congratulations!
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  • prettymami2prettymami2
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    edited December 2011
    Girl I realized through this process that we have to go through this and that to get to where we need to be. I soooooo understand and love the recap of it all. Good Luck and I can't wait to see pics.
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  • lil01lil01
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    edited December 2011
    No need to feel embarrassed of anything. Sorry that you've had to go through those things, but it makes you stronger in the end. God is good cause he brought you through it. Congrats on getting ready to become a Mrs!!!
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  • hatroopeshatroopes member
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    edited December 2011
    You've come a long way and I'm sure your wedding will be awesome. Cant wait to see pics :)
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  • FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I am sending a major hug to you! 

    You are far from a drama queen.  People tend to label others as that if they complain about anything especialy brides.   The issues that you had with the venue or the baker would are worth getting upset about.

    What's important now is that your day is almost here.  Soak it in and enjoy it.
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  • desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_wedding-planning-drama-recap?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:05861591-6e0c-4a0b-b06c-04d80b9fe920Post:da37469d-4575-4c05-8dbd-9ec728bbc622">Re: Wedding Planning Drama Recap</a>:
    [QUOTE]Desi, I'm so happy that things have come full circle and that you are only a few hours away from your beautiful wedding! I am sorry that you felt ashamed, but I do understand. I wish that I could have been there for you as you were for me with kind words and encouragement when I confided in you about my pregnancy and miscarriage last year. You have remained faithful through all of your trials and I am certain that God will continue to see you through all that life brings your way. Congratulations to you and your family! P.S. <strong>Do you remember our alliance on the month board with the whole mod situation...pure comedy in hindsight. ;)</strong>
    Posted by eagles347[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes! LOL! How funny! Thank you so  much for everything, I always know that I was always able to come to you about anything because of your honesty. I love that you are able so say how you feel, in a tactful way. I admire that about you. </div>
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  • desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_wedding-planning-drama-recap?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:05861591-6e0c-4a0b-b06c-04d80b9fe920Post:b7c55b43-6508-4912-b07a-a35530d536e7">Re: Wedding Planning Drama Recap</a>:
    [QUOTE]OMG.....Desi, I remember you going through all of this. <strong>We started on the knot about the same time</strong>. I have always admired your strength. All of the things you were going through could have broken anyone down. However, you knew God was in control and I recall you always giving him praise despite your circumstances. I'm so happy for you girl and I can't wait to see your pics and hear about your recap! Enjoy the moment my knottie friend!!!
    Posted by PB-Bride2010[/QUOTE]

    <div>I know! A lot of us disappeared, and the ones that stayed are considered "old school knotties"  LOL. Thanks for your support these last 2 years!</div>
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  • desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you ladies! Thank you for all the support, i makes me feel special! Love  you girls!
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  • DancerppfDancerppf member
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    edited December 2011
    It wasn't easy but you got through it. Thank you for sharing your story because it might offer strength to another bride going through hard times. Can't wait to see the photos of the wedding that was obviously meant to be in July 2011!!!!
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  • sheshedukeshesheduke member
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    edited December 2011
    Congratulations lady you have been through a lot but it is exactly what he needed you to go through to get you exactly where you needed to be 2 days from being a Mrs. Many blessings coming your way and I will be waiting for pictures and a recap. Enjoy it!
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  • eagles347eagles347
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_wedding-planning-drama-recap?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:05861591-6e0c-4a0b-b06c-04d80b9fe920Post:7a7ff5da-770a-4d1e-88c0-63173a6f2b46">Re: Wedding Planning Drama Recap</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Planning Drama Recap : Yes! LOL! How funny! Thank you so  much for everything, I always know that I was always able to come to you about anything because of your honesty. I love that you are able so say how you feel, in a tactful way. I admire that about you. 
    Posted by desi2002[/QUOTE]

    <div>Aww...this brought me to tears. I used to talk soooooo much, often without thinking first so this is something that I have had to work on for years. I'm so glad that you are able to view me as tactful because it is truly a practice. Please know that the feelings of admiration are mutual. You have tremendous faith and an amazing spirit and you deserve every blessing that comes your way.</div>
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