RSVPs

MsBriaB

Hi Ladies-

I sent my invitations out last Saturday, and I started getting RSVPs this past week. I'm glad that people are responding so quickly. However, I already have two guests that have added extra guests to their cards. Do people not realize that the invitation is only for who it is addressed to? My coordinator, which is my FSIL, has already agreed to call those who try RSVP with extra guests. So far, the people that have added extra guests are my family members. I kind of feel like I should call them myself since they are my family members. I really would love to accomodate everyone, but weddings are pricey. 

Is anyone else having issues with people RSVP'ing for extra people??

Ky925

I haven't sent my invites out yet.  However, I am preparing for RSVP issues.  We were just at a wedding where one of our friends rsvp'd and added 2 additional guests, all I can say is "This ain't gonna be me!!".  I really just think people do not understand the idea that you only RSVP for those listed on the invite.  Do your RSVP have a spot that says # of guests attending??  I was considering leaving that our entirely, bit keep going back and forth....

brittanyl8605

My RSVP deadline is next week and I've had this issue quite often. I call or have my mom of FI call and let them know that seating is limited. Mostly everyone understands and it honestly seems like many just really think they can bring whoever they want. My advice is stand firm on your decision and do not allow extras. You'll be happy when the reception bill comes!

kaimah

I'm getting married next year, but I'm very afraid of people just showing up. My venue can only hold 200 people. The guest list is currently 240. My family is from Africa and typically, we have "losers" just show up because they know your family. 

mrsnana

My  rsvp date is for next week. I have many people from oot of say "they don't know" if they are coming or they are giving me an unsure yes. The 24th is the last day for the hotel reservations at a great price 69 and after that date it goes to the normal price of $100+ a night (i got a great deal) so i am going to call the hotel and if those people have not put in reservations at the hotel I am counting them out as a no. and then I will let them know that since i haven't received your rsvp and it's past the date, I'm telling them I turned in my FINAL numbers already and no changes can be made.  Is that mean?

msapril0730

If you can't budget them in then I think its fine to tell them no. Allowing people to bring extra guest can get out of hand. I had people RSVP with 2-7 extra guest. We just called them to inform them that the invite is only for the people it has been addressed to. We made a exception for a few OOT guest and they ended up not even coming!

codom

We sent out a bunch of rsvps but have gotten a handful back (thank goodness lol) we estimated 140 so far only 49 rsvp'd but most of the no response is due to the fact people wanna bring thier kids n use this as a family reunion /vacation and they know the only children at the reception will be those in the wedding pArty

MsBriaB

Ky925-My RSVP does include a spot for people to write the number of guests. I was on the fence about including it, but decided to go ahead use it. 

Today, my grandmother asked if her neighbor could come, because the neighbor can give her a ride to the wedding. WTH??? When my dad told her we are paying per person, my grandmother said that we don't really need to count her because shes not going to eat. By the way, my grandmother does not need a ride, there are other family members that she can ride with. I just think she wants to invite her neighbor. 

lisa4766

Just a suggestion...
Tell those who have RSVP's with extra guests that you will count their RSVP and let them know at a later date if you have room for the other person(s). But be clear that the extras at this point are not invited. Most RSVP dealines are a month before the wedding, so that still gives the extras time to accept the "B" wedding invite.  If they still hoop and holler, then tell your guest that the answer is NO, their extra can not come at all.  
It is your wedding, they will get over it.