~~KASPER~~

Ladysun083

hey girl,I logged off yesterday and just saw your post, you know I will be praying for you ( i always include bless all my knottie girls) before I go to bed, so ill send a special shoutout to you...Now if you go the DW route, email me!! thats what im doing and the only expense we have is getting there, your friends n fam will want to come and with time and making it easy most will...  hit me up and I can give you some ideas..Ladysun0@yahoo

msnelly

Hi Ladysun & Kasper,I'm butting in if you don't mind.  Kasper I burst into tears this morning when I read your post.  Just when I thought I was the only one going thru this situation, I read you post and realized that your situation is very similiar to mind.  My FI and I just had this conversation on last night. He really wants to have a wedding but I'm leaning more toward the DW at this point. For one some of the people closest to me that I thought would be happy for me and there to support me really aren't. More than anything my mom hurt me.  I have asked her on several occasions to accompany me to fittings, bridal shows, appointments, etc and she is always too busy.  The final straw was on yesterday when she told me the family was going a cruise one month before my wedding day, but she knew we couldn't afford to go because of the wedding.  I am not apart of this family or something. I felt that was so selfish. After that I decided that my FI and I along with very close friends can just have a DW and vacation all in one and call it day.  With that said LadySun can you e-mail whatever info you have to cbsinging (at) yahoo (dot) com.And Kasper I'm praying for you girl.  Thanks for listening ladies and letting me vent.

the cat

Another butt in. I had lunch with a girl yesterday who did a DW to Mexico. All they spend was $5000 and their stuff was very nice. It was the total package too..dj, cake, pics, flowers, etc... For just a few dollars extra, maybe you can wing a ticket and room for about 2 or 3 people to share in that with you. I know moving a wedding date is very stressful...especially making the decision to move it BACK instead of forward. You have to weigh your pros and cons. Go ahead and get that big long yellow sheet of legal paper and draw a line down the middle. Get to work on that and you'll probably feel better afterward...it will be the best decision. In the words of the late great MJ - You are not alone.

Ladysun083

Oh wow, she did a formal reception?  See im not doing a formal reception, the resort is AI, has a club, casino, tons of restauraunts, so after the ceremony, pics etc, im asking the resort to reserve an area at one of the AI restauraunts that sits by the water and we will be on the beach later that night partying it up (with a fire and my Ihome, lol) maybe, followed by hitting casino then the club....I will be emailing you shortly..and I am so sorry that your fam is being that way, you want me to fight them?? :-) don't worry honey you are not the only one..you learn peoples true colors

kasper923

Thanks for the knottie prayers and well wishes, ladies.  At this point, I am spent.  I'm tired of fighting for something I don't HAVE to have.  I'm just not going to make a decision yet because as CAT said, I haven't weighed my pros and cons.  I'm going on vacation next week and will think it over and speak with FI and my parent's about it and go from there.  To PP (sorry I forgot to look at your name again) I'm sorry you're having to go through the nonsense too.  I truly believe all things happen for a reason and am eager to see what good things God has in store for us.  God Bless and Good Luck!

Ladysun083

Ok mama keep us posted and let me know if ya'll want me to fight his daddy

mahoganieyes

Msnelly I will say a prayer for you too.

the cat

I'm with LadySun. I have 0 problems fighting a man. Ask my ex husband! Our prayers are with both you ladies. This really is no time for people to be laying bullsh*t in your laps.