NWR.....Having a sad day....

dst10spr97

I am blessed enough to have a tight group of best friends. Sisters really. We've been friends all of our lives. I mean since we were old enough to learn to write. We've grown up together.  Been through elementary school together, jr high, high school, proms, bad breakups, our first periods, kids, everything. And when you have friends like that they become family, and their family becomes your family as well.  Unfortunately throughout all of the good times, we've all dealt with some bad times as well. We have always been there for eachother. Out of the group of us, 3 have parents that are dealing with cancer and/or siblings that are ill. One has been dealing with taking care of a mother with colon cancer. Another has a brother with full blown AIDS as well as a mother with colon cancer. Still another has a mom with lung cancer who had surgery to have part of her lung removed and still won't stop smoking and a father who has prostate cancer. Last night one of my friends mom went home to be with the lord and ending her battle with colon cancer. After receiving word I was finally able to fall asleep, but I was restless. About 1 AM I got the call that my friends brother (the one with AIDS) closed his eyes for the last time at 12:51 AM. I'm broken hearted and saddened that I have lost part of my extended family. But part of me is happy. Happy because they are no longer in pain. Happy because I know where there spirit lies. Happy because my friends can get some peace, because anybody that has ever been a caretaker knows how it can drain the life out of you as well. But am I wrong to be glad but still be sad at the same time?In honor of them I am changing my signature photo.

missevans

No, you are both glad and sad for the right reasons. You're glad that they are no longer suffering and sad because, as with us all, losing a loved one is difficult.  I'm sending prayers from Atlanta to you and your extended family.  My God give you all strength to stand strong in this difficult time.  The good thing though is that there is a group of you and you all will create a circle of strength for each other to lean on.  That's pivotal in the healing process. 

clross01

No, you are not wrong to want the people you to love suffer no more. Ditto, to the previous post as well.. Its hard to see people you love struggle with a disease as well as, see the caretaker do all they can do but it still doesn't take the pain away.. I too send prayers from Atlanta to you and your extended family. Clross01  

Spim7

My thoughts and prayers are with you , your friends & their families. Losing people is always a sad thing but understanding that for them it has put an end to their suffering as well as their families being able to stop watching the process of them passing through life is a blessing and allows room to feel thankful that they have moved on to a better place.

blue19violet

I'm sorry for you loss. No, you want him to no longer be in pain so it's perfectly natural that you would feel this way.

milana1023

I am sorry to hear of your losses and I'll be keeping you and your friends/family in my prayers. No feelings are wrong, they're your feelings. And you're right, what's most important is that they are no longer in pain.

dst10spr97

Thank you ladies. Both of the funeral arrangements will be made today so I will be traveling to my home town for the services this week. I am thankful to have so much love around me, my fiance was there when I got the call. He helps me to be strong so that I can be strong for my friends.

Lovie 129

No, you are not wrong to be happy and sad, they are emotions that coexist together. Allow yourself to embrace your emotions, give yourself time to mourn. Sometimes the best thing to do or say is nothing at all. You have a bond with your sister-friends that goes beyond words and actions, I'm sure. God moves in quiet moments, and we feel Him when we're still.

mandikaykay

You are definitely not wrong for feeling what you are feeling.  I am praying for you and your friends, that you all may be comforted knowing that they are in His care.  Revelations 21:1-5 always provides comfort for me, I hope for you it can do the same.  "God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away."

alfdallas21

so sorry to hear about your friend's mother's passing as well as your friend's brother's passing...your feelings are natural and you should not question them at all...you uphold their memory in the best way that helps you coop with it...my heart goes out to you and your extended family.

dst10spr97

Lovie your quote made me teary eyed. I was just telling my fiance that I am slowly but coming to terms with my miscarriage. I said maybe our child was so perfect God decided to keep him or her with him. And I say the same thing about my friends mom and my friends brother. God had plans for them both. I said God will always tell you what's best for you if you just take the time to listen. I called my friend who lost her mom this morning to check on her and she just cried and cried. But I knew she would be okay because in the midst of her tears she said "heffa I know you are not calling me using up all my daytime minutes". And she laughed a little (she's always been the friend that super frugal/cheap).

KimRhone

You are definitely not wrong. I have dealt with some of the same losses as you have it is only right for you to be both happy and sad. The sick family members who passed on are no longer suffering and in pain. Although your friends may be hurting and grieving, time will pass and their lives will eventually return to "normal". Now they can try to find some happiness within their own lives again. Prayer works.

the cat

Girl I am soooo sorry to hear this. If it ain't one thing it's another. I, like most of us, have been where u are. My dear friend lost her battle with breast cancer 3 years ago. I was never all that close to my grandparents, my parents are still living, as well as all my siblings. Tina was the first person I lost that really caused me that kind of pain. BUT as you said...it was extremely hard seeing my ride or die BFF lose her hair (she was a hair stylist so hers was ALWAYS on point) get sick from the radiation and chemo, and just be a shell of the person she used to be. You are in no way wrong to not want your friend's mom to be in such mysery. Sending long hugs!

pretteone

Wow...sorry for your loss.  I don't think you're wrong.  It's hard to watch people you love suffer.  Take comfort in knowing they are resting peacefully and have to suffer no more.  I'll be praying for you and their families.  God Bless!

jonsmeshondra

Of course you are not wrong for feeling the way you do! As everyone else has pretty much already said...It's ok to feel sad because you miss the people that are now gone. But of course, now they are in a better place...no more hurt and no more pain. God be with you and your friends family in your time of grief.

proverbs31bride09

I'm sorry to hear this. Prayers going out for you and their families.You are not wrong to be glad. It's hard to think, hear, and/or see someone suffer. I been down the road of not only thinking/hearing but actually taking care of someone who was in pain and suffering. It was an Ex from the past who died from stomach cancer. While I was sad to see him die at the same time I was glad and celebrating because he was able to go home to a better place and be with the heavenly father.Those who die after a battle with a disease finally get the peace and rest that they have not received in quite a long time.

aquarius125

My prayers are with you and ur friends and family..

dst10spr97

Thanks yall. I miss them already. I was just sitting at work laughing remembering all the fun we used to have with him and his friends. He was always the life of the party. Kind of reminded you of Dwight from Real Housewives (without the nose job of course). Loved by everybody. That funeral is going to be packed. And Ms. Bush was the first parent to let us use her car without trying to put a lowjack on us.  It was Buick Skylark and that sucka would never start whenever it got to cold. We thought we were so cute in that car, going to the mall with our summer job program checks.

Lovie 129

Leave it to friends to make us laugh. I'm glad I was one of the many women on this board to ease your day. Have a relaxing evening, love the one your with!! LOL

foxxy1

Blessings to you and your friends and family. You have every reason to be both glad and sad at the same time. Bless you.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

Prayer that you can help your friends through some of the toughest times in their lives.....