Hypothetical Question

KimRhone

If you found out that you were pregnant 7 months before your wedding wwyd? Try to push the wedding back, move it forward or keep it the same and find a maternity dress?

blue19violet

I guess I'll probably have to stop fainting before being able to make that decision. If I really loved my dress then I'd push it up so that I can wear it. Even if I don't, I'd get my Pastor to marry us cause it would be important (TO ME) to have us married before the kid is born.

SHAWNEE31

good question. For me it would be a pain to move it eaither way because most of the guest are out of the country / state. I would move it up otherwise. Note to self make sure i do not get pregant.

NELCORP

I would move it up. For a couple of reasons. I wouldn't want to be showing during my wedding, so i can wear the dress I already have and to puch back would mean planning a wedding and raising a newborn, while working and all the other day to day duties...too much on my plate. This happened to me but I'll be almost five months at the wedding and not showing. Is someone pregnant?

dst10spr97

For me I decided to get married sooner, so I moved it forward. I didn't want to deal with a new baby and the wedding stress to.

Ladysun083

Kim..shut yo mouth!! I swear i think about this at least once a day ::scouts honor:: idk..all the times i think about it i still dont know

nubiannqween

Personally...I would be majorly pissed off! Then I'd get over it and move up the wedding date.

KimRhone

Ok so it's me!!! I was pissed off and now I am over it. I want to be married before the baby comes but the day we chose is his parents wedding anniversary and we want to keep that. It's in April but I will be huge by then. I have been trying to get an appt. with my gyn for 3 months so I could get on bc but in June all they had were Sept appts and just my luck I get pregnant in August. WHat is a girl to do?????

bigshow2882

I would probably move the Wedding date up. I would to look great in my dress.

NELCORP

Aww Kimmie, I knew it it's pregnant woman intuition. You get pissed or disappointed like I did, and then make a decision and stick with it. I've seen beautiful brides fully pregnant showing and all and the wedding was very nice and nothing was taken away. But if you wait it will be hard to do everything all at once.

NELCORP

The real question is...how important is it that you don't stray from the date? If you can pick another date and live with the fact that it's not on the anniversary date then move it up, if you can't live with it then walk the aisle in a beautiful maternity gown.

mahoganieyes

Awww Congrats!

KimRhone

That date is important to us because his father passed away 4 years ago and it is basically to honor him. I hope that I can find a beautiful gown. I already had my gown and everything picked out. At least, we will be marrieds before the baby gets here 

alfdallas21

first off CONGRATS Kim!!!...I know this is probably something that you did not want to happen but it did...so happy, happy - joy, joy ((clapping my hands like in elementary...LOL!)!!!...so your choices are (1) keep your current date (which means you will really pregnant big or have had the baby) (2) move the date up or (3) wait until after the baby is born to do it...honestly -- I would move the date up IF you can live with your decision and can physically/financially make it happen earlier...oh what about scaling your wedding down to a very private but classy affair to lessen the stress on you & FI (mainly you though) if you do consider moving the date up??...CONGRATS again and GL with whatever you decide.   

NELCORP

Great decision to keep the date. That's what I did. There are a lot of pretty maternity dresses out there. Just an idea: but you can sell your curent dress and thenuse that $$ for the new one. You're going to look so pretty and radiant especially now that your skin will be glowing due to the baby. And then later you can tell your boy/girl you were with mommy and daddy at the most important day of our lives together.

KimRhone

Thanx ladies! I really appreciate the advice. I just keep think that I will be huge on that day. I was thinking that we could scale it way down. The FI and I will have some quit time this weekend (driving to VA) so we can make our decision from there.

ddyoung

Awww congrats! And I think about this every day too! (like ladysun lol) And I am always like, ok if I get pregnant TODAY then I will have the baby before the wedding lol...but its looking like I've passed that day now...Good luck with your decision-making! I love the idea of honoring FI's father.  Or maybe you can guys can have a very small private affair or even just go to the courthouse on their wedding anniversary and then after you have the baby do a big reception or even on your 1 year anniversary.  Perhaps you could pick another special day such as his father's bday or something to do the reception while still getting legally married on their anniversary. Because even if you don't have the big shindig this year, that day will be special for the rest of your lives because it will be your anniversary. GL!

bigshow2882

Oh Congrats to you and your FI!

Ladysun083

Congrats Kimmy!! I to had a feeling it was you... we're here for you..I'sisters :-D

OFF

CONGRATS!

SHAWNEE31

congrats kim, also meet with teh photographer before your wedding they will show you how to pose in which you will look your best

Soon 2 B Mrs. Wells

First congrats on the baby. I say keep the date, especially since it has sentiment.My girlfriend just got married this past August and she was 5 months pregnant at the time. She still looked stunning baby bump and all. She had a corset back dress, she kept the dress she originally chose and her seamstress created tummy space. They even have cute photos of their hands on her tummy in he gown. She still got her party on too! :)Best of luck with your decision.

Lady Redrum

I'm actually dealing with this same issue right now. Our wedding was planned for May 2010. We chose to move it up to October 2009. I'll still be able to wear my gown, just getting it adjusted.

the cat

Congrats to you and FI! I was 7 months PG when i married the first time. And guess what? I wore a white lace gown - LOL! Well it wasn't really a gown, it was a long dress. My wedding pics were so pretty cuz I had that PG glow. I say go for it. You have a very special wedding date and u might regret it later if you dont keep it. Now get someone to mix up the virgin drinks and have a ball!

KimRhone

We are still going to have a small ceremony on that date next year and then in 2011 we will have a the reception that we want. I appreciate all of you and redrum we are due at the same time. LOL

KimRhone

Sorry I thought u said you were due in May 2010.

ladylum

BTW, congratulations and as the other AA bride who is actually pregnant and getting married, we decided to keep the date. My due date is 3/20/10 and my wedding date is 5/8/10. My dress is a laceup so I am not too worried about it not fitting me, especially since I tend to lose weight while pregnant. I did ask for more room in the bust since I will nurse my child. As for you, prepare for the worst (sell the dress and get a maternity dress if you have to) but remember the wedding is just for you and your man to get married. The party can come later.

Spim7

I think I'd want to have a really small family only wedding ceremony ASAP and plan on having a big reception/ party with all of our friends and family after the baby is born and things have calmed down.

MrClintonsFirstLady09

After I stop crying then I would make the hard decision on what to do. Pushing the wedding back would depend on how far I am in my planning process. If we don't have much done then hell pushing it back won't be a problem. But if we are along a good bit then I would try to see if we could pull it off early (if financially things looked ok). As for that maternity wedding dress ....... we will try to avoid that one if at all possible lol. Find a nice dress flattering to the figure. Maternity just screams pregnant. No reminders needed. lol

MrClintonsFirstLady09

see this is what I get for not reading all those comments. Here I am stuck on brain dead thinking this question was "hypothetical". It is actually literal. Congrats Kim. May God bless you and FI. Now my original post still stands. If you guys want to try to pull off and you think you can then do it. Or have a small gathering with just close family and friends, then do something big later. Congrats again! Much luck and blessings to you and FI.

HisWifey82

Congrats...do whats best for you and the hubby!!!!!!!