African American Weddings

Relatives vs. Professionals

I will try not to be long... Ok during our initial process of planning our wedding, FI had a cousin who does DJ'ing for a living, and he offered to DJ our wedding. I told his cousin that for his time we would offer him a small monetary gift. And it was fine until cousin has now become MIA. FI keeps telling me not to worry about it and that the cousin will come thru. Well FI's family is not the most reliable honestly. Not saying they are bad they just do everything on CPT time. I am getting antsy about the whole thing and contacted a professional DJ service here in Charlotte. I do not want to get 3 mos to the wedding and no DJ. I got the contracts emailed to me from the company last night and we are meeting sometime in December to put the details in order, deposits, final payment schedule etc. This company has been on it since I contacted them. They have even found an affordable videographer for us. FI is dead set against hiring the DJ but I explained to him my fears, the inconsistencies, etc. What would you do if you were in this position?
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Re: Relatives vs. Professionals

  • edited December 2011
    I'd do exactly what you did. If his cuz doesn't show up, there's not a whole lot u can do except pout and hire someone to kick that azz. If a contracted professional doesn't show up, you get to do all the above AND get your money back AND give em bad reviews to hurt them pockets even more!
  • blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto cat to the letter.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree w/pp
  • edited December 2011
    I agree with Cat -- proceed as you are with the pro, find out about the cancellation clause...if/when cousin shows up, explain to him that you'd rather he enjoy himself at the wedding as a guest than to worry about working as the DJ (that's code for FOOL AINT NOBODY GOT TIME TO BE HOUNDING YOU, THIS IS A WEDDING NOT A BBQ, I NEEDED TO KNOW BACK IN SEPT'09 WHERE YOU AT & WHERE YOU BE CUZ YOU WERE PLAYIN WITH MY TIME!)
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    edited December 2011
    You did the right thing. I would go through and sign with a professional. Tell the FI you understand he doesn't want to hurt his cousin's feeling but you dont want to have to turn on the radio at your wedding either. Tell him to try contacting his cousin one more time and leave a msg that if he doesnt call back you're getting another DJ. That way we he doesnt call be you can say well hon we tried and you can move on a sign a contract with someone more reliable.
  • blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    lmao @ back in september 09. You getting straight gangsta when you add month and year.
  • edited December 2011
    LMAO I can't even get any work done I am laughing so hard at y'all. For real, that thang was bothering me because we cannot find Eugene anywhere. FI is the one who gets in touch with him. I told him the other day I was getting a DJ and that's that. Don't nobody have time for his day late relatives. The services are affordable and this company is legit. Where can you get a DJ for 6 hrs under $300? NO WHERE! So I have jumped on it. FI thinking about saving a buck and that's cool but why run the risk of having to plug my daughter's ipod into the sound system at the church and reception site to have music because his cousin fell thru? Ummm no. That is one cost I will gladly take. Hell I am use to it now.
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  • blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    lmao, can I love that his name is Eugene? Cause I do... I don't even know why.
  • edited December 2011
    lol yep his name is Eugene.
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  • edited December 2011
    blue - why did I spit out my ice when she said "Eugene"...I was like "Well hayle, there you go; you can't trust nobody named Eugene!"...LOL!  ;)
  • blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    alf, girl, i know i wasn't the only one to raise an eyebrow at eugene.
  • edited December 2011
    girl, I don't mix family with business..I straight up would hire a dj outside the family.
  • edited December 2011
    Go with whoever you feel most comfortable with! I have lots of friends, family, frat, and sorors who are very reliable and have recruited them for various aspects of my wedding (yes, i'm paying them). But I have many of the same who are not reliable and my wedding is too special to me to take a chance on them not showing up. If they take it personally, they don't understand business anyway... My FI still isn't very happy about it.From my perspective, you have enough to deal with and shouldn't have to add the stress of worrying if someone will be late or provide the product that's less than the quality promised.If you're worried about upsetting your FI, consider leaving the responsibility of this going smoothly with him. Maybe that could include a back-up DJ... Sorry I couldn't give a more definitive answer by HTH.
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies for your input. Alf beat me to it lol. I was bout to say Eugene------ well that says it all but hey I was not trying to be literally racial about it. But you already know what it is lol. Thanks again ladies.
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  • edited December 2011
    I agree with pp.  I think you did exactly what I would do.  In fact, can you tell me the name of the dj. Will they travel to Greensboro?  I'm still interviewing djs.
  • edited December 2011
    You know how I vote. Don't hire any family.  Go full out professionals. Don't want to fall out with firends/fam if something doesn't go like we planned and paid for.Cicy
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