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I did WHAT????

proverbs31bride09proverbs31bride09
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Ok, so words of wisdom (Although, I'm pretty sure you all are more on top of it then I am). This is why I would never plan a wedding again in the midst of a job layoff if I had to do it all over again (Way too much stress and it leads to delay, procastination, rushing, and messing things up) at least for me personally.So I asked about whether or not it was OK to include little inserts to say that my reception is heavy appetizers only since they were not added on the reception card. Well, I made the little inserts but apparently I FORGOT to put them in the invitations. It's too late now my invitations were mailed out. :( I can't believe I did that.The, my mom asked me did I include my registry information. HUH??????? I told my mom that it's not proper etiquette to do that and then we had this long discussion about that and she said every wedding invitation she has ever seen/received had the registry information included.Ladies, what do you think. Am I wrong??? I thought that was a big no-no and I didn't do it. So, then my mother asked me what if people want to know about what to get and don't have registry information. I go well if they are on our side they can call you or me and ask, or on my fiance's said they can call him or his mother and ask. Then, I also told her that if they decide that they do want to get us something then they can get what ever they want to get for us. My mother just sighs, and goes Oh, well. I can't believe I have 30 days left, OMG I know those 30 days are going to fly by. I finally found the Jr. Bridesmaid dresses and we got them for a really good deal. $28.00 a piece!!The flower girl dresses are $30.00 a piece!!My Mom/Aunt/Cousins are all coming together and really helping at the last minute. I been way too stress with this job ending at the end of this month. At least I will have a little time off to re-group, spend time with my fiance before having to think about looking for a new job. My fiance and I are trying to get our own business started though.The wedding dreams have started for me this week. I have had a couple nightmares but I also have had a couple of beautiful wedding dreams too. I'm so looking forward to my wedding day but at this point I will be so glad when it will get here and be over with.
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  • KimRhoneKimRhone
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    edited December 2011
    From what I've heard it isn't proper to include the registry information in the invitations. Maybe you can delegate someone to call the invitees and inform them of the reception and the registry.
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011
    Per wedding etiquette it is not good to put the registry information in with the invites. They are to go with the STD's. Now what you can do for those who have web access, just send a quick email letting everyone know where you are registered if they are interested in purchasing a gift from your registry. But I too have gotten registry information with invites. I didn't think anything of it. I was happy to know where they registered so I can get a gift, but others may think it is tacky. I posted this questions too a few months ago.As for everything else concerning mentioning about the heavy appetizers, your guest are coming for you. Food is just a bonus. I am sure they know they are eating something, so whether you are serving a full meal or not is irrelevant IMHO. Don't sweat that. Just concentrate on working on what you have control over and getting to your big day with as less stress as possible. Everything is going to work out to your good. Trust God and you will be fine. HTH
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  • proverbs31bride09proverbs31bride09
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    edited December 2011
      Thanks ladies!! I thought it was  not proper so I didn't send it out with the invitations. I thought my mom was going to have a stroke. MrsClinton-That's exactly what my fiance told me about people coming there for us if they are going to bother with coming from out of town plus he told me our reception is early enough where by the time it's done it will be dinner time and if people want to hit up some place else to eat then they can. My aunt told me not to worry about it because there will plenty of food to make people content.
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011
    Really feeding people at your reception is a courtesy. Etiquette calls for feeding people a meal if your wedding ceremony is later than 3pm. People kill me coming to folks weddings just to eat. If it was left up to FI he would have done a appetizer type thing too but we are getting married late in the day and on a Sunday so you know we gotta feed people. But girl please stop worrying about the food. If your guest are still hungry when it is over, they can do one of two things, eat before they get to your wedding or hit up Mickey D's or BK after the fact. You got better things to worry about.
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  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    Yah, you're right, putting registry information in your invitations is bad etiquette. And don't worry too much about the heavy appetizers inserts, what's done is done, and as long as there is plenty of food, no one should be complaining. Congrats on your wonderful dress finds and good luck in the coming weeks!
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  • bridecharismabridecharisma member
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    edited December 2011
    They say its bad ettiquette to put it in the invites. But the last invite I sent out for something my friends were a bit annoyed that I didn't put the info in it, so I put it. Their going to ask you anyway. Plus I dont really follow ettiquette too much- I'm having a cash bar with a certain # of drink tickets. As for your reception, heavy appetizers are fine, people do it all the time and no one's ever informed me ahead of time. My wedding is  in a few days, the 19th, I truly believe in not stressing over things you can't change. Who cares about whether you get meatballs and wings or chicken breast. When they leave your wedding they won't remember the food, they will remember if it was bad, but not what it was.
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  • Lovie 129Lovie 129
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    edited December 2011
    Registry information is given with engagement info. That gives people time to buy you gifts. Also gifts are not supposed to go to the wedding, they are to be sent to your parents house and put on display until after you come back from the honeymoon.You found $30 flower girl dresses????? That's shopping, my flower girl dress is $200.
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  • Lovie 129Lovie 129
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    edited December 2011
    LOL Lady...
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  • romeys_brideromeys_bride
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    edited December 2011
    @BrideCharisma, I have to disagree! People remember food at weddings more than they will remember what day it was on! Food at weddings have to be a HIT or the wedding will be a bust. This is the reason why catering companies charge so must, since food is a huge part of the day.
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