NWR: Work and being flexible....

Christynah

Hi ladies,I work at a Pharmecutical Company and today about 35 to 40 mins before I was about to walk out the door my boss asked me and the rest of the customer service reps to stay to help with an emergency that came up at the last minute. Well I had to go pick up my dress from the bridal store because the alterations lady ironed it for me and she is only there 1 day a week. So my boss was pissed that I told her no I couldn't stay. Now I'm in fear that I might lose my job over this because she has asked me to stay in the passed but since I've been planning the wedding I haven't been able to. I'm honestly scared to go back to work tomorrow out of fear that I might be jobless soon. What do you think ladies? Am I wrong and not flexiblie enough? Should I put my job first and my life second?By the way, I don't like my job at all and I went on an interview yesterday and there's a large possiblity that I got the other job. But I'm waiting to hear back from them before I give my current job my resignation letter. I might delete later thanks ladies.

pinkpanther_truck

I completely understand where you're coming from... No, you should NOT put your job first and your life second. I've never heard any stories of someone reaching the end of their time on earth and saying "dang, I wish I'd spent more time at the office!"I say put your make-up on, do your hair, put on your baddest shoes, go back to work, and stand firm on your decision. This time it's your wedding dress, but what if it's your daughter (hypothetically speaking)?I had a co-worker that worked 50-60 hours per week. He was the first in the office and last to leave everyday. He even came in to work the morning of his wedding day. Yes, SERIOUSLY... ANNNNND, he had pretty much planned his wedding (I couldn't believe it either, but some other folks verified, he was a groomzilla). But guess, what... when our company had layoffs, he was one of the first to go. 10 years of service and time missed with his friends and family and that's how they said "Thanks!"Pray on it and it will work out exactly how it's supposed to work out. God's got your back. GL.

alfdallas21

pinkpanther summed it up perfectly in her true life example...you do have a life and you have to try to schedule stuff AFTER you've worked your required time...you cannot control how your boss viewed your action but you can control your actions - stay focused, continue to do the best you do while you're at work... maybe you could speak to your boss and just let her know that you would have helped out with the project but you already had a committment this evening...HTH!

Christynah

Thanks ladies your advice really helps me feel better. pinkpanther_truckThat's a crazy story about your co worker.  ON HIS WEDDING DAY!! Now that is ridiculous! It's amazing how company's operate.  I did leave out a small detail, and that is I started working at this Company in April of this year and I now as a new employee that doesn't look good on my part so that's why I'm more worried then normal. But I'm there on time every day since my start date and I do my job to the best of my ability.I will being praying about this and the other job I interviewed for.

trevette1981

Yep, don't worry about work. It will be there. It's not like you just wanted to go look at wedding invitations instead of helping out. The lady is only there once a week.Don't worry so much. Just pray about it. I taught middle school back in 2006. I worked with a girl who came in on SUNDAYS. Unlike other jods, we do NOT get paid for those hours. She tried to get me to come in with her. Nah, I'm not one of those who is a slave to their job. I don't care how it makes me look to not work past the hours I am paid for, I'm not doing it.LOL I'm not stressing myself out and getting sick from it.

Lovie 129

I agree with Pink, get your gear right and go to work like any other day. If you don't like your job, you should not be there, no job is worth staying for if it's not what you want. I hope you get the position you applied for. Keep your head up.

KimRhone

I think that you life comes first and work second. Your boss knows that you are planning your wedding and should understand. Hopefully you landed the other job and you don't have to really worry about this one

dawnbeatty

I agree with what pp are saying.  Just pray on it.  Go to work as normal and try to not let it bother you.  Good thing is you already have a plan B in place. Let us know how it turns out.  I send up some knottie vibes for you girl.

MrClintonsFirstLady09

All the ladies summed up everything I really wanted to say but I think another amen from the pew is in order. Your boss, I am sure, knows you are getting married. The lady who has your dress is only in her shop one day a week. When were you suppose to pick up your dress if you didn't do it tonight? Unless she deemed it manadatory for you to stay, your job is secure. I worked in HR. Your boss asking you to work past your required time is of your discretion. You worked your hours you were suppose to. Technically she cannot do or say anything. The only way it would come into question is if it was MANDATORY. Which in this case is not the case, so screw it. Go into work on time as you normally would do and do you. I would not lose another ounce of precious time worrying about that. I hope and pray you get the job you really want and will make you happier. HTH

mandikaykay

I agree with pp.  You are flexible as you demonstrated that when asked to stay late on prior occasions.  However, you should not feel guilty for having a life.  You should simply say, "I'm sorry but I have another commitment that I cannot get out of".  Don't feel guilty.

Christynah

WOW!! Thanks ladies I knew if I posed the question here I would get great answers./cs/ks/user/default.aspx?UserName=MrClintonsFirstLady09','_blank','toolbar=0,location=0,directories=0,status=0,menubar=0,copyhistory=0,width=990,height=700,scrollbars=1,resizable=1' )">MrClintonsFirstLady09 You know my boss did say "it's kinda mandatory that you stay" and I think she said that is because she was in a panic and needed as many people to stay as possible. Granted I could have said I can stay an extra half hour but then I have to go, but that didn't happened plus I was tired and wanted to go home. I kinda figured since they requested that I come in early today (which I did) then it wasn't a big deal. Oh yea and the alterations lady is only there on Weds, and I didn't want to wait another week to pick up my dress. It's so amazing when things are going right in your life something little like this happens to dampen your mood.Well, I will be praying all the way to work tomorrow and throughout the day that I can keep this job long enough to get the other one. Thanks again for your advice, and I will let you know what happens def.

tippytoe1981

I definitely agree with pinkpanther- you and family first, and jobs last.  yes income is important, but this time in your life is priceless (or any important family occassion) and if they fire you over that, then they may have had it out for you in the beginning.  so many times we get caught up into trying to please our bosses and companies, but when something goes down, they won't look out for us and they will let us go, no matter how loyal we were to the company. no matter how many hours we've put in, free overtime we've worked, nothing. i've seen it happen numerous times, and no i'm not saying disrespect your employer, but you should tell them that you can't stay late if you don't want to, especially when it was on such short notice.  maybe you can tell her that you never had an issue with staying late, but you had other obligations that had already been previously planned.Good luck!  I'm sure they won't fire you though...