5 Days to go and Pissed off At Fi...

Christynah

Fi  really does try to do good things like he cooked me dinner a couple fridays ago for the first time (very sweet).BUT!! Today he made a mistake and used dishwashing liquid instead of dishwasher liquid in the dishwasher. So then of course suds and water went all over the kitchen floor. So logically I would think he would grab a mop to clean up the mess. Nope instead he grab the wash towels I bought him to wash his body with. I'M SO PISSED AT HIM RIGHT NOW!! Because now I will not use those towels now because they have been on the floor. This is something he used to do at his mom's house which I HATED.So of course when he told me he did this I went off, and when I go off he goes off too because I'm mad (which is a whole other story). Anyways, I'm about to marry a cave man and that makes me want to cry. Oh side note we don't live together and we never have for the whole 7 years we have been together. So this is all new to the both of us.Thanks for listening to me vent.I will prob delete this post.

trlee26

Take a deep breath. I know it's not my bath towels being used to clean up the floor but once you've had a moment to cool off you'll realize how funny this situation is. I think it's great that he even made the effort to do the dishes. I can only imagine the look on his face when he saw all those suds everywhere...LOL! As for the towels, unless your floor is dirty which I have a feeling it's not just wash them in hot water and laundry detergent with some bleach (color safe if not white towels). Just think about all the towels that you use in hotels or even beach towels you dry off with that have been who knows where. You'll be fine and if it's still too nasty for you to deal with you got yourself some new car drying towels. Your man is trying and that is a blessing. One day you two will look back on this and crack up laughing. Make sure you tell your kids too. I still love hearing the story of how my Mom made some burnt chicken that was raw in the middle that made my Dad sick...LOL!

Christynah

Trelee,LOL!! I needed that, you actually put a smile on my face with your post. You are so right about the hotel towels I didn't even think about that. I will do what you suggested when washing the towels. And your poor dad. lol!!This is all a learning experience for me and I guess I really need to learn how to pick my battles and look at things in a more positive ey  like the fact that he was trying to do a good thing by washing the dishes. I feel bad now. Believe or not I was actually crying over this earlier. LOL!!  

proverbs31bride09

  Awww, it will be fine. Plus, more things are bound to happen that he will do that will piss you off so you are right about learning to pick your battles, and be careful not to nit pick at him especially when he is trying. Lot's of times it easier for us as women who are use to a certain way, and use to using certain towels for certain things, and certain products for certain things. Many men don't think twice about things like that or truly don't know better. I seen my mom get frustrated plenty of times with my dad over what seemed like to me little things although to her they were big things. I understand now because my soon to be husband has done little things to irritate me but then I have to remember that at least he is trying. I know some people with boyfriends/fiances/spouses that don't even bother to try.

alfdallas21

O-M-G, girl you had me over here about to buy a airplane ticket to where ever you are at because I seriously thought FI did something terribly wrong to you...BUT after reading this post 3x I was LMBAO!  Now don't get me wrong I totally understand (as a woman and a wife) where you are coming from but on the real that ish is funny as hayle cuz I could picture suds and water flowing from the dishwater and your FI not knowing why it's happening and what to do about the spillage, so he grabbed those wonderful new towels you bought thinking that was the best thing to do at the time - NOT!  ;)Please don't take this to heart at all, you are just stressed because the wedding is on you now, any little thing can set you off but before you go THERE - BREATHE and COUNT DOWN from 10 and then THINK.  That way you will be able to react better than just being emotional about the situation initially.Now this story will be a classic for you and FI to share with your friends, fam and kids as the years pass and trust you will look back on this and L - Your - BAO too!! 

Christynah

LOL!!! @ Alf, you are so funny! I know I overreacted. Thanks again ladies. I have a long ways to go. I found that I have not only learned a lot about Fi over the last 11 months of planning this wedding but I have learned a lot about myself as well.

trlee26

I'm still laughin about suds everywhere...LOL! You were probably extra stressed since your big day is right around the corner. Your husband will make mistakes and so will you. I'm still trying to live down shrinking my husbands linen shirt. Laughter is a great stress reliever. Living together and being married is an adjustment and "it ain't all roses" but it sure can be a mishmash of all kinds of goodies and the more laughter the better. BTW hubby tried on that shrunken linen shirt and we laughed for about an hour. He looked so silly. Shirts and towels can be replaced but love is worth holding on to in spite of dirty towels and mini shirts. Best wishes to you and your FI on your upcoming wedding! When you start to get stressed just think about that man standing in a puddle of suds...LOL!

Lovie 129

There will always be a "BUT". If you have never lived together the transition will be interesting. Question, are the towels that important or do you want him to be more like you, respecting things given to him? Men rarely have a concept of stuff like that, they grab whatever closest. To make it so you don't end up on a newspaper front page, ask yourself this...Is it that serious, will it change my life at the end of the day? If the answer is no, say your piece, make a drink, and put your feet up.Besides, when there are no more towels for him to dry with, he'll get the picture, LOL.Have a great evening!

brobin01

awwww   I totally understand your frustration girl. Men do the craziest most stupid things. We do things that aggrivate them as well, so it is what it is. I say, try to take a deep breathe. Go to your car, take a walk and calm down. It will all be okay. Just add it to the lists of arguments that will come later on down the line...at least that's what I do! LOLBaby girl, you will be a bride in 5 days!! 5 days!! that is amazing..focus on that sweetie.But girl vent to us! that is waht we are here for!

trevette1981

This won't help, but I did the same thing when I was about 17.LOL. Things will get better. My sweetie and I don't live together and we learn new things about each other, like this, all the time.lol It's funny...after the fact.lol

tamtam7

Chrisynah, I have been trying to gather my composure before responding to this thread, but I can't it's just too funny.  I keep seeing the visual of the suds and water everywhere.  It's like something from a tv sitcom.  LOL.  (please don't get mad at me for laughing) And the sad thing is, I can see my FI doing the same thing...the EXACT same thing, and I would be just as pissed off as you.  I do think it is great that your FI attempted to wash dishes and cook dinner.  He sounds like a keeper!   I think you guys will be fine and I am so excited for you that you only have five more days before you become a MRS.!!!!

Christynah

LOL!! The more I read your post ladies the more I laugh about it. I actually called him a few mins ago and told him I was sorry for getting so upset with him about it and that I didn't even look at the good deed that he was trying to accomplish. But he was half sleep so he prob didn't even hear me , so I will make sure to tell him again when I see him.It's amazing how like one of you ladies said "how stuck in our ways we get" I'm so used to doing things my way and my way only it's hard to think otherwise. Well anyways I will get a good laugh about this later down the line.Also that was funny about the linen shirt! I can picture that!

KimRhone

Lmao. I'm sorry for laughing because I know you are pissed off but it really is funny. My fi likes to seperate the clothes for me before I wash them (which is really nice) but he doesn't know which is light, dark or white. When he takes his socks off he balls them up and puts them in the laundry. Then when he gets in the shower, he just stops out of his drawers and leaves them in the middle of the bedroom floor instead of putting them in the hamper. Would you like for me to continue? Lol. We all have been through it or are going through it right now. You will get used to it and it may bother you but you will eventually get used to it. It comes with being a wife!

MrClintonsFirstLady09

It's no need to delete it. It was the heat of the moment and now that you have calmed down I know you are now laughing at this post. Just wash the towels really good and they will still be useable. I know your FI is like why is she so mad over these towels. LMBAO @ you calling him a cave man. He's not that, you are just going to have to be patient with him (and believe me that may be a difficult thing) but he will adapt somewhat to your way of doing things and you two will be just fine. Girl I thought we had to suit up and come get your man or something lol.

KimRhone

Steps*** sorry for the typo

meccaj

This is funny because we go through this stuff all the time. he would cook and make a mess in the kitchen every time. @ least ur FI tried to clean u p. another story was yesterday he asked me to cook this chicken so i said cool but bring home the chicken now i asked for a specific chicken of course he brings home the wrong chicken. so when  he comes home i flipped b/c i'm like this not what i asked for... i was so upset... he was like what is the big deal its just chicken n he got a deal on it... girl when i tell u i was hot!!!!...i wanted to throw it @ his head but now just writing it i am lol... its a part life but i wouldn't want to go through it with any other man!!!

brobin01

its the next day and I am still LOL!! Alf, I thought he had did something terrible as well and then I read it I was like wow...that's all he did!? LOL

Christynah

LOL!!! I know it is funny, now that I read it. But at the time I couldn't see beyond what he did. Last night he texted me to let me know that he washed the towels and they don't look like they were used on the floor. So yes I overreacted because he really is trying to help.

dst10spr97

Girlfriend breath. Remember this and it will help you get through "men don't have good sense half the time and they never will". Girl they will do some crazy mess trust me. Sometimes I want to put mine out. He still has his house in Miami. Hayle I told him last night we can get married and just visit eachother every other weekend. I said when we were dating I hated when I couldn't be with him and used to hate to see him go. Now I'm like don't you wanna go home. LOL He said this is my home. Girl get used to it. You just have to reprogram him once yall move in together.