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Why does everyone stand???

Why does everyone stand when the bride is walking down the aisle? Does anyone know the real reason? We've all seen videos of weddings and when the bride walks down the aisle the videographer can't get a full shot of her. I was thinking of putting in my program to please not stand when the bride walks in b/c I want to see myself on my video. The only other option was to hire 2 videographers to get several vantage points. May I get some help please.

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    edited December 2011
    Oh!! this is right up my alley! I am having my pastor make an announcement before the wedding starts so that people do not stand up. It's just tradition, but it's ok to break it. I have seen this done PLENTY of times.
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    missjones2009missjones2009 member
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    edited December 2011
    I've seen people put "please do not stand" in the program. I think like Brobin said it's out of tradition. I was going to have my guest stay seated, but one day while looking up why people stand i came across an article about how alot of people don't respect anything anymore---standing for the bride is out of respect for her, and the couple doing something honorable that is seemingly rare in this day and time. So they got me with that one, and I went ahead and had the guests stand. I didn't have a professional video person I was a bride you can't see walking at the top of the aisle--i'm sure a pro wouldve moved or had a second shooter to capture it then edit the video. It's not such a big deal b/c since we also have photos of it...
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    edited December 2011
    awww damn..miss jones you just had to come and put that up....got me all thinking about changing my mind and stuff...darn you! LOL
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    Panda16Panda16 member
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    edited December 2011
    Check out this article, it's pretty interesting about this exact topic... and the author is pretty revved up about it!http://www.pittsburghwedding.com/planning/articles/33/1/Wedding-Etiquette---Stand-For-The-Bride/Page1.htmlPoint is, he thinks it's the tradition of giving the bride her moment in the spotlight (which I agree with).
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    Panda16Panda16 member
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    edited December 2011
    I tried posting the link but apparently, it's not working... but here's the article below: -------My experience in officiating as many as 12 weddings in a month has given me a unique insight into wedding etiquette. Some of the trends today concern me, because it appears that people are not very interested in showing respect to other people in ordinary social situations. Either that, or they just have not been made aware of how their behavior impacts other people. I've heard it said that when courtesy is eroded, civilizations decline. That is an interesting thought. In many parts of wedding ceremonies I'm a non-conformist. I like to take old traditions and put them into new forms, if the content is truly meaningful. However, I'm very, very old fashioned regarding the entrance of the Bride. I believe that everyone who is physically able, should stand when the Bride enters. Why? There are a number of reasons. This is not an empty tradition that is observed just because everyone else has done it. In the first place, it shows respect for the Bride. Every woman deserves to have at least one day in her life where she is the center of attention and people give her the respect that all of us would like to have. We should stand because she decided to honor the institution of marriage. In this society, a couple does not have to get married. So, the fact that they are honoring marriage is meaningful and should be honored by the guests. We should stand in honor of marriage itself. We should stand to teach our children that there are things worthy of being honored, even when they don't understand it. We should stand because we spend too much time sitting, watching entertainment, or other things. We need to get up on our feet to honor something besides a football touchdown. - Chaplain Dan Jenkins, Heaven's Touch Weddings
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    edited December 2011
    nope..the link works...darn you too Panda! now I want everyone to stand.. lol
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    Panda16Panda16 member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't really know the reason until you asked the question and I read the article. The Chaplain makes a good point. Also, I don't want to feel as if I'm looking down at people. I want to look at those people who helped me become who I am eye-to-eye.Don't worry, I'm sure you'll have guests with camcorders or cameras who will try to sit by the aisle so you can see yourself walk. I want people to stand
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    missjones2009missjones2009 member
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    edited December 2011
    lol BrobinPanda thats the exact article i read too.I'm not a spotlight type of person, so I wanted them to sit just so I wouldn't seem like  i'm a big deal.but when you think about it, marriage is a big deal... and you are the bride :)definitely do what you're comfortable with.
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    edited December 2011
    It's supposed to follow the etiquette that when a woman enters the room you stand. It's to show respect to the bride.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm like Brobin now, it's mandatory that everyone stand, LOLI guess FI may need to increase video budget (I'm peeking out the corner of my eye so I can duck the "damn you woman" look).Thank ladies. I'm sure I'll have a bunch of other questions since my wedding isn't until next yr...but I feel I'm moving a bit too fast on some things and slow as molasses on others.
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    trevette1981trevette1981 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, I didn't know it was some sort of tradition. (Not that I'm a traditional girl in all senses, just some.) Most of the weddings I have been to, they put in "Do not stand up." so it's not a big deal to see it. (but then those sam weddings have the registry inserts, so The Knot would have a comment about them.LOL) I personally don't like the standing part, because not everyone can see her. I see better when everyone is sitting, standing, I'm trying to look around folks and through cracks.lol I'm 5"4".LOLWhen it's my turn, I don't want anyone standing. Now, they have to be quiet, but they don't have to stand.
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    edited December 2011
    It never occurred to me to not have people stand.  I want to be honored on that day so I wouldn't dream of not having people stand.
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    edited December 2011
    I've never seen please don't stand in a program before but it is an excellent idea.  Although, I kind of like the idea of everyone standing for ME!!  I also like "becasue i want to see myself on the video"  I'm sure all of your guest will get a kick out of that! lol
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