My horrible wedding day (long)

kia_9162002

Hey ladies, I got married back in August and I finally got enough courage to post about it. It was one of the best and worst day of my life. My FI family really showed there a**. I basically was up until 4 o'clock in the morning the night before with my MH and one of my several BM doing last minute things. When in actually I thought I was going to have a surprise Bachelorette party which never happened. Well fast forward to my wedding day it took damn near all day to get my hair done. My FI sisters were 2 hours to late to the salon but I wasn't really trippin about it. I was still trying to get programs done which took me forever. My phone was blowing up none stop. My FI sisters decided they had to run all over the city of Miami because they forget to buy/ bring whatever they needed. It was a really big headache. On top of that it rained all day long. So, with all of those frustrating the thing that really winded me is my FI mom called him and told him straight out that she isn't coming to wedding because he one of his sisters does not have a dress. That really hurt my husband. Well when the ceremony started my family was there in support and my FI side was damn near empty and his mother was no where to be found. The ceremony was beautiful by the way. So there after my H broke down into tears, and that was the sadest thing I ever seen. Not too mention the night before people were calling to RSVP and we accomadated them and they never showed up. What a day that I will never forget. Sorry about the long vent

MrClintonsFirstLady09

Girl I was reading this post and literally felt so bad for you. I am sorry that everything was not what you wanted but look at the positive of it all, you married the man you love and who loves you. At the end of the day that is really all that matters. girl this post made me sad.

luvelynic

Oh hun I'm sorry to hear of this, but like the last post said you set out to marry your man and you did so. So that's all that matters. The post did make me sad as while but at least you got your husband in the end. God bless love!

ddyoung

Awww honey we are going to throw you a bachelorette party! or a newlywed party i guess... I'm so grateful you took the time to share it with us so we can uplift you and remind you that out of all that, you said "the ceremony was beautiful."  And the ceremony is where you married your man, it was the most important part of that day.  You may look at it as the saddest thing you ever seen, but for you to be there for your FH on your wedding day when he was so upset just set the tone for your marriage - it really is just you and him and you are going to be there for him through it all! It only gets better from here :-)I hope your honeymoon went well!

winter443

Girl I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you!  It's a shame that other people took away from a very important day for you.  I'm sure your MIL will regret that she didn't come. But the main thing is that you married the man that you love and now you really know that this marraige is about you two coming together in spite of things happening around you.  Always stick together.

mahoganieyes

So sorry about how things went. At the end of the day, I wish you & your husband many blessings! Congratulations!

tamtam7

I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you.  But like pp said, you married the man that you love and at the end of the day, that's what is important.

braxtongirl

The echo everyone else - The ceremony was beautiful and that is what matters. Have a good life together with yo man girl!

Mypasmita

So Sorry Girlie! Thank God Fi has you since his family is flacky and i am happy you were there for him. Congrats on your wedding day and i am happy you had a beautiful ceremony, but most importantly, you married your man!

KimRhone

So I'm over crying (which is no surprise bc I cry for everything). I can't believe that they did that to him and you. At least you two got to enjoy your wedding together and that is something to be happy about. Sometimes your family treats you worse than you friends. I just hope you guys can move past it and be happy.

alfdallas21

kia, girl I as I read over your post I was just so hurt for you and your DH...there's no way to replay and maybe correct the events that happened BEFORE the wedding but you said it yourself "the ceremony was beautiful"...that is something that your MIL, SILs and anyone else from DH's family can take away from you and DH - a wonderful ceremony uniting you to your DH for life!  you were there for DH when he was at his lowest and that is something that he will ALWAYS cherish because you could have reacted totally different as though the day was all about YOU but you didn't do that, you knew how special the day was for him too so your heart was broken because his was broken, y'all were as ONE which is ultimately what you both were there to achieve....CONGRATS girl on becaming a new MRS and DO NOT LET WHAT OTHERS DID steal your joyous ceremony! Peace and many blessings Kia!! 

HisWifey82

Man, that almost brought tears to my eyes. I feel so sorry for your husband...how could his mom not show up to the most important day of his life. Thats a low blow and something that is almost unforgivable. Hopefully he will truly be able to forgive her one day... I know this must've been hard for you as well, cause as a wife when our man hurt we hurt....Sending you knottie {{{hugs}}}}. But like PPs have said, the most important thing is that you married the man of your dreams and had abeautiful ceremony. Congratulations and thanks for sharing!!!!!!!!

Lovie 129

I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you and hubby. We are hear for you, vent as long as you need.

RAJAH

I am truly sad after having read your post. I must say the most important part  of the day went off the way it was supposed to. I am just sorry that people cant get past themselves so that you can have your day. I truly hope that things get better as far as the relationship with the in-laws. I will say if you and your DH got through that . . . you have blessings coming your way. Its great to see you back. . . take care.

KJDIAMONDS

Hi KIa ~ I'm so sorry you had to deal with people who are selfish on your wedding day. I know they were hurtfull and disrepectfull ~ please remember your wedding was still lovely and amazing and the most important thing is your married a wonderfull man! All this wedding drama will only bring the two of your together.....on another note I had simular issues with my DH's family prior to the wedding, his mom tired to pull the I can't afford to come to the wedding - so we would pay for her hotel room. Then 2 days prior to the wedding. his aunt invited herself and 4 other guests....among other things I let all that go, my wedding was still lovely, I was dissapointed by 'new family members dressing up for the wedding and then dressing down for the reception' I had to let those bad feelings for his family go -- in the end due to his family acting dumb before the wedding, it only brought us closer together!! And I know you and your DH are closer and stronger couple for going though this on your Wedding Day So please fill us in, how was the Reception, do you like your picutres?? And don't be sorry about the the so-called vent, you are just sharing your hurts and we are here for you!! xoxo Mrs. Sullivan

missjones2009

Some people just don't know how to not be selfish--I'm sorry you were put through that on your wedding day, but glad you ended up having a beautiful ceremony. I hope things are going well now for you two in your new life as husband and wife, that's all that matters!!!

ishawnamcm

Hey hon. So sorry to hear that dh mom and sisters were the biggest dissappointment of the day.  I too had similiar problems with dh sisters. Like evryone said you have what matters most EACH OTHER!! Thru this whole wedding process I learned others will never take your day as seriously or respectfully as you would. I say keep it moving b/c u cant change the past, I pray u & dh dont remain bitter.  Let your love see y'all thru

MIABRIDENTAMPA

I am so sorry about DH family. However, God has sanctioned your union, let no man tear it apart:) Blessings to you and your new hubby!

OFF

I can't believe that people can be so selfish and self centered. That people can't come together forget their own pettiness and share in the joy of the occassion. Don't even think about it anymore. The important this is you guys got married. Everything else is just something to laugh about in 5 years.