So my great aunt is one of my favorite family members. I wanted her to officiate but my grandmother would have two babies as she is very involved in her church and would think that she should be the person officiating. How do I have my great-aunt do anything if I don't have anything planned for my grandmother. It's not that I don't love my grandmother, it's just that she's a showboater and somewhat of a religious zealot. She will turn anything into a long-winded story (that might not even be true) and then end it with a bunch of religious stuff that me and FI do not even believe (we are not her religion). Do you guys have a suggestion about how to involve my great-aunt if my grandmother simply sits? BTW, what's worse is that they are not sisters. My great aunt is related to me *by marriage*.