Am I wrong? LONG....

the cat

This all started the beginning of this year. The OG's will remember this dilemma w/ my BM dresses. They cost $130 and 2 girls missed their deadline for free alterations. I sent them to this lady I've been knowing for quite some time. I worked with her DH. Long story short, she did the alterations THEN told me the price...MORE THAN THE DAMN DRESSES COST!!!! I chatted with her and she agreed to slash the price A LITTLE. My sister still owes chic $$$$. My sister fell on hard times and the lady let my sister pay for my niece's dress and pay later for hers (my sister). The lady called me a minute ago (not the 1st time she's called me) and left a message. Y'all know I don't answer #'s IDK! The message is kinda salty. She said she understands my sister fell on hard times etc....she knows where my sister can get a 'lil job so she can pay me'. She tried contacting my sister to no avail, etc....bottom line - she wants her $$. This is where I need to know if I'm wrong. I wanna tell her I am not my sister's keeper nor are her debts my responsibility. I didn't not 'co-sign' on these dresses. I took my sister there b/c I know this chic sews like it's nobody's bitness. Now that my sister owes her, she's starting to come at me a lil sideways.

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Hey Cat!! I do remember that situation. Know I don't think u r wrong at all and u know I would tell u if I did !!lol I think the lady needs to contact ur sister even if she gave her the dresses on the strength of u that is still on her ( ur sister)! Bitznezz is Bitsnezz!! She may have to eat it, if ur sister doen't pay!!Sorry is what I would tell her....there is nothing I can do or I will let my sister know!!

missevans

I don't think you're wrong at all.  I would politely tell her exactly what you said, that your sister's debts are not your responsibility. I would suggest that she try contacting the sister and cease with the salty azz messages to you.  Further, if the sister fell on hard times, chances are the money that comes in from a "lil' job" will not go to her first.  I'm sure that there are more pressing issues for your sister.  This chick is unbelievable.

Ladysun083

umm, you already know what im going to say! YES let her know that YOUR sister owes her the money not YOU and leave it at that. you didnt sign any contract saying you would cover anyones cost, she made them for your wedding but she did business with them, some nerve of her after the heffa quoted you a totally different price.  I was wondering whatever happened with that.

alfdallas21

yep, I agree with er'body else...and no you are not wrong for contacting the seamstress and advising her (1) you appreciate the update on the situation and have passed the info to your sister (2) the arrangement for payment was between your sister and the seamstress NOT you (3) you understand she wants what is due to her per their arrangement but she needs to contact your sister directly going forward and not you.

blue19violet

Yep, remember it. Alf noted it perfectly. I'd also add getting in touch with your sister and telling her to woman-up. You don't wanna have to be bothered for her BS.

mandikaykay

The words were taken right out of my mouth, refer her to your sister, it is a verbal agreement between them.

KimRhone

You aren't wrong. You are grown just as well as your sister is. This lady should not come at you sideways at all and you should tell her that.

ishawnamcm

I agree with the pp.  But what gives??!! What makes this woman think she can approach you with someone's else debt? That's like someone from ur job calling her saying her dh didn't finish his assignment.... We gots to do better as a people.  I know you will handle this as need be since you never know if you might need her again since her skills are so on point.

Deidra123

It's your sister's responsibility.  But the fact that she is calling you probably indicates that she did it for your sister as a favor to you.  Since your sister has fallen on hard times, I would say, she did the work for your wedding, if you have the money, maybe just pay her yourself.  She kinda pulled you and your sister out of a lurch.

the cat

D- you're the odd woman out, but I feel you real strong. I had the same thoughts at one point. And truth be told, I prolly will end up paying this heffa cuz my sister has a lot going on. Not before I let homegirl know my thoughts though. She seems to think she can say certain things cuz we 'cool like dat', but we not so cool where she wouldn't charge me out the azz for some alterations. I talked to my sister today and she was surprised the chic called me with that. Like Miss Evans said, paying her aint first on the list when she DOES get some ends. I'll NEVER use her again. Nor will I send her any business cuz she too damn high. And had the nerve to say 'we' don't like to pay for good work. WE just didn't plan on paying more for a hem and taking in the bust than for the whole darn thing. Then to be stalking me behind her money? Heck...I think I just talked myself outta paying her a darn thing! Right is right though. I just wanted your thoughts on where my responsibility in this whole thing stopped. Thanks y'all. U always come through.

Lovie 129

I see why she is contacting you....you began the initiation of service. It was not a bad thing, but it has become uncomfortable. Unfortunately, you are guilty by association. The seamtress is looking to you to fix her issue with your sister just as you looked to the seamtress to fix your issue with sister's debt. You both were wronged...you, of your good character b/c your sister is behaving irresponsibly, and the seamtress b/c she has not been paid for her services. I do understand hard times, but a bill is a bill, and services rendered need to be paid, no matter what it is...pay $10. per wk if need be. Not paying at all is tacky and rude, and avoiding a debt is worse. If you want to maintain your business relationship, you may want to pay the debt if your sister can't. You may need the seamtress before your sister will, you never know. Sorry if this sounded a bit harsh.

the cat

Awww Lovie....girl where do I start with you? LOL! What'chu talking bout 'guilt by association'? Please take this with a grain of salt cuz trust me...I'm laughing the whole way through. You didn't sound harsh at all. I can't be overly sensitive for you giving me your thoughts. Hell...I asked for it! Me bringing my sister there is no different than bringing her to Wal-Mart. If I know Wal Mart has nice shorts, I bring her there, she makes some sort of deal with the mgr and doesn't come through, I don't expect the mgr to call me cuz I brought her there. Same thing to me. I know the chic does alterations, I sent her there...end of story. I made no deals with her. I used to use this chic when my son was little and I stopped b/c she had gotten too expensive. That's why I haven't gone back since - and this was years ago. Sis asked if I knew anyone and that was that. I do agree not paying people is tacky. I also think it's tacky to call people's sister and momma looking for your money when it's not them that owes you. Chic made a bad business deal by giving her product w/o payment first. Like I said, I'll prolly pay the chic..not cuz I feel guilty or responsible, but b/c my sister owes her money and I'll be helping my sister out. I felt a lil sticky about the issue at first, but the more I thought about it and talked it out, the less sticky I felt. I didn't ask for or expect any favors from this woman. But like I said, my sis is my sis and I'll problaby rescue her from this debt. Family WILL put u in a bind huh?!

Deidra123

Cat, I hear you.  Maybe your sister will feel more obligated to you than to her?  Maybe make an arrangement for your sister to pay you back over time?

Lovie 129

LMAO Cat....you are so right. The lady was wrong in going service w/o payment, no dough, no sew. Oh, well, blood is always thicker than water. Hope all works out.