African American Weddings

Thanksgiving Blues!

  The holidays are approaching and so is the drama. My FI and I are torn about thanksgiving. My family is really small, my mother is single and my sister has moved out of state, which leaves just me and my mom for the holiday. My mom wants to cook a huge dinner for just us two. This makes no sense to me. I love my mom to death, but the holidays are usually sad and boring. My mom is a stubborn loner!  My FI's family does it big on the holiday, they are so much fun. They have offered for my mother to join them on the holiday; however my mother doesn’t want to join in because my FI's family is Apostolic and she doesn’t share their beliefs. I told her they are nice people and she would really enjoy herself, she doesn’t care. She is dead set on cooking this huge meal and renting movies to watch for the whole night. What should I do?

Re: Thanksgiving Blues!

  • edited December 2011
    first off, GIRL WHERE YOU BEEN?!?!?!!!...hahaha ok now down to bidness - your momma (sorry, I'm from the south and we say momma...LOL!) sounds like she's having "lonely nest syndrome"...and hey who wouldn't, her babies are all grown up...have you & FI thought about going over to your momma's for like the 1st part of Thanksgiving - shoot the breeze with her; watch a movie or play a game of spades; eat alittle and then BEG (even if it's not necessary) to take some of the food home with y'all to eat on for the rest of the week...then by 4pm or so BOUNCE and go over to FI's family's house and rock out with them (cuz you know it's gonna be on an poppin' when the sunset and the family stories start to get told...well at least that's what my fam does...LOL!)???
  • edited December 2011
    I would go with FI's family.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree with Alf go to my mom's house 1st then go to FI family house.. This is way everybody will be happy and you and FI will be full..LOL!!
  • trevette1981trevette1981 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Alf, go with mom for half and his family for the other half, if y'all are near to her. What is your sister doing? Do you have any aunts or uncles who could come too?
  • edited December 2011
    Agreeing with others...If you can...do both.
  • edited December 2011
    Do both if you can.  You never know, she may see that the two of you are compromising and maybe she will do the same and join you two over FI's family house.
  • edited December 2011
    Can you divide between both houses? Have "no thank you" portions at your moms and throw down at FI fam, that way all are happy.
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