Need some help with figuring out our readers

BmoreBride311

It's that time that my FI and I should start picking/asking ppl to be readers. For those having readers, how did you choose them? Are they family members or friends? How many are you having? Have you selected the readings they will do?

Our families are so big, that it would be difficult for us to choose a family member to do a reading, b/c we would have to NOT choose so many others, and I'd feel bad about that.

Also, random question: A large portion of my FI's family and some guests are native Spanish speakers and are not very fluent in English. We are thinking about doing a reading in Spanish. Would this be weird, given that the rest of the ceremony will all be in English? If we do it, should we have a reader read it in English and then the same passage in Spanish, or just do completely different readings in English and Spanish. There will also be a lot of bi-lingual guests that I don't want to bore.

michelle11988

So far we have only asked one, my cousin's girlfriend and we are going to ask my FI's aunt who happens to be his godmother.  I'm not sure if we have a 3rd reading, in that case we will ask my uncle.  It was somewhat simple for us to pick because the priest told us they all had to be confirmed adult catholics to do reading, which disqualified a lot of people. We were supposed to work on the ceremony last night, instead we spent all our time on Etsy and Oriental Trading.

I think doing a reading in Spanish would be really nice.  You can always pick one of the traditional readings like love is kind, love is patient, and do that in Spanish since a lot of people know that passage.

Amanda1443994

We're going to have two readers. We chose one of my male best friends and my Godmother. My group of best friends are 4 guys and I originally wanted them to be my 'bridesmen' in a way, but they felt awkward doing that. So instead, we picked one of them to be a reader so that he can be involved. The other guys didn't care because they hate speaking in public. My Godmother has always been a major part in my life so I knew I wanted her to do it. My FI didn't want anyone on his side of the family so he didn't care. We have only selected one reading so far, and it was a reading that was done at my parents wedding 34 years ago.

And I think doing a reading in Spanish would be great! I just attended a wedding back in March where the brides side was Spanish and they did a reading and a few speeches in Spanish. Everyone thought it was nice.

colleenm18

We are having three readers.  My two cousins who I am very close with and FI one cousin.  My godmother and his aunt who he is very close with will be bringing up the gifts. 

Since we are having a catholic mass one of the requirments is that you must be catholic to do a reading and since FI dads family is not catholic that helped us narrow down our selection. We just went with people we wanted to be involved in the wedding. 

k8888

We're having 2 readers... both are 2 close girlfriends of mine that I'm not close enough with to ask to be BMs, but wanted them involved in the wedding.  FI didn't have anyone else he wanted involved with the wedding, otherwise I would have let him choose someone.

I think have a reading (or some other things) in Spanish would be a great idea and wonderful way to incorporate the different backgrounds of your families into the ceremony.  I say go for it.

mbody

We haven't met with our minister yet to go over the ceremony so I'm not quite sure how  many readings we'll have. If we have two, I think we're going to ask Paige's God daughter and I'll ask a friend. The friend I plan to ask is getting married in October- I'm a bridesmaid in her wedding, but she isn't in mine. So, that will be a way to involve her in my wedding as more than a guest. Otherwise, if we only have one reading, I think Paige really wants to ask his gd.

mekiakoo

We are having 2 readers. FI's grandfather and my uncle. It was an easy pick- both mean a lot to us. They are picking out their own reading (from a list) and we won't know what they'll say until the ceremony. They're pretty excited about this.

I think you should do it in Spanish- it sounds nice!

bells24412

We are having 3 readers one is my Godfather who I am extremely close to, and the other 2 are cousins of my FI that he wanted them to have a part in the day.

bridetobe71412

We're having three readers - One for Old Testament reading (Genesis), read by my fiance's friend/groomsman; one New Testament (Corinthians), read by my Uncle (who was my Dad's closest brother and who is a Presbyterian minister); and the Intentions ("For those who are sick, we pray to the Lord . . . ") read by my fiance's work best friend who is one of our only practicing Catholic friends.

My fiance got to pick two because my Godparents are the gift bearers, but I got to pick first which one I wanted my Uncle to read. He got the best one.

I picked my Uncle because he was very close to my father and I probably would have asked him regardless of whether or not my father had passed. Religion is extremely important to him and I have had many, many great conversations with him over the years about my father. He's basically like my second father, even moreso than my Godparents, who were a total trainwreck after my father passed away.

I know fiance picked his friends because he wanted people who were somewhat religious to do the readings as well as people we'll be close friends with for years. We were going to ask another friend of fiance's but he wasn't able to get into Philly on Friday for the rehearsal (he lives in Nashville) and I really wanted everyone who was doing a reading to be present for the actual Rehearsal. Call me Bridezilla.

Re: Spanish reading - I think that would be SO cool.

elizabethmae315

Our two readers are 2 of my college roommates. I lived with a few different people, and so this way I could incorporate people I love without having 12 bridesmaids or something ridiculous.

butterflyjumper1

I think we will probably just have two - one that I pick, one that fiance picks. I don't think there are any problems with offending people by picking who is closest to you. 

I think it would A M A Z I  N G to have Spanish readings - that is an absolutely fabulous idea for you.  I think having one person read in English, then one person read the same passage in Spanish, would be really meaningful to your guests and be cool for everyone to experience.

BmoreBride311

Thanks everyone! So I think we'll definitely do at least one Spanish reading. I just have to decide now if we'll have that same reading done in English and Spanish, or just one language, with the translation in the programs. Hmm something to think about...