Hey Michelle. I didn't get an opportunity to respond to your post. I'm real sorry to hear about your loss. I'm not sure if you received the advice you needed regarding a unity candle, but I think that if you DIY your own that would be a lot more special. Let me know if you need any coupons. I get coupons from Michael's all of the time. One knottie on here did a beautiful candle with rhinestones all around and a ribbon in the center. I believe her name is Neasy and her post was Unity Candle. You may want to do a search and check that out. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and wish you and Von much peace through these very difficult times.