Questions

Soon2BSand

I'm bored... and I have tons of questions floating around in my head. Let's play a game to get a discussion started. I'll pose a question and you can answer.

To start:

Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourselve, or are you letting others make them for you?

Soon2BSand

To answer...

For the most part I am making the decisions myself. I can't say that some of my decisions aren't greatly influenced by others (ie: my kids) but I can with confidence say that I'm doing things on my (and God's) terms now.

dlthompson22

I have been making all the decisions myself for this wedding. FI gives input but he is like whatever you want just do it. Occasionally I may ask someone(TK"s)  their opinion but its been Me, Myself And I.

Baesmom

Im making 98.7% of the decisions.. The FI is helping with some or i go to my mom with the ones he doesnt care about.. (ie: aisle runners and decorating the facility)

Ksk2012

So years ago when we were first engaged and planning, my family was making all the decisions and we never got anything done nor did we get married.

Now, years later, I am making all the decisions myself. FI will watch a wedding show with me every now and again and chime in on what he does not like and what he does like.

I will ask my sis for her opinion but for the most part, it is all me!

djscat

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[QUOTE]I have been making all the decisions myself for this wedding. FI gives input but he is like whatever you want just do it. Occasionally I may ask someone(TK"s)  their opinion but its been Me, Myself And I.
Posted by dlthompson22[/QUOTE]

This! Cause in the end FI and I are paying for it all so I don't want any regrets.

missowens

It's mostly me.  FI says he doesn't have time to do the planning b/c he has to go to work and make $$$ for all of my wedding ideas   Ocassionally, I'll show or mention something to FI to get his opinion, but in the end it's still mostly me.

Soon2BSand

Ok ladies... Good responses! Next up: What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

My answer? Nothing. I'm content with the way things are going and have gone (no matter how much I didn't like them at the time)

dlthompson22

Run Off To Vegas Just FI and I to get married and then have a big reception when we returned. But my grannys last wish to have it in a church and follow Christian Beliiefs. So I will be abiding by that. I would also tell a bunch of folks (family and friends) to kiss it....

chescam

Have a destination wedding. Just the two of us with maybe our parents and siblings. That's it.

faithlady

First question: Mainly me with input from FI. I have been blessed with supportive friends and family who leave me alone when I say NO
Second question: Definitely a destination wedding. We'd love to get married in Jamaica or Tuscany. Run off, get married and come back happy

Fabbiegirl

My FI is the biggest influence on my decisions.  He had a hand in my dress, it being a destination wedding, the location, etc.

Dress:  He doesn't like the traditional American wedding dress, so I searched for something different.  Found a designer;  he picked 5 dresses he liked; and I picked from one of those.

DW:  He thinks 60 to 80 people are a lot of people.  Kept getting on my case about my family being invited and that we would have to serve them meat.  I finally said that it sounds like he wants to go off and get married somewhere just the two of us, and he said he did.  Bam, destination wedding.

Location: He didn't want anything touristy or just the resorts.  Wanted the real experience.  I searched B&B reviews until I got to a place where people said they love and it gives them the real experience. Booked it.

The destination:  He wanted to travel to a place that is influenced by African cultures.  (Me too as a matter of fact)  Picked Jamaica because the price was right.

In life, I let him lead in many decisions too because he has a track record of making good decisions, so I trust him.  He has helped to guide me in a more balanced direction which is what I needed.

bcbsbride

I would have a DW with just my parents, nieces and brother. I'm sick of everyone's opinion. FI and I would come back happy without any stress from planning.

Soon2BSand

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[QUOTE]My FI is the biggest influence on my decisions.  He had a hand in my dress, it being a destination wedding, the location, etc. Dress:  He doesn't like the traditional American wedding dress, so I searched for something different.  Found a designer;  he picked 5 dresses he liked; and I picked from one of those. DW:  He thinks 60 to 80 people are a lot of people.  Kept getting on my case about my family being invited and that we would have to serve them meat.  I finally said that it sounds like he wants to go off and get married somewhere just the two of us, and he said he did.  Bam, destination wedding. Location: He didn't want anything touristy or just the resorts.  Wanted the real experience.  I searched B&B reviews until I got to a place where people said they love and it gives them the real experience. Booked it. The destination:  He wanted to travel to a place that is influenced by African cultures.  (Me too as a matter of fact)  Picked Jamaica because the price was right. In life, I let him lead in many decisions too because he has a track record of making good decisions, so I trust him.  He has helped to guide me in a more balanced direction which is what I needed.
Posted by Fabbiegirl[/QUOTE]

wait is he saying your guest list is too high because you have to serve them meat or that its too high period? How many of the 60-80 are your family already?