Need Advice Ladies, Please help...

dlthompson22

The more and more I think about this wedding im thinking of going to vegas or a destination wedding. I would have a MOH,and two bridesmaids and FI would have a BM and two groomsmen. Hire a reverened for ceremony and then have a reception back home.

Do any of you ladies have any recommendations? Pros vs Cons?
TIA

sweetjess2011

~How far are you in the planning, will you lose alot of $$
~When is your wedding date, will you have enough time to plan

I think destination weddings are fine, its your day you do what you and FI want to do!! Good luck

BlissPhilly

Pros: Your sanity, having to still live ($$$) after the "wedding", Still marrying the love of your life.
Cons: Other people "opinions" (only if you care)

Ky925

 I guess things to consider would be how much money you have already put out, but if that doesn't matter to you then I would say go for whatever will make you and FI happy it's your day!!  I wanted to do a destination wedding from jump but FI wanted a big party with alllllll his family.

dlthompson22

In Re:
How far are you in the planning, will you lose alot of $$-
~When is your wedding date, will you have enough time to plan

We will lose only about $1000 dollars
The Wedding Is Next year 09-01-2012. Im still a year out so hoping I can pull this together. Just started to llok at venues today.

vfriday

I had to weigh in since I just got married in Vegas.  It is not as inexpensive as you might think.  Because wedding is attached, the price of everything is higher.  We spent about the same amount of money in Vegas that we would have spent at home.  The upside is the number of guests.  We wanted small and intimate and that would not have happened if we did  it at home.  Destinations are an expense for your guests, and if you plan the AHR be prepared for many people to only attend the reception.  Also, think about your bridal party it is a huge added expense for them as well. 

Also, what is your reason for changing your mind?  If it is dealing with all the personalities and opinions, a DW will not end that especially if you are having the AHR.  DW can be just as much work as a traditional wedding/ reception.

wallacje

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[QUOTE]I had to weigh in since I just got married in Vegas.  It is not as inexpensive as you might think.  Because wedding is attached, the price of everything is higher.  We spent about the same amount of money in Vegas that we would have spent at home.  The upside is the number of guests.  We wanted small and intimate and that would not have happened if we did  it at home.  Destinations are an expense for your guests, and if you plan the AHR be prepared for many people to only attend the reception.  Also, think about your bridal party it is a huge added expense for them as well.  Also, what is your reason for changing your mind?  If it is dealing with all the personalities and opinions, a DW will not end that especially if you are having the AHR.  DW can be just as much work as a traditional wedding/ reception.
Posted by vfriday[/QUOTE]

I agree with much of this.  We were going to do our wedding at home but we started looking at the number of guests, venues and cost.  So we decided lets go to the place we LOVE, so why not Vegas, its not $1200 plane ticket plus hotel, etc..  Didn't really get too much mouthyness about us moving it but I didn't care either way, now we have our closest family and friends and not the other folks.  In the end moving it to Vegas saved us about 50%.  It still stressful to plan but for me while I've been stressed (overthinking) I have a friend that is getting married on the same day as me and she is about ready to pull her hair out with all these things that I don't think matter for a DW.

But in the end make the decision that's best for you and your FI, you only get "ONE day!!