Hating on No Shows

tychandler

It's been a month since my wedding.  While I had an amazing day, I was truly disppointed at the number of no-shows.  I had about 20 in all and get this, almost all of them were local.  You have people who traveled from all over, and these local folks couldn't get their butts to the wedding.  I had one table of 12 that had just 2 people.  My uncle and his daughters, my first cousins mind you no call no show.  What gets me about this, none of these people have called after the wedding to even say they are sorry for not making it.  I know I'm going to be pissed when I see these people, family or not they cost me some serious money.  One cousin, I know he is avoiding me.  I was leaving my aunt's house the other day I guess as he was coming in.  I didn't see him, but he told everybody he saw me but I was pulling off. I'm like you better be glad I didn't see you.  I just feel like I'm going to be giving these people the side eye from now on.

PB-Bride2010

I had some no shows as well and I know you're hurt and it cost you money....But let it go and move on it's their loss and you're wedding was still shared amongst those who truly loved you and wanted to be there!!! Hang in there :-)

Carla1019

I agree with PB, you can't let them cause a grudge in your heart. I posted months ago how a close friend of mine did a no-show, no call to her co-worker's wedding. Her reasoning was that by the time she realized how dead tired she was from working all day it was too late to call and cancel.

I like to believe that most people have every intention of coming but for whatever reason don't, and they assume your busy getting ready and a call to cancel might upset you.

I'm a big believer in not wasting food so I can understand your feelings. Be the bigger person and kill them with kindness, I'm sure they heard how amazing your day was and they missed out.

shesheduke

Ooooooh chile I know how you feel. I had a few people call afterwards to apologize one girl called and said she was pissed caused she heard how nice it was. As if it was wack she wouldn't have been pissed that she missed it after she RSVP's? WTF some people just suck be glad you had a wonderful day and enjoy the people that did attend with you!

tychandler

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_hating-shows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:2b9acfd4-130d-4e74-8c60-2ac07009cd45Post:891e5aa4-8175-4482-bb5d-e6ffb238f174">Re: Hating on No Shows</a>:
[QUOTE]Ooooooh chile I know how you feel. I had a few people call afterwards to apologize one girl called and said she was pissed caused she heard how nice it was. As if it was wack she wouldn't have been pissed that she missed it after she RSVP's? WTF some people just suck be glad you had a wonderful day and enjoy the people that did attend with you!
Posted by shesheduke[/QUOTE]

I think I would feel better if they at least called and apologized for missing it, give an excuse or make up some sh*t.  These folks didn't even do that.  We are talking about close relatives who live right here in the city.  I heard that my uncle called my aunt that day and said he didn't have a suit (BS), but he never reached out to me or my mom.  He RSVPed for 6, at 100+ a plate that's a lot of cash.  Did I get a card, hell no.  I can't help but feel like screw 'em. 

Kedeisha8

I had the same about 10 no call no show but the wedding was still great nonetheless