The Saga Continues!!!

pawdap · April 2010

Hi Ladies,

I don't know if you a remember my ast post about my friend whom I've known since junior high who hasn't offered her assistance on anything. Well, she called me on Monday stating that she needed talk to me about something. So I'm thinking Here We Go!!. Well anyways, I went to Starbucks and and sat down with her. She saying a lot of things that were hating a** comments. She has issues in her relationship but basically wanted to say that myman is a mystery guy and that he's holding back on information. Mind you swhe has not had a conversation with him. So how would she know. She is miserable in her life she married her highschool sweetheart didn't go to college like I did and instead had two kids. Also, can I mention she had an affair. So she was saying we are a private couple and we have plenty of time to spend time with each other. WTF!! Um, if I want to spend time with my man, I should be able to. OMG! She even commented on how I never watched how much sugar I would intake. Um, chick I am trying to live a heathy life unlike your a**. Basically, everything that came out her mouth was hating. I told FI and he is extremey upset. He does not want her in the wedding or even there. everyone I spoke with was ike kick her out. The conversation we had was supposed to be 30mins but ended up being 2.5hrs. she was even crying! WTF?? So I got on her about not helping. She made excuses about that. So Monday I wil stop by her house and tell her that FI and I wil not feel comfortable if she attended. I will basically cut my loses. everyone says when you plan a wedding you see who your real friends are. I already replaced once girl now I have to kick another out. I don't even have a large party just 5 total. If me and FI are the ony ones standing up there so be it!

angelajerry813 · April 2010

I am sorry that you are going through that right now. It does sound like she is jealous but she may just need someone to talk to since she is unhappy. However, with you planning a wedding, you are not the one she should be complaining to. I hope you find a replacement that will do what they are supposed to do for your wedding. I will be praying for you.

MrClintonsFirstLady09 · April 2010

Ok....... wow!!!!!! I remember that post. I am sorry you are going through all of this.

Remember the old saying "misery loves company". Well she is lonely like a summa bish in her life. Paw, I am going to tell you plain and simple, cut your ties with this chick and K.I.M.. You have a wedding to plan. The last thing you need is stress. Real friends do not do what she has done. Maybe she is jealous of your life and what it has become but she had the power to change everything in her life and she chose something else. So since she is miserable, you are suppose to be miserable with her? And why would she try to put your man on blast like that? Even if he did have "secrets" or is "withholding info" what makes her place to tell you about it? And what's up with the side cracks about your intake of this or that? What's that about? SMDH

Like you said, if in the end no one is standing at the altar but you and your man, really that is all that matters. No one needs this type of foolishness at what should be the happiest moments in your life right now.

If you plan to tell your friend in person that her attendance is no longer required, I say make it really brief. Do not render any further explanations and therefore you will avoid confrontation. Because just as sure as you step to her and tell her that she is no longer apart of your day, it is going to be drama.

Keep us posted on what happens and please don't cut her. My wedding is around the corner and I am short on bail money.

eagles347 · April 2010

This makes me sad. I know that not all relationships are built to last, but I still hate to see long-term ones come to an end. Are you hurt about going through this with two friends, or just angry? Usually when someone has been in your life for that long without you wanting to cut ties earlier on, something is going on to make them act out of character...that something may be temporary or it may be something that they actually need your help with. In addition to talking to your fiance', if you are a praying person, maybe that will help you to find some peace with the situation and be sure that you are making the best decision for you and not just an emotionally charged one.

Very sorry you have to deal with this now.

desi2002 · April 2010

Yep wedding make people show their true colors, I wonder why that is....? You are better off anyway, you don't want the drama on your day. Misery loves company, so she just wants you to be miserable like her. Don't fall for the hokie doke!

tamtam7 · April 2010

I hate this girl....no, I don't hate her, but I hate the way she is acting. I agree, weddings do bring out your true friends. I have found that to be true in my experience. If she is going to be a hater I say cut your losses. You don't need that stress and drama on your special day. Why can't people just be happy for us. It seems like when our lives are all phucked up you have more friends than you can handle, but for some reason when we're happy they're ghost. I'm with mrclintonsfirstlady...Keep it Moving to the K.I.M.

cincy2011 · April 2010

Sorry to hear that your friend has flipped on you. I would agree that you need to whatever you need to do in order for your wedding to be comfortable, fun and happy for you and FI. If that means she's out, so be it. Sorry you have to deal with her drama!

OFF · April 2010

You're doing the right thing. Better to cut her jealous butt lose now rather than have her bring down the energy of your other BMs and ruin the whole thing with her sour puss attitude. One thing I will forever grateful for is this wedding showing me who has my back and who can just back the F off.