Guests posting wedding pictures to Facebook

Ksk2012

So I do not want pictures of me on my wedding day posted to facebook, for a couple reasons.
1. Everyone is not invited to the wedding
2. Sometimes the photos people take on their phone is unflattering and it is stuck in cyber space
3. A wedding seems so personal, much too personal to post on FB
4. I have control issues

So I found this working that I was thinking of adding to either our programs or the table numbers.. not quite sure yet

"Thank you for sharing this intimate and joyous occasion with us today.  Because of the sentiment this day brings to us, we humbly and kindly ask that no pictures of the ceremony, bride or groom be posted on any online social networks." (found on weddbinebee website)

What do you ladies think?

Soon2BSand

Go for it. Be prepared for it to be ignored or not seen altogether though. People in general don't read. Lol @ control issues

kthowell

ummmmmmmmmm honestly if i seen that i would roll my eyes....but its your day i say go for it..............and I think because i am fine with being posted on fb because of the ppl that i  couldnt invite can kind of be apart of it......

Sophia1913

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[QUOTE]<strong>ummmmmmmmmm honestly if i seen that i would roll my eyes....but its your day i say go for it</strong>..............and I think because i am fine with being posted on fb because of the ppl that i  couldnt invite can kind of be apart of it......
Posted by kthowell[/QUOTE]

This was my thought exactly.  We have such a small party that a majority of my friends, sorors and coworkers weren't invited and I know that if these pics aren't posted soon after the wedding, there will be a hit out on me.  I even have a friend that jokes that she got married just for the sake of putting the pics on FB <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> But getting back to the OP, I think it might be difficult to enforce seeing as how to seems like people post any and everything on social networking sites these days, I mean people might be tagging pics while they are still at the darn wedding, however like PP stated its your day and all you can do is include it and hope people will be respectful of it.   Although you can control what's on your page, I think it might be a little much to try to control what others do on their page.  Just my 2 cents....

Misskin

I am open to my flicks being posted on FB....I sure the people who werent invited or unable to come would love to see the pictures.  Just like when someone has a baby....I can't wait to see them and usually FB has it first.

People/Guest are going to do what they want. Do you not want them to tag you in the photo? Do you mind if its just on their page?  You can always delete your page...but I dont think it is that serious.  You should be excited to let the WORLD know you married your love. You will look beautiful and love will show in the pictures.

At the end, its your choice. However, I wouldnt put that in the programs(its kinda tacky)

mandydc0509

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[QUOTE]<strong>ummmmmmmmmm honestly if i seen that i would roll my eyes....but its your day i say go for it..</strong>............and I think because i am fine with being posted on fb because of the ppl that i  couldnt invite can kind of be apart of it......
Posted by kthowell[/QUOTE]

Ditto <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

Elizabeth80

You could request not to be tagged in photo's of the wedding. In eitger case I might adjust my privacy settings to review pics/posts I'm tagged in. *As a side note you might find guests taking memorable pics your photographer missed. So maybe tgere can be an alternative site for guesrs to post pics on. Like a closed group just for the wedding.

happe2gether

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[QUOTE]You could request not to be tagged in photo's of the wedding. <strong><font color="#3366ff">In eitger case I might adjust my privacy settings to review pics/posts I'm tagged in</font></strong>. <font color="#3366ff"><strong>*As a side note you might find guests taking memorable pics your photographer missed.</strong></font> So maybe tgere can be an alternative site for guesrs to post pics on. Like a closed group just for the wedding.
Posted by Elizabeth80[/QUOTE]

Exactly this!  Though I understand you side.  I definitely have people I know that I am not inviting to the wedding so I feel ya!

chescam

I think people will ignore it. I don't like people posting photos of me on facebook and I was worried about this because my hubby is the total opposite. He has over 1300 friends and I didn't want everyone to see our wedding pics. Anyway my bridesmaids gave their cameras to family and friends and then complied and uploaded the photos to dropbox. This worked out perfectly for me. Our guests captured some very candid photos and they definitely held us over until we received our pro pics. My friends who did post photos to facebook only posted 1 or 2 photos of the wedding and I was cool with that.

ellone400

there is a option on facebook that if the pictures dont belong to them facebook will removed them ive had facebook remove pictures of me  that someone posted in the past

Ksk2012

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[QUOTE]I think people will ignore it.<strong> I don't like people posting photos of me on facebook and I was worried about this because my hubby is the total opposite. He has over 1300 friends and I didn't want everyone to see our wedding pics. </strong>Anyway my bridesmaids gave their cameras to family and friends and then complied and uploaded the photos to dropbox. This worked out perfectly for me. Our guests captured some very candid photos and they definitely held us over until we received our pro pics. My friends who did post photos to facebook only posted 1 or 2 photos of the wedding and I was cool with that.
Posted by chescam[/QUOTE]

Thanks ladies.... this is the problem me and Fi have.. he befriends anyone and anything! His facebook page is a mess!

mahoganieyes

You can set your profile to only you can see the tagged pics, unless you guys have a common friend then the posters friend can see them. It worked for me because my coworkers and, some hs buddies did not see them.

mikimoto6

We had a very small wedding and surprisingly, nobody posted pics on Facebook except my photographer.  Only people who were friends with him were able to see his pics.  I didn't have an issue about pictures being posted, but it was a non-issue since none showed up.  

My husband is not even on FB.  He doesn't think he needs to be.   

M1ssJ

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[QUOTE]<strong>ummmmmmmmmm honestly if i seen that i would roll my eyes....but its your day i say go fo</strong>r it..............and I think because i am fine with being posted on fb because of the ppl that i  couldnt invite can kind of be apart of it......
Posted by kthowell[/QUOTE]
This is my exact first thought. Just be prepared for it to happen regardless. I completely understand your reasoning but you know how people are and they may not read it or think "Whats the big deal". The only way you can really ensure it wont happen is not to invite anyone who is into those sites. In some ways it lets thos that werent invited see your day and you also can untag or ask for unflattering pictures to be deleted

mrswac58

I am actually with the OP. My Bridal shower was yesterday and I had my sister ask that that Pics not be posted to FB until i said it was ok.I also want to do that for our wedding. Its a very personal occasion to me and I want to be the one that shares all this with everyone. So far, everyone was cooperative in not posting. I posted on FB that anyone with pics could email them to me so I can make One big album. I dont mind people posting pics of me ,BUT I do know people that will post pics as they are happening and I just dont want that. 

NOW, with that being said, I agree that many people don't read.So be aware of that. What if you put them near the guestbook table or where the progrms are as sinage or something. I think, as a guest, I would be more inclined to read that than something that was in program. That's what Im concidering 

RealHappyGal

I am a major FB user and poster, tagger, status updater, ect and if I am asked not to post or tag I do not.  Eyes might roll but, id like to think most people would comply

Ksk2012

Thanks ladies.. my facebook is already set trump tight for privacy. I just know I can always see a picture if someone comments on them.. like the other day I saw a picture one of my friends commented on of a guy who is not my friend. He got some new hair cut and she said look's nice and I saw her comment and his photo... I was who is this dude and why is his hair cut in my update!

So I guess  I will keep my privacy settings as they are and I will talk to FI about updating his. He is so funny because he will go one FB like once a month talk about some hip hop song or the Lakers and that's it. So I need for him to update his privacy settings.

Next, one of the photographers that I interviewed request that I made it clear at my wedding, it was to be unplugged. Meaning no cell phone pictures and such, while she was taking pictures. I think we talked about the Unplugged wedding here on this board before. People have signs usually made to inform their guest of this. I was thinking of putting something on the table. Gosh this is too much.. I have a love hate relationship with facebook. It is a blesing and a curse! LOL

kaimah

I would prefer people not do it, but I know it will happen. I hope I luck out and get a few great pictures out of it. 

djscat

Photos and comments of our wedding were put on FB before we even got to the reception.  LOL

I didn't mine though.  I now have more pictures. 

faithlady

I wouldn't eye roll it. I mean it really is such a simple request and if that is what the bride wants I don't see why anyone would consider it such a difficult request to honor. But I'll join in with others in saying find alternate ways to ensure your guests know this other than just the program cause yeah...folks don't read...

keysmit

I think people should respect your wishes, but as everyone else mentioned, guest may ignore that.. Um, if you have a wedding page you can put that on there as well.. My friend put something like that on her wedding page.. But I agree it is very private day.  Let us know what you decide..