Final Count vs No Shows

M1ssJ

The Knot ate my post. How many ppl would you married gals say were a no show. I;m thinking of going 5 under on all of my counts. The last weddings i went to had double digit no shows. Such a money waster!

MrsJenrette

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[QUOTE]The Knot ate my post. How many ppl would you married gals say were a no show. I;m thinking of going 5 under on all of my counts. The last weddings i went to had double digit no shows. Such a money waster!
Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]

I actually had to add people to my list in order to make the minimum for my room... in all there were only about 4 people that said that were coming that ended up not making it. So.. it wasn't really a loss. When my sister got married though... she ended up paying for 30 plates of food for people who said they were coming but just didn't show. I had a buffet wedding.. so it wasn't really that much of a hit to our pockets.. cause we just notified people that it was a buffet, and they could go up as many times as they wanted to (some people when up like 3 times).. so our food went.. My sister's was plated so.. there really wasn't much you could do ... I know one thing though.. the serving staff ate VERY well at her wedding!..lol

footballwife77

wow! I remember another woman on here got married when I was just coming on and if I remember correctly something about her coworker was having a party the same day she was having her wedding and she had about 40 some no shows
I'm hoping everybody come otherwise i'm unfriended their butt! i'm taking it 100% personal. lol

MsAmeera25

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[QUOTE]The Knot ate my post. How many ppl would you married gals say were a no show. I;m thinking of going 5 under on all of my counts. The last weddings i went to had double digit no shows. Such a money waster!
Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]

We ended up not having any no shows, we had a few ppl who came and left after dinner older ppl but no real no shows. I was actually surprised. Our final #'s weren't due until 3 days before so the ppl who we thought were iffy we called and verified they could make it some said no so we just didn't count them. We also tried to do the minus 5 ppl thing but the venue wouldn't let us. They only put the exact # of chairs out. So we had to tell them which tables had how many ppl etc. 

Jana711

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[QUOTE]The Knot ate my post. How many ppl would you married gals say were a no show. I;m thinking of going 5 under on all of my counts. The last weddings i went to had double digit no shows. Such a money waster!
Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]
 LOL, I typed a reply to this last night and wondered what happenend to it!<div>
</div><div>We had 177 guests that responded Yes to the RSVP.  I am sure that we are not the norm, but I just counted and we had 34 no-shows. Yes, 34.  Granted about half of the people let us know a few days before the wedding that they weren't attending and the rest just plain ol' no-showed.  It still pisses me off how folks have no regards for other people's money when they do that.  And some of the no-shows were people that have planned weddings for themselves and their children so they KNOW how important it is to get an accurate count.  Shoot, I'm still mad about that!  A few sent really nice gifts so that made it a little better, lol.</div><div>
</div><div>Fortunately,  the chapel and the dance floor were both packed and everyone had a great time so we really didn't notice the amount of no-shows until afterwards.</div><div>
</div><div>I would plan for 5-10 no-shows and it's definitely smart to invite extras just in case.</div>

sheikscorpio88

I was thinking of doing the same thing. I definitely dont want to pay for people who will not show and we lose out on that money.

M1ssJ

thanks ladies for weighing in! I think I'm going to steal MsAmeeras idea and call the iffy folk 2 weeks before. Which is about when we'll make final payments. 

Jana I am so sorry about that wasted money. I feel mad for you!

I'm with football.... I will not be friends with those ppl. I will take it personally.... I am just sruggling too hard right now for them to waste my money!

kaimah

174 final count, 14 no-shows, 1 crasher 

M1ssJ

ooo K how did you deal with the crasher? How did you know they were there?

pearls687

We had 4 no-shows, and 1 person that left after the ceremony so for the purposes of wasted money, it may as well have been 5.  We had to give the exact count for chairs, covers, and place settings.  Even though the number of no-shows was small by comparison, I NOTICED.  But I'm frugal, so there's that......  lol

20pearls16

I had 5 no shows but I gave a count of 5 less so i was right on point. We had a cocktail reception so we didn't have assigned seating per say.

kaimah

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[QUOTE]ooo K how did you deal with the crasher? How did you know they were there?
Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I knew he was a crasher because I did not invite him and I saw him at the Church. I got married in Raleigh, NC, the crasher lives in Cleveland, Ohio. I let him come in because we had no shows. BUT MISTAKE.....he ordered 3 beers at the time so he could pack some in his car for the drive back to Cleveland. He yelled at the waitstaff because I closed the bar during dinner. Hot mess</div>

Misskin

We had 4 as well but I found out later a few groomsmen wanted more food so those plates went to them. No money wasted I suppose!

mahoganieyes

We had between 15-20 no shows and 4 crashers.