Why do some people think that their advice... (long)

Ciaram22

is always the advice you should take? I have a friend on FB who commented on my status this morning about how I can spend my money so much better than buying a pair of shoes I really like. I had mentioned something that Randal got to buy the lightsabers that he wanted so I should be able to buy a pair of shoes that I want before all our money goes into saving for a house.She then starts telling me that I can't think of it that way beecause she knows that it will just end wrong. Mind you we didn't spend any money on each other the entire year we planned the wedding, other than on stuff we needed for the wedding. We know how to budget. We know how we work and there are some things that we each want to get before January when we stop spending money on ourselves to save for a house.It just irks me to no end that some people think that their advice is the only advice that you should be taking. Sorry just needed to rant. DH is at work and I'm here by myself all morning.

carrieoz_76

Yea, some ppl are just like that. I try (I think!) to not give advice unless someone asks for it. I mean, I'm pretty opinionated and I have lots of idea for ppl, but if they don't ask for them, then they probably don't want them. Unless I see someone in a really dire situation, and even then I try (again, I think!) to be really cautious in how I give my advice, and then I try to be done with it - no harping. Sometimes ppl don't understand the value of just doing something that makes you happy, and that that can really keep you going through the tough times.

Tygirljojo

The only person I would ever pull that on would be my little brother because...well, I won't get into it.  Plus, he's my little brother.  Friends?  Not so much.  Finances is a very sticky subject and can cause so many problems.  As PP stated, if a person asks for advice, great, give them advice.  But if I saw a friend post up something like that, I would figure they know what they're doing with their money as adults.  The only time I could see myself piping up would be in person if the person complains all the time about not having any money or being tight on bills but then spends money on non-necessities.  But honestly, even then, I probably wouldn't say anything.  Just avoid/ignore the person.  I say ignore.

cupcakepirate

I saw that, and thought to myself "Um... how ppl spend their money isn't any of YOUR buisness..." I agree with that if they are close family, then yeah, it's not totally offensive to say something. But friends, should just not open their pie holes about it. Especially if they aren't particularly close to you. I say take it with a grain of salt, because like Michelle said, she's probably just jealous that she doesn't have they money to buy something nice for herself. As I said on FB. You deserve them if DH is gonna spend nearly as much on toys. My DH has a tendency do blow money on dumb things like that, but usually counters with that I'm allowed to spend the same on something nearly as ridiculous. (Which I'm stacking all those up for... because I always feel guilty spending that much on myself.)

Tygirljojo

I just read the thread. Wow, she doesn't give up, does she?  I say ignore and give her some of her own medicine.  Give her advice on a personal issue.  Then again, as UW says, I'm a biatch.