My MOH is now MIA...

shaygray88

Ok so I told yall before about how I was happy wedding party issues. Well now I cannot seem to get my MOH to return calls or emails. She wont even facebook me ugh. I'm about done with this wedding stuff. I just keep reminding myself that it is about us being married at the end of the day. Also I am so looking forward to this honeymoon. Much needed!

nursing2u

did something happen???? why won't she even reply.. that is soooo  childish

shaygray88

no we just got her dress this week on tues. she didn't have a car then and just got one thurs.. ever since then nothing out of her.

nursing2u

maybe she is just excited about her car.. and has been out and about..

my MOH is very VERY busy with life.. and I know this.. but she does make an effort.. I had to learn to not expect her to change herself just for me.. you know.. it doesn't take away her love for me and her devotion....

I would say if nothing has happened.. just give it a few days.. I mean you said it was just thursday.. and it's saturday. .you know... but i know in bride english.. 2 days without a reply is like a month..lol...

shaygray88

lol right! im trying to chill out but she has taken on a lot of responsibility for the wedding(she insisted) and id like to know how things are going. this is why I didn't want to delegate tasks...

nursing2u

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[QUOTE]lol right! im trying to chill out but she has taken on a lot of responsibility for the wedding(she insisted) and id like to know how things are going. this is why I didn't want to delegate tasks...
Posted by shaygray88[/QUOTE]

you know what... I wanted my friends to be there and help with tasks..BUT they type of person I am.. (A-personality).. I would've been hounding them... NO LIE.. So I guess GOD knew and made sure they weren't there so I could rely on myself

LeciaB

that sounds like my moh..

MrsBad13

Aww,,Like Mari. said just give her some time. You know when you havent had a car and you finally get one thats a independence of waiting on someone else lifted off your shoulders. She is enjoying being able to just get up, hop in her car and go whenever she wants and not be limited on where she is going. She'll be calling you soon. Its going to be alright.

shaygray88

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[QUOTE]that sounds like my moh.. :/
Posted by LeciaB[/QUOTE]

not a good feeling...

shaygray88

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[QUOTE]Aww,,Like Mari. said just give her some time. You know when you havent had a car and you finally get one thats a independence of waiting on someone else lifted off your shoulders. She is enjoying being able to just get up, hop in her car and go whenever she wants and not be limited on where she is going. She'll be calling you soon. Its going to be alright.
Posted by MrsBad13[/QUOTE]

I can understand that. Thanks!

aquari0216

your wedding party is pissing me the hell off.....so serious cuz them mitches shouldnt have accepted the position if theres an issue.......you werent being a bridezilla were u? i cant c why theyd just do you like that.....cuz if these "friends" of mine do me like that....heads will be rolling

shaygray88

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[QUOTE]your wedding party is pissing me the hell off.....so serious cuz them mitches shouldnt have accepted the position if theres an issue.......you werent being a bridezilla were u? i cant c why theyd just do you like that.....cuz if these "friends" of mine do me like that....heads will be rolling
Posted by aquari0216[/QUOTE]

nope I gave them free reign on their dress, accessories etc. I didn't bug them during the whole holiday season about wedding stuff. I did ALL of my DIY stuff by myself...idk what gives

nursing2u

I really think u should just step back and give if a lil bit. I got great advice when I started getting the same treatment from my friends..this is OUR WEDDING.. not theirs.. and people are going to be people... this is ONE DAY.. Dont ruin years of a friendship because of one day... does it hurt.. ABSOLUTELY.... but take it in stride.. don't do or say something you can't take back... Do what works for you..

LeciaB

Not at all but the ladies have great advice I need to take it myself ... Let her come around I'm sure she will be there

LeciaB

Msnursing did you eventually have to remove people from the bridal party or did they come around

shaygray88

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[QUOTE]I really think u should just step back and give if a lil bit. I got great advice when I started getting the same treatment from my friends..this is OUR WEDDING.. not theirs.. and people are going to be people... this is ONE DAY.. Dont ruin years of a friendship because of one day... does it hurt.. ABSOLUTELY.... but take it in stride.. don't do or say something you can't take back... Do what works for you..
Posted by nursing2u[/QUOTE]

youre so right. im gonna give her time. I know where she lives lol

nursing2u

I have one that STILL doesn't have her dress.. she keeps saying she wants to b a BM.. AND doesn't want to JUST be a guest... I kept changing the deadline.. and it bothered me a lot.. my FI kept telling me to let it go.. and WHATEVER.. if she doesnt step up..it is what it is... My MOH I had to realize her heart is in it.. and that she is a VERY busy person as well.. I love my friend and this isn't enough to ruin our friendship... BUT.... it did open my eyes... And I had a friend that totally surprised me.. she always was there and always asking me if I needed help.. IG helped me realize what a great friend she is.. she said if I needed her.. just say the word... I asked her and she jumped on it.. and I am sooo happy..